Hello Ross,

Thank you for the invitation to this group. I was a survivor of domestic violence when I was a child, and later a survivor of spousal abuse and abuse at the hand of my own child. This is an important issue and I would love a world where violence didn't live.  Love and Prayers, Simply Vee

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Hello, thank you, Ross for the invite, and for starting this group.

I am a survivor of domestic violence. It took many years to get out. I was one of the lucky ones, I escaped with my life. I thank you again, Ross. I've been wanting to join a group such as this one.

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Thank you again Ross for the invitation. Very important issue.. Good to be here. Hugs !! 

Hello group! -pilvi-

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thanks for the invite, as you know I am an ex cop so I can help out here and advise, great group, Keep up the good work.

Mikee

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thanks for starting a group like this.  im not sure if i really fit in here or not though.  i was arrested on september 11, 2003 for domestic violence against my wife.   i deeply regret that day, and other days prior and since.  i am attended "anger management" classes, and have been in therapy for a while now.  everyday, i wish that i could that the pain and suffering back, but i know that i cant.  all i can do is learn for the experience and do my best to never repeat it.  the road is a hard road to travel, but the rewards at the end of the journey make it all worth while. 

if i offend anyone for joining please let me know and i will leave.  im just looking for somewhere that i can try and help in some way or another. 

thanks

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Ay least you are attending DV classes, thats the first step, have you apoligized to your wife? Are things better now? And I asume you were court ordered to take the class as a condition of reduced charges?  I hope all the best for you and your wife, if you ever need to talk I am here and I will help and guide you, I was the first responder to DV calls, and councled some classes also, GOOD LUCK and remember the CYCLE.... Once it starts, walk away, and breathe.

Mikee

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thanks mike.  yes i have appologies to my wife, and things are getting better.  the dv classes were court ordered yes, but the therapy is something im doing on my own.  i dont ever want to go back to that or hurt my wife or family ever again.  it will take some more time, but that is something that i have a lot of right now. 

take care and thanks again.

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Ross....THANK YOU SO MUCH for starting this group.  Humanity will move beyond.......into abundance on this Beautiful, Precious Earth...................................................  when ALL the VIOLENCE has STOPPED

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Marjorie, thanks for the welcome. 

I want to help however I can too.  I've been part of the problem, now I hope and pray to be part of the solution.  

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If you need guidence or to talk I am here for you. Is the abuse over now? I hope so, and may God Bless You and Yours.

Mikee

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Thankyou for the invite.. Mikee.. I think you all know where I stand of this subject matter.. I am a survivor of 8 years of hell of it..

   So I back this subject so hard..You have all my support as needed..

Deseree

Hello my name is Judy I was in a very bad marrige for many years . Im alive because of a God sent friend who walked me through all the bad times and held on till I was ready to let go...  I want to talk about the pain that lives inside of my heart and the anger . We can not forget ! But we must hold on to another as my friend did for me .. Open our eyes and listen because we might hear or see someone who needs our help.. Thankyou for asking me here today..

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Hi mikee thank you for the invite .liz

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Hello all, thank you for the invitation.  I hope this group goes well and grows.  Some of you know me by now, others dont so those of you who dont; I am Detective Alexandrea Wayne, most people call me Allie, please feel free to do so.  I have not personally experienced domestic abuse, however, I see it and deal with it everyday.  I am a detective in homicide and an officer for the child exploitation so I know the aftermath that domestic violence can have. 

I will reach out my hand to any of you and help guide you if I can and want you all to know that I understand.  I am not here to take sides or judge you, I am here to help you and in turn you helping me in many ways.

Thanks for the group its going to be a great group.  Hang in there all, there is hope.

Love & Hugs.....Allie    

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Brother Ross, hope all is well with you, yeah we all Missed you, be well, and keep up the great work!

Love ya all,

Mikee

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I'm Susan and thanks MIKee for the invite.  I'm an EMT and I'm required by law in my state to report any domestic violence even if it is suspected.  I'm in my second career (retired from the first one).  I was also required to report abuse or suspected abuse in my former job. 

Glad to help out any way I can.  I'm a great listener and have a big heart.

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Thanks Ross for inviting me to this group. I have experienced some spousal abuse in 2 of my past marriages, altho it was mostly emotional abuse, it was no fun. I am against domestic violence, and will do all I can to help out. Lola(Maine)

Brother Ross, see here is a great group of people, all for you the secound time around :0)

Mikee

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Mike - thank you for the invitation to this group. It looks like a good one. I was married for 35 years and the last 15 years were pure hell at the hands of an alcoholic - he was verbally abusive and then then turned physically abusive. I got out of it 8 years ago alive. I consider myself lucky and am willing to help anyone who needs help or who just wants to talk. I still have flashbacks so if I disappear for a day or two do not worry - I will return..

Peace and love to all

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Thank You My FRIENDS for joining us here and supporting this serious problem we have, not just in the USA but abroad as well.

I want to wish everone a HAPPY THANKSGIVING, be safe, be well, and God Bless

Love ya all,

MIKee

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Hi all. I am a survivor of abuse. I escaped my abuser, and traveled 4000 miles to get away from him with my 3 children, only to have him follow me.  I was never married to him, but had 2 children with him.  I had a bag packed with ss cards, birth certificates, some clothes, and a credit card with a 5000 limit..I just was waiting for courage to do it. I never would call the cops when something would happen.. I didnt have the courage to do it. I dont know why. Well, after a swollen, black eye, I fled my abuser, and went from Alaska to New York with my kids, leaving it all behind. I immediately went to the court, filed for temp custody.  I got a lawyer,(I went through 2 before I found the right one).I enrolled my oldest in school, got a job, stayed with my dad. Then, he showed up, he drove.  I had to stay in a DV shelter, as he knew my fathers address, and I was in fear he would do something drastic of course. I filed for a Restraining order.. I waited for all of that to go through.  It did. He  showed up in court for that as well as a couple of the custody hearings, I had taken pictures, the judged asked him what had happened, he said he had a bad day that day, as he CRIED.. He did not show up for the child support hearing, HE fled. I was granted full and sole custody, he refused to go through any mental counseling, or drug and alcohol screening..The children were granted $2,500 a month.. He never has paid.  It is up over $115,000 or so now.  

I am remarried, my husband has adopted the children.. The biological father could not be found for the adoption hearings.  We tried for many months, even over a year or longer to find him.  So now, he is no longer responsible, except for the arrearages in child support.. for like the $115,000 or so he owes to his biological children. The thing I would like the most, is to see him in jail.  I don't care about the money, though it is owed to them. The children are 7 and 8 years old.  The only thing they remember is the violence.  And I never spoke of the violence.  They remember the violence.. The pain those children suffered is something I fight every day.. I wonder how I could have ever stayed as long as I did.. then I have to think about, but I left him.. but not soon enough.. they still suffered.  emotionally, they will always carry what they witnessed.  My oldest is 14.. she will always remember.   

T

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Tamara,

Bless you I feel your pain, Do you have his SS #? Did you try tracking him dwon to pay the rears? wow A father, whom does not care, and a abuser, don't worry sweetie every dog has their day!!!

Bless you again,

MIKee

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Hi Mikee,

Yes,  I do have his social ss #,Child support enforcement has tried to track him down, but he has moved from like 4 different states.  However, about a month ago my attorney got a call from CSED, and they located him in Illinois.  So, we will see what happens from here.  He jumps around a lot, when he is found, he moves again.  It isn't so much about money anyway.  I am just glad to be away from him.  Sorry to be so long winded, or long fingered or whatever~

T 

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Thank you Deseree for the invitation. I am a survivor of domestic abuse by someone I had been engaged to. Fortunately I didn't have to endure that abuse as long as some of the other's here. It has shaken my self confidence and has put a new fear in me... I'm scared to death to talk to people at all especially members of the opposite sex. I met him online and so I now have a tendency to be very distant from people especially people I meet online.  I understand not everyone is like him but it's still not a chance I would risk taking ever again. And for those of you who know me from other groups and maybe wondered why I don't get too terribly chit chatty or lovey dovey that's the reason why... I'm scared to open up to anyone. And I am sorry if I come across as snobbish or as someone who doesn't care, truth is I do care, I'm just too scared to express it.

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Hi all,

Thanks for the invite Mikee. Domestic violence is something that I feel very strongly against and wish laws were tougher to help people in a violent situation

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Hey, Mikee. You know I would be here for ya bro.

Michelle! How are you beautiful? Please fill me in on how the band is doing. I still want to see you playing in Austin.

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Hey Greg,

Well when and if I got to Texas, you will be the first I look up

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Thanks for the great invite Mikee.

I live in Washington State. Just finished college. I am always on at night. Sometimes during the day, but, not very much.

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Hi everyone, I am Ruthie and I am a survivor of Domestic Violence. As a matter of fact 3 of my five children have refused me any contact with them and their kids because of some of the h*ll we all went through.  They blame me because the perp died in prison and I am available.

I also host the Domestic Violence Support group here on Care2.

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Yeah Kandi!!! Hi!!!!

Jessica, I am sorry you had to go through what you went through..there is no such thing as going through "some" DV. The fact that you seen your parents go through it means you went through it fully. It does make a differnece on our lives and relationships. Harder to trust and rely on someone. One thing you can do is know that you are not alone and that being a survivor of domestic abuse means that you can stand up and fight and let people know that it is wrong and we arent going to take it anymore.

Abuse hurts so many people in so many ways.

It took many years to find the right guy to trust and to totally give my heart too. He is a police officer and knows what DV is like he sees so much of it in his job(Mikee, being a PO yourself I am sure you have seen much of it as well) ...

Jessica  follow your heart

GROUP HUG!!!

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Hi Ruthie,

I am sorry you are going through what you are going through with your kids. Just remember it is NOT you that they are hiding from and distancing from..it is the memories that they want to forget. They will find there way.....

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Thank you So Much Mikee for the invite..I am So Here!! I agree with my Sisters here..Violence is never a solution and I'm here to support the idea of a world where domestic violence is a thing of the past!

Blessings to All~

It's been five years since I have seen most of my adored grandkids and there is a new one that I have never seen...thigets to me on holidays and their birthdays most of all.  My youngest and I have developed a relationship since she got clean 3 years ago...the nicest Christmas present ever...she called me at work after 2 years of silence to wish me a Merry Christmas.    My youngest son is using and not doing too well, but he contacted me three years ago.  Unfortunately his boys are with their other grandma, and she won't allow me to see them either.  So I cherish the daylights out of the 2 I do see (of 11).

They blame me...I didn't make a big deal out of what he did to me and they truly believe that they suffered alone....such is life I guess.

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EVERYONE HERE THE HOSY ROSS IS NO WHERE TO BE FOUND< I AM GOING TO CARRY THIS GROUP OVER AND OPEN A NEW ONE< I WILL INVITE ALL< PLEASE FOLLOW

Love,

MIKEE

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OK I DO NOT HAVE THE PATIENTS TO START A NEW GROUP RIGHT NOW, can I please ask one of the ladies to start a new one, and I will invite all there, and help out as a host, Im a lil um under the weather right now, but I am monitoring and see all,

Thanks ladies.....

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Thanks Kandi,

If You do not have a group picture, use my Brother Ross's here so we can keep him alive in the group, he has been thru alot I just pray he is ok.

Mikee

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This is the link.  I have to let you in when you apply but will wait around for a while to do it this evening...we have ahd an abuser infiltrate the group once before so we try to be careful.

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RUTHIE NO, I WOULD LOVE TOOOOO

I need the link again though, please re post thanks.

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Hello to all..thank you for the invite Mikee!!

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Kay this group is closeing link to the one above you, or the other one I sent you w/ is Kandi's, these are important groups so join both!

Mikee

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Mikee - I just transferred myself to the other group.

I´d like to introduce myself - I am Peter from Vienna, Austria, and I am an active member of the Austrian White Ribbon Campaign (a movement of men wanting to end domestic violence) - www.whiteribbon.at ( in German language - you might know the english ones www.whiteribbon.ca and www.whiteribbon.com .

If somebody of a country is reading this, where there is no national White Ribbon Campaign until now - feel free to ask me how to start a new one.

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Hi, my name is Jennifer and I come from Perth, Western Australia.  Was so glad to come across this group, not that I have been able to get back since I joined.   I am interested cos of my disfunctional background, disfunctional is the modern term for it.   I am single, never married, but do sponsor children in third world countries.  Have 5 siblings alive now, the eldest turned 70 this year and the youngest is just over 60 so where does that leave me?   Hehehe, 64 years old and I have a twin sister also, who did marry and become a widow, has 4 children and 2 granddaughters also.  My interests are in being a survivor of abuse, not domestic violence,  but my interests are in this area too, as well as children, refugees, the envirement etc.  

Jennifer 

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My name is Duane and I live in Honolulu, HI where I own a courier company. One of our clients is the Domestic Violence Action Center.

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My name is Marcie and I was sexually assualted when I was a kid by my step brother and by another person when I was in high school.  When I turned 17 I started fighting back.  Now I have a great husband and great kids and I try to help others in the situation I was once in.

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