Should You Regret Lost Connections?

Today, I received some really good news. My first instinct was to share it with my family.  But when I picked up my phone, I had to pause: who would I call?

It’s not that I don’t have a family. I do. Blood relations, aunts, first cousins…

But most of them live in other cities, and it has been quite a while since I met up with—or should I say, connected with—the ones who are here in Delhi.

No, nothing really ‘happened’: no bitterness/disagreements. It’s just that we have gradually… floated away from one another.

We’re busy people. Slowly, the busyness has overpowered our relationships.

There was a time when I wouldn’t think twice before ‘disturbing’ my brother or a cousin-sister in the middle of work/a movie/anything… I would simply call to say how excited/upset I was. Or even just to say, “Hi, I was thinking of you. How about we meet up for coffee?”

Now, the first thought that comes to mind is, “S/he would be at the gym/in office/trying to enjoy a break at home right now… I must not ‘disturb.’”


I wonder if one should feel wistful about all of this. I wonder if this realization dawns upon everyone who enters their forties. I wonder if this is just part of life, and one should simply accept it.

So, I swallow down the lump that’s formed in my throat, and dial the one person I know who will never be too busy for me:

My best friend.



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Jo S2 years ago

Thanks Shubhra.

Jess No Fwd Plz K.
Jessica K4 years ago

if possible, try to stay in contact with those who are important, but don't beat yourself up if you don't. The author seems to be doing that, and sometimes life happens. Just try to reconnect with who you can. Thanks.

Dave C.
David C5 years ago

thought provoking......

katarzyna phillips

a true friend you'd never drift away from. if you have drifted away from someone, there's usually a reason. and communication/friendship is a two way thing. they can get in touch with you just as much as you can with them. so question the friendship and if needs be, let it go

Joe R.
Joe R5 years ago

Call your family!

Susan A.
Susan A5 years ago

Sometimes I think friends are like soul family, because they are. It is good to have relationships with your closest relations, but..sometimes extended family like cousins, etc. have spread all over, and it's difficult to keep in touch with all. Article definitely brings up food for thought!

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal5 years ago

It is easy to drift away from relationships.

Martha Nieto
Martha Nieto5 years ago

So true. Life makes us drift away and we don´t do anything to stop it.
Best friends are the best, always there for me.
However, if I´m in trouble, my siblings will be the first ones to come to my rescue. I love them dearly.

Pogle S.
Pogle S5 years ago

Sometimes one just doesn't need them and at others one does, it's always best to keep options open and amicable :-)>

Kirsten B.
Past Member 5 years ago

Very true.
I've moved a lot during my life, so keeping in touch with people has been a way of life - wonderful for the ones who have time and reciprocate, and a sigh (and sometimes a tear) for those who then fall along the way.
But I'm building in more vocal contact with my immediate family now, rather than just e-mails all the time. E-mail can't replace vocal or visual contact fully.