Wisdom from Pamela Gail Johnson

I’d like to tell you that you can be happy all of the time or that happiness is always about choice. But I can’t because I don’t believe it.

I know some people believe it and claim to live it. And if you’re one of them, I’m very happy for you… and even a little envious.

But for those who seek happiness because we aren’t happy all of the time, the best advice I know to give is this, “Happiness happens. Unhappiness happens.”

If you want to be happy you can’t ignore unhappiness. Sometimes our unhappiness is of our own making and more easily remedied because it’s about making changes in our life. Sometimes it really is a matter of deciding to be happy, by deciding what is really important.

Too often we’re unhappy over things that really don’t matter because we don’t want to look at the things that do matter. The things that require us to change, grow and become better people. So sometimes, happiness is a choice.

But sometimes unhappiness is caused by events beyond our control that simply take time to work themselves out either logistically or emotionally. Sometimes we have to co-exist with unhappiness. But it doesn’t mean we can’t experience happiness at the same time….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Pamela is the founder of the Secret Society of Happy People.

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Danuta Watola
Danuta W4 years ago

Thanks for sharing!

Frans Badenhorst
Frans Badenhorst5 years ago

true words, and feelings, appreciate an honest article, thanks

Marianne Barto
Marianne B5 years ago

so true...thanks

Mark Stephens
Mark Stephens5 years ago

This is definitely a very good point. Those who say happiness is a personal choice have probably never experienced much pain in their lives. After many years of unhappiness, I've learned that the best way (for me at least) to deal with it is to accept the cause of it, feel the pain/grieve (rather than ignoring it as I used to do), and move on. It shortens the period of unhappiness by a considerable amount. I n my experience and opinion, pretending you can always be happy and/or control your happiness is, like much New Age claptrap, detrimental and even harmful.

Deborah F.
Deborah F5 years ago

Thanks for the boost.

Carole R.
Carole R5 years ago

Thanks for the post.

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Chandra C5 years ago


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Kathy C.
Kathy C5 years ago

I liked this article. I always heard "happiness is a choice" and I felt bad because I couldn't make happiness for me due to a troubled marriage. Sometimes it isn't in our control. I try to be happy but the reality doesn't always allow it.

Sue H.
Sue H5 years ago

Thanks for sharing this.