When to Let Go

At those moments when you are most afraid, angry, stubborn or mistrustful, you are in the grip of unreality. Your ego is forcing you to react from the past, blinding you to new possibilities here and now. Fear, anger, pride and distrust are forces with no spiritual validity.

A mind that is desperately holding on says things like:

  • I hate this. It has to end.
  • I can’t stand it anymore. If this keeps up I’ll die.
  • I canít go on. Thereís nothing left.
  • I have no choice. It has to be my way or else.
  • Youíre all wrong.
  • None of you understand me.
  • You always treat me this way.
  • Why do you always have to do this?

There are infinite variations on these statements, but the underlying feelings are remarkably similar. You feel you canít cope anymore. You feel boxed in. You feel you wonít survive. You feel that something bad always happens to you. These feelings give rise to the rigid, contracted state of resistance, disallowing the reality that good things can happen any time.

Sprit has a good outcome for any situation, if you can open yourself to it.

A key word to holding on is always. ďAlwaysĒ is never true; reality isnít a vast, fixed scheme trapping you without choice. At any moment you have the choice to break out of what is really trapping you: Your automatic reactions dredged up from the past.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1993). Reprinted by permission of the author.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1993).


Sue Harrington
Sue Harrington5 years ago

Finally, one I understood and needed to hear, thanks.

Mary B.
Mary B5 years ago

Statisics and polls are a record of what people thought at a given moment in time, yet too often, they are treated like unchanging 'facts'.You'd think we'd learn by now, that data collected a year ago is already out of date. Even data from last week has shifted.People who always look to the past to predict the future will miss present trends. The past is un-reality, especially when the viewpoints are based on falsehoods to begin with.

Vicky P.
Vicky P5 years ago

easier said than done

Ken W.
Ken W5 years ago


Richard T.
Richard T5 years ago

thank you!

Cassandra Fountain

Great eye opener! Thanks and I'll keep it in mind.

Shalvah Landy
Past Member 5 years ago

Very true!
Claire too bad you did not 'get it,' I hope you do soon. You will then see how it was your 'ego' writing that comment!
Any REAL situation we come across is open to our interpretation. Of course we should protect ourselves physicaly from a physical threat, however if you then go arround telling this story of YOU being THEIR target ALL THE TIME, that would be ego talk.

Miranda Parkinson

so true!

Ram R.
Ram Reddy5 years ago


Leena K.
Leena K5 years ago

true, thanks.