Straight Women Have Fewer Orgasms. Let’s Change That.

It should come as no surprise that around 95 percent of straight men orgasm every single time they have sex. In contrast, only about 65 percent of straight women experience the same pleasure. Wow—that’s a pretty big gap.

But this isn’t true for all female orgasms. It’s interesting to note that 94 percent of women can climax while masturbating, and 86 percent of lesbians orgasm almost every time they have sex, so the issue isn’t with women’s overall ability to orgasm.

So why the massive discrepancy in orgasms for heterosexual females?

There are a lot of factors that could come in to play, but our outlook about our own sexuality could be a major factor.

In modern, heterosexual interactions, there is an expectation around a man having an orgasm. It is part of our definition of a sexual encounter.

The same expectation doesn’t exist for women. We tend to view female orgasms as a pleasant by-product of the sexual experience but not intrinsic to the interaction.

It might surprise you to hear that it’s not just poorly informed men who hold these beliefs. A lot of women actually see their sexuality in this way. A shocking number of heterosexual women don’t feel entitled to their own sexual pleasure during intercourse—which is why so few of us are having the regular orgasms we deserve.

Black couple hands pulling white sheets in ecstasy

When it Comes to Female Orgasms, Knowledge is Power

Apparently just understanding that there is such a huge  discrepancy between the male and female orgasm rate helps more women have them.

In a study published in the journal Sex Education, researchers compared the self-reported sexual function of 271 women, both before and after taking one of three classes. The first class was Psychology of Human Sexuality, which discussed the gap between heterosexual male and female orgasms. The second was Human Sexuality and Culture, which discussed sex more generally without going into gender dynamics. The third was Psychology of Personality, which wasn’t about sex at all.

The women who took the first class on the orgasm gap and gender dynamics in sexuality actually reported significantly improved sexual function once the class finished. They were able to communicate their desires more clearly, experienced more and better orgasms and even felt more entitled to sexual pleasure. The power of learning, right? This suggests that simply learning to reframe our relationship to traditional sexual narratives can improve pleasure for women.

The lesson here is that it’s never too late to learn more about sex and your own sexuality.

Even if you aren’t having orgasms now, that doesn’t mean you can’t have them in the future. Our desires and needs change a lot throughout our lives, and that one high school sex ed class simply won’t cut it when you’re dealing with more mature sexual issues. So get on Google, talk to a friend, buy a book or sign up for an online course. Information is sexual power.

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62 comments

Marie P
Marie P17 hours ago

TYFS

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Ruth S
Ruth S22 hours ago

Thanks.

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Ruth S
Ruth S22 hours ago

Thanks.

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Thank you

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danii pyesterday

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danii pyesterday

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Lesa D
Lesa D2 days ago

thank you Jordyn...

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Marion Morin
Marion Morin3 days ago

well

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Teresa W
Teresa W3 days ago

disgusting

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Linda Wallace
Linda Wallace4 days ago

Orgasms are certainly part of a great experience but most of us need the tenderness as well.

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