Why I Love My Gynecologist

It’s an awkward topic, I know. But I am so filled with love for her that I just have to share my thoughts. To me, she represents the ideal of what a doctor can be, and that’s pretty important. Especially because, for us women, our gynecologist is the doctor we see most in our lives. She is with us for the most important moments (the birth of our children), and looks out for us in ways we prefer not to think about too much.

Here’s why I love my gynecologist:

We talk. I don’t just talk to her, but she talks to me, too. We share personal information—like our kids’ potty-training issues—and, well, lots of other stuff.  My doctor seems genuinely interested in me and my health, and listens to my often bizarre and controversial thoughts and questions. Really listens. Without judgment.

Is That Scan Really Necessary?

She makes me cry. I can tell my doc things that I would never tell anyone else (and that means all of you, too!). And the fact that she listens to me without judgment makes me tear up. If I am feeling overwhelmed with life, I’m not afraid to say it. And she sympathizes with me. She knows it’s not her job to fix it, but she listens anyway.

She makes me laugh. My second-favorite moment from the birth of my third child—which my doc performed as a C-section when she was eight months pregnant herself—was when she shouted out “can somebody get me a stool?!” Doc was too short and too pregnant to get a good grip on my baby Lucia. My favorite memory was when everyone broke into song, singing “Santa Lucia” as my daughter was being pulled out of me. Everyone sounded horribly out of tune but totally joyful, including me.

I make her laugh. Laughing is an important part of making awkward situations (one word: stirrups) less awkward. The fact that my doctor tells me she thinks I’m funny makes my day, and takes my mind off other things. You ladies know what I’m talking about.

What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You Could Be Lethal

She’s skeptical of the pharmaceutical solutions. This is big. My doctor doesn’t push pills on me, and in fact knows I’d rather avoid them and respects that. She asks me my opinion on what I’ve read and seen and doesn’t do that doctor “pooh-pooh, you don’t know what you are talking about” thing that I have seen lots of doctors do—or worse, the blank stare that says, “I have no idea of what you are talking about and frankly don’t care to know.”

And now I know you are dying to know who my doctor is, so you can have her as your doctor too. Sorry, I’m not telling, or I’ll never get an appointment with her again. It’s already hard enough to get one!

When the Best Cure Isn’t

The reason I’m sharing is because I hope that one day every woman can have a doctor like mine. After all, gynecologists touch us quite a bit—physically and emotionally. It’s a pretty darn personal relationship, and it should be a good one. I think of all the women around the world who don’t have a doctor they can turn to, or who are afraid or ashamed to speak openly about their health issues, and I feel especially blessed. I just wish there were more doctors like her, so more women could feel as good as I do about going to their gynecologist.

Maybe one day. My doctor might be cynical about that. But I’m optimistic.

Thanks, Doc!


Annemarie W.
Annemarie L6 years ago


Sylvia R.
Sylvia R6 years ago

Wonderful to read about someone who praises another for their good manner and empathy they show to others.

Ameer T.
Ameer T6 years ago

i do wish that more articles on care2 would adress a greater people. I am happy that this woman has found a good doctor, however i fail to see the point what use could this have for most single men or what cause this would support?

Misty V.
Misty V.6 years ago

I am a Ob/Gyn physician and your post made my day! You did a beautiful job of describing the relationship I like to think I share with my patients. I love my job and I feel equally blessed to be a part of so many special moments. I am a wife and mother myself and I must admit that sometimes the crazy never-ending work hours, lack of sleep, and burden of so much
responsibility make me question why I decided to do this.... but
then something (like your post) makes me remember why it is
so worth it! Thank you.

Tana Martin
Tana D6 years ago

You are incredibly lucky! I don't have a gyn because frankly, I can't find one I like. Out of the 3 I've been to, the only 1 I actually could see myself returning to unfortunately stopped accepting my insurance shortly after my visit. I also can't see myself going to a man which severely limits my choices (why are female gyns practically nonexistent in Orlando??).

Lynda G.
Lynda G6 years ago

You're lucky, many aren't.

Jean Mccarthy
Jean Mccarthy6 years ago

Who cares about the spelling! It is the context and basically if you can read all the constanants, then you know what the word means. I would just like to add I've not needed a gynie since I was young (25) and had repeated ovarian cysts. My family doctor was very thorough and sent me to one of the best. I was so fortunate to have him. As the practice grew and his own problem escalated, he left the clinic and I was recommended to one of his fellow family doctors. He is my lifeline - has been through problems, relationships, and ongoing physical limitations as we speak. He is also a psycologist if and when I need to talk but he listens to what I need and have to tell him; he acts upon any issue and is completely up-to-date on medical issues. I travel quite a distance to see him (or in an emergency, one of the associates) but would not change my clinic. He is in control of my life if there is ever an accident and he quotes to all "the day my patients are not my friends is the day I will quit my practice". So sorry, he's so fully booked that he cannot take on another patient. My annual checkup is booked 9 mos in advance. If you have a doctor who relates to you and you to him/her and who you trust with your life, keep him. I am so blessed at the age of 73. He looked after the whole family when they were alive, until nothing more could be done. I am now alone with him watching over me as well.

Marjaana V.
marjaana v6 years ago

well, this sucks... i can only see 9 comments... again the rest has vanished.

my gyno... is a man with strange hair. i don't much care for his demeanor, but im stuck with him; the alternative around here is a cranky old woman and being one myself...

however, i do have the greatest GP ever! if i were to call his house right now [9:46 PM] and ask him to come over, he would. no, i'm kidding. i hope i'll never need to test this theory, but that's the kind of guy he is, a rara avis.

April Thompson
April Thompson6 years ago


Tania Morse
Tania M6 years ago

I'm glad that you've found such a good doctor.

I certainly hope that my new doctor will be as good. I'm on Medicaid, and California recently made major changes to its Medicaid program. I can no longer go to the clinics I used to, but I had several months to choose a new one. Fortunately, the doctor I chose has a detailed website, on which I was able to find valuable information, and I was able to contact the doctor directly. As my enrollment with this doctor has not been completed yet, I cannot make an appointment with her, but I can use my former clinic in the interim. One reason I am looking forward to this doctor is the fact that she is a woman. As a person with disabilities, I have had many doctors throughout my life, mostly men. In fact, my first pap was done by a male doctor. Fortunately, I was comfortable with him, and the nursing staff in his office was wonderful. Overall, though, I'd still rather have a female doctor.