Sexual assault can be defined as any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient of the unwanted sexual activity. Falling under the definition of sexual assault is sexual activity such as forced sexual intercourse, sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape. Some more specific examples of sexual assault include:
- Unwanted vaginal, anal, or oral penetration with any object
- Forcing an individual to perform or receive oral sex
- Forcing an individual to masturbate, or to masturbate someone else
- Forcing an individual to look at sexually explicit material or forcing an individual to pose for sexually explicit pictures
- Touching, fondling, kissing, and any other unwanted sexual contact with an individual's body
- Exposure and/or flashing of sexual body parts
In general, state law assumes that a person does not consent to sexual activity if he or she is forced, threatened, unconscious, drugged, a minor, developmentally disabled, chronically mentally ill, or believe they are undergoing a medical procedure.
Perpetrators of sexual assault can be strangers, friends, acquaintances, or family members. Often, perpetrators commit sexual assault by way of violence, threats, coercion, manipulation, pressure, or tricks. In extreme cases, sexual assault may involve the use of force which may include, but is not limited to:
- Physical violence
- Use or display of a weapon
- Immobilization of victim
More often, however, sexual assault involves psychological coercion and taking advantage of an individual who is incapacitated or under duress and, therefore, is incapable of making a decision on his or her own.
Source: Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
I was raped in January by a trible elder. I've been locked up in my house ever since. Today was my first day out side by myself. I went on a job interview. I think I got it! I'm just starting to get my life back. I'm ready to face the world again and find a new job. Wish me luck!
You have made tremendous strides in just the short time I've known you. (I just looked at your post at "Listening." - )
You, dear friend, are a true survivor!
ok now this makes me made there is no resaon that any woman should be abused and raped what the law should is put these no good animals in a cell for the rest of there life and let the person they did this to make there punishment and the courts should abide by it the same thing as for ananimal that hurts and rapes kids and abuses theym the law should let the family make the law for them and also who ever hurts animals others that want to stop all this should be able to make the laws thats how,I feel because the laws dont always work and this peole are not people they are animals my fault worse than animals
She thinks that she has healed but after 15+ years with the same shrink, it's obvious that she is better but not whole.
I, too, am heartbroken, with the continued hope that one day things will be different. Now, I have had to move 4 hours away to try and rescue my daughter. But, I don't hear anything from my partner except when our two year old son is sick. I don't believe she doesn't want a relationship, she just doesn't know how to be in one, at least one which is healthy. She is strong and proud, too, in so many ways.
I share your prayer. It has been mine, too, for a looooong time.
I have been sexually molested as a child..not by one person, but by several so called "adults", one of whom was my uncle (not blood, married into the family).
Then about 5 years ago, I was raped. In a vehicle, in a neighborhood, at 9:00 p.m. parked in a car. I was told if I tried to run...I would be shot in the back. Didn't want to get shot in the back...so I stayed and was raped.
Still not sure if I am over any of this stuff..really. I don't dwell on it, but it happened, it is part of my story and it is there. I got into active addiction about 20 years ago...I am sure the childhood molestation probably prompted the addiction.
But I have had intensive outpatient and group therapy and have learned alot. I am actually getting ready to go back to one on one therapy...to heal some more.
God bless all survivors....but to be honest, most every one has had to survive some thing.
WTG PAM!!I am so happy for you! Yet anouther large step!
Diann-I am so sorry that happened to you!I understand being afraid,how horrible that must have been ,and still is!Healing prayers to you as well!
First to Diana T....I am truly sorry that you or anyone should ever have to go through that. I worked with the Sheriffs Office here in South Florida for 4 years, and the laws have gotten tougher, but I still think they they can get tougher yet.
A lot of the problem is most women, like yourself, do not come forward, so the crime goes unpunished.....for you, I am glad you did eventually speak about it!
Today, thank God for DNA testing, which has put many behind bars, that might have gotten away with the crime if not for testing.
My approach, being a 6th degree black belt, is to teach men/women/children to defend themselves, and it is about positive attitude and confidence. When a person believes that there is nothing that they can do to protect themselves, they have already given up, hence they are not only fighting an attacker, but fighting themselves as well. My philosophy is that if you think like a victem, you are a victem. I have had people tell me they don't need to know self defense because they have never had a physical confrontation, my reply is that it only takes one to cost you your life. I am a passive person and believe in diplomacy in most situations, and I do believe in the 5th commandment, but if it was a matter of him or me or a loved one, rest assured it would be him!!
Anyway, obviously my feelings are very strong about violent and sexual crimes. Being a gentleman, I do not even want to share my feelings on what should be done to perpetrators of sexual crimes......other than one....castration for starters...out of the gene pool...see ya!!
Well, guess I have said enough...once I start thinking about this subject, it really gets to me, as I have 2 grown daughters and 4 grandkids that I always worry about, although, my youngest daughter is a black belt...lol....and has had to use it on more than one occasion.