10 More Tips for Living in Balance

Clearly, the art of living in balance is not a simple thing, or else it wouldnít take me two blog posts and 20 tips to share. Itís kind of like a buffet or store, where different tastes make for different choicesóbut the goal is to get what you want and need. So, here are 10 more tips to keep in your pocket.

1. Be nice. Niceness is not overrated. People who are not nice create lots of unnecessary misery for themselves and others. Niceness, on the other hand, creates tons of extra joy. In fact, right now, I am really looking forward to seeing the guys in my usual parking garage in NYC (havenít seen them in a month). Because Iíve been nice to them, they are nice to me, and we start our days when we see each other with a jolt of joy.

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2. Believe in karma. If someone is not nice to you or does something bad, let the universe dole out the punishment. Itís not your job, so donít waste time on it. There is a peacefulness that comes from believing that the only actions you are responsible for are your own.

3. Be strong and courageous. Just because you are nice and believe in karma doesnít mean you should let people push you around. Know what you want, believe in yourself, and have the courage to make it happenóor go get it. Donít let fear stop you!

4. Reward yourself in good ways. My favorite ways to reward myself are a monthly massage (Yea! I made it through another month!), pretty jewelry that I can pass on to my daughters one day, and free time to do whatever I wantÖthatís my favorite of all, and also the hardest to come by.

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5. Laugh a lot. This cannot be overdone. I can make almost anything seem funny if I think about it enough. I love to laugh, and I get even more joy from making others laughÖI think it comes from the fact that I used humor to diffuse tension in my childhood. But hey, it worked.

6. Stop reading or watching depressing or violent things. Really? Is that really necessary to your life happiness? Iím not talking about news. Iím talking about fiction. Entertainment. Find other ways to get a buzz, but stop getting it from other peopleís pain and misery.

7. Examine yourself and your past deeply. If you are not happy, get therapy. If you are stumped about something, ask an expert. I just read two books by Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child and The Body Never Lies. Both books offer amazing insights into why things happen to us and how we should think about them.

8. Try new things. You actually get a hormonal boost whenever you try something new. So take a trip somewhere youíve never beenóeven if itís down a new street. Try a new activity, or take a class in something youíve always thought about. Read a book or watch a show that teaches you something new. Try a new food. You may not like it, but you will like the new knowledge it has provided for you.

9. Allow yourself to feel desire. I have to admit, when I read stories about women who donít feel desire, I thinkÖis there something wrong with me? I think sexual desire is the creative life force that is the fuel for almost anything great. And yes, it is all in your head, so think about it. A lot. Itís free, itís awesome and itís good for you. Revel in it. If you need a jump-start, read a romance novel. Any religion or person who tries to deny or suppress desire almost invariably ends up in tragedy (I wonít list them all here). I believe that the God who created this universe created sexual desire as a very special gift. Use it appropriately.

10. Be grateful. Every night when I go to bed I thank the universe for all my blessings. I ask for guidance, too. But mostly I just feel thankful for my husband, my children, my family, and my home. After all, everything else has just a fraction of importance compared to those things. And maybe thatís what people are talking about when they wonder how I do it ďall.Ē† (I put that in quotes because I certainly have a GIANT list of things I havenít done yet that I want to do). I know whatís truly important and what isnít. And for that, too, I am grateful.

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Thatís what the art of living in balance is all about.


Patty Buxton
Patricia Buxton6 years ago

This are great ideas, but not always easy to do. It is so easy to get caught up in the "rat race."

Debbie W.
Past Member 6 years ago

That's my clue, shutting down for now ... (make that INDIVIDUAL) ... sorry again, 'nite.

Debbie W.
Past Member 6 years ago

Dam ... make that INDIVIDAL dots ... sorry.

Debbie W.
Past Member 6 years ago

Hate to be the wet blanket here, but ...

in our world of imbalance at all levels, creating the possibility of this concept to fruition on a grand scale will remain "the impossible dream" ... if and until reality makes its reappearance OR all individuals trying to make it happen somehow connect their indiidual dots for a greater good. Just sayin' ...

Renya S.
Renya S6 years ago

great article

Sonny Honrado
Sonny Honrado6 years ago

Nice to practice just don't let others take an advantage on it.

Patricia G.
Patricia G6 years ago

Thank you for sharing this. Lovely, beautiful, true. May the Universe bless you *

Fadia C.
Fadia C6 years ago


Roxana C.
Roxana Cortijo6 years ago

Great tips. thanks.

Jaclyn Svarrer
Jaclyn Svarrer6 years ago

Excellent tips. So vital to our happiness, our wholeness.

Peace & love.