Surrender to Your Real Needs and Desires

When you first think of the word surrender, you probably associate it with defeat. This is a natural association from the egoís viewpoint. In any situation where struggle dominates, no one is acting out of love, and itís inevitable that only one side can win.

You only have to remember the last argument you were in to realize that arriving at a place of mutual love was the furthest thing from your mind.

But there is another meaning to surrender, as you can remember from the experience of falling in love. Falling in love allows you to surrender to what you deeply desire, not what someone else is trying to impose.

Spirit has no ulterior motives. It acknowledges the other personís need, but it neither takes responsibility for that need nor opposes it. In this way the other person is seen as real, because whenever you need something, your need is your reality.

A lot of the time we are lost in unreal needs. The absence of ulterior motives is what marks spirit. The neediness of an insecure ego doesnít get disguised by other tactics. When you are in spirit you donít feel the urge to manipulate, cajole, seduce, demand, beg, or insist. You simply allow, and in that you make an open space for love to flow.

Spirit never acts in a fixed way. In general, to hear that someone you love needs you does result in fulfilling the need. There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touch with spirit:

You donít oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put anotherís wishes on the same plane as your own.

These instincts develop and mature through surrender over the years. But these arenít learned responses. Love already contains them.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997)


Loo Samantha
Loo sam5 years ago


Duane B.
.5 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

janine k.
janine k6 years ago

Yes, let go let God is a very famous saying in the rooms of AA, Alanon, Overeaters Anonymous etc. When you are wigged out and controlling your obsession is futile, that is one of the things you say to save yourself from inherent grief! Go, let go.

Abbe A.
Azaima A6 years ago


Shirley E.
Shirley E6 years ago

One church slogan put it this way: "Let go and let God."

Helen Camren
Past Member 6 years ago

Surrender, how awesomely sweet.

That's what I did over 3 years ago when I was dying, deeply in debt and in almost unbearable physical pain.

I had done my own thing, was living in defiant sin and trapped.
Even my counselor told me I was trapped. And I was

So I finally came to Yahweh through his son Jesus (Yahshua).
I said, "Ok. My way is killing me. My way doesn't work. From now on it's YOUR way. I'm going to do what you tell me to do and I am going to trust you."

Again I sent my cry to heaven, "Deliver me. Deliver me. I cry unto thee by day and by night, Deliver me."

I heard a voice "I will. And that soon."

In two months he had me out of that white slavery where I had been stuck for 4 years. He healed me of diabetes, serious nerve damage that I was told I'd have to live with, (Pain killers did NOT work), two teeth decaying on the inside were going for the nerve. xrays before and after. They were healed. The pain all went away. I'm 79 this month and I am still free of pain.He
also got me out of serious debt and into a life that I love.

I did not go to a tv preacher. It was just me and God, alone, in my home.

There are xrays and proofs in doctors and dentist office. The dentist told me it was impossible for the inner decay to be healed. The xrays proved it was. The doctor said "You're a success story. We don't get many of them. To what do your attribute your healings?"


My prayers are answered so often I remind my LORD every now

janine k.
janine k6 years ago

NIce comment Arthur. ;)

janine k.
janine k6 years ago

Irene, finding our desires is wonderful. IF they are available. Seems availability is elusive at best. Wow how NY has changed since 9/11. Lived here all my life, I can't even begin to tell you what happened to this place. The land of the Free and the Home of the Brave has taken on something we are all not sure about anymore. We will rise above.

Gaby D.
Gaby D6 years ago

G'odmorning Deepak, one beautiful post today...and such wonderful comments to follow! "There are certain loving instincts that come naturally when you are in touchwith spirit:
You don’t oppose. You put feelings over results. You want to help. Service gives rise to feelings of joy. You put another’s wishes on the same plane as your own." This rings so many bells for me - it's like 'bingo, bingo, bingo! It's funny that's how I've felt all along - and of course, there are those days that my ego gets into the way with little tidbits like..."Yeah, but when am I ?? or what about me?" But, usually giving without any 'need' for anything feels right and even makes you feel whole. It's from the heart that we live and give, unconditionally. Spirit leads the way! @ Ron...tried to send you a green too many this week....tks....for one of my favorite bible quotes! @ Janine K. interesting to read your comments from 2009 to now....Love doesnt' ever end, it's endless ...just changes form sometimes!! Thanks to you all for your comments; a day full of food for thought and a happy heart!

irene fernandez
irene Fernandez6 years ago

Finding our real core desires is the real task