Casual Sex? Skip the Romance

Written by Kait Smith for

Ladies, how do you prefer to be approached by a man? There is surely no single answer to such a question—unless, of course, you’re talking about a one-night stand, according to a new study. It claims that when it comes to casual sex, women prefer straightforward and aggressive pick-up tactics, and men are more than willing to deliver them.

Researchers say that women want dudes to forgo the small talk, ditch the quirky lines and get straight to the point, at least when it comes to potential hook-ups. There’s no room for romance when you’re looking for a quick lay.

The experts from Kansas University who conducted this “sex roles” study of 1,000 people call it a “caveman” approach. Apparently, back in prehistoric times, relationships were based on raw instinct. Men picked women who looked good, and “took” them (picture the old cliché of a caveman dragging his woman by the hair back to his lair. Sexy, right?). When translated to the modern day, it means being more assertive when approaching a woman.

The females in the study who were more likely to be sexist (and want one-night stands) verified that they tend to be attracted to this type of behavior. Which works out, according to the researchers, because men who are interested in one-night stands typically utilize these strategies when searching for their nightly hook-up. Some examples: Teasing her, isolating her from her peers, and challenging other men who are also potentially interested.

Women with negative attitudes toward other women were most likely to respond to these more aggressive tactics. Go figure.

What do you think of this “caveman approach?”

This article originally appeared on Women Who Like One-Night Stands Hate Other Women.

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Anna Dayton
Anna Dayton4 years ago

I think this assertive behavior is very appealing. My partner recently passed away and i became lonely but all the men around me got too emotionally invested and i quickly resented them. those who made direct advances were far more attractive to me. Its absolutely a personal preference. before losing my spouse i would not have responded well to this kind of advances.

Back Again H.
Past Member 5 years ago

It's personal preference, I suppose. I feel that the caveman approach leads to me wanting to gallop far away on the nearest dinosaur.

Scott Vonwolf
Scott haakon5 years ago

Well that answers the question. Assertive behavior wins over hearts and flowers.

KS Goh
KS Goh5 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Silas Garrett
Silas Garrett5 years ago

Not my cup of tea.

Jane Barton
Jane Barton5 years ago

I love the caveman approach by an actual CAVEMAN. My preference is young, hot bodied, well hung, drop dead gorgeous and no brains. For intelligent conversation I like older guys and I don't care how they look, but I don't want to have sex with them. I disagree that there is no room for romance with a quick lay. I've had some very romantic lays with young guys. My favorite experience (actually I saw him twice) was a 23 year old marine officer who is in Afghanistan now. He was fantastic and we had a lot of fun. I was told all my life to stay away from young guys because they don't know what they're doing. What a lie! They are the only ones who know what they are doing and they have stamina. And there was a 27 year old marine who taught me a lot too. He was 6'2" and absolutely gorgeous! The thrill is having fun new experiences, not about being "close to someone". I think part of the reason marriages don't work is because people don't sleep around enough before selecting the right person to settle down with.

Nimue Pendragon

Fair enough, if that's what turns you on. I remember once, long ago (in the Dark Ages) I was in a nightclub dancing with this bloke, when he leaned towards me and yelled, "I've got 10 inches!" Even from a "caveman" that was a bit much. No pun intended :)

Holly Lawrence
Holly Lawrence6 years ago

If casual sex sizzles your bacon then go for it .. just take precautions and be responsible:)

Robert Hardy
Robert Hardy6 years ago

this isn't your grandmother's facebook! LOL, LOL

Chad A.
Chad A6 years ago

I think this helps explain my lack of casual sex... Don't people want a more lasting relationship, or is there some thrill I don't understand in being close to someone you do not know?