I'll start, please keep it running!

I'm Janey.  I'm 36 (tomorrow!) and my husband and I have 4 kids:

• Z.-girl-10
• K.-boy-7
• S.-girl-5
• M.-boy-7 months

We try to have 'family time' a few times a week, but mostly we get caught up in the mundanities of schoolwork, housework, and everyday living.  Bedtime stories and morning snuggles help make life a lot cozier for us, (when those snuggles don't end in fighting, which they often do! )

We're really trying to do a good job as parents but often it's just in theory, as the stresses of work, finances, etc. make us impatient! 

I'm hoping to be able to gain strength through this group.  Thanks in advance!    Next...

 [ send green star]

Hi !! I hope you are not going to have any more babies. I think 4 is quite a lot and more than that can make you strain not just both your temper and also a big strain on your budget as you have a big responsiblities to bring them up. The children being small you both have to be patient with them and remember always that you too have been like that when you were samll. Patience is the most important thing that you both need and also conserve as much energy as possible as bringing up 4 small ones are not an easy job.

How do you conserve your energies.? Try not to go for late night parties and cut down your unnecessary roamings . Have outings but make it short and give sufficient time for you all to get rest. See that the kids get minimum 8 hrs sleep daily so that they wont be irritable.

Also try to do meditation daily once early in the morning and also say your prayers with concentartion before retiring to bed.  These would enhance your inner strength and you will get the wisdom to manage the kids well so that the kids will grow well.

sk

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Good Morning!

I am a single parent of four:

Ricky-16

Ana and Toni-7

and lil' Sammy-18 Months

 [report anonymous abuse]  [ accepted]

Hi

I'm Kate, solo-mama to Maia who turns 8 later on this week.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I'll forgive you your forwardness in the number of children we choose to have!  To me, that particular issue is highly personal. 

Seriously though, my late-night party days are over, my kids get way more than 8 hours a night, and I'm often in bed by 10:30-11:00pm.  Getting enough sleep is CRUCIAL to keeping my nerves and emotions in check! 

We are a loving, huggin' and kissin' family.  Yes, financial pressures are real, and can add tension in a home, but my husband and I try to deal with those issues calmly and privately.  My impatience is usually related to a.) being ignored when its time to get something done, and b.) if I've eaten chocolate or sugar.  Since I discovered that having a sugar high greatly affects my mood with my children (negatively, sorry to say!), I hardly eat it.  However, my hub is making brownies with fresh whipped cream for my b'day tonight and truth be told, I'm phyched!!  Hooray for exceptions!  

I appreciate your good advice.  Do you have children?

Other new members, I'm looking very forward to hearing about you!  Please include yourselves in this thread... 

 [ send green star]

Hello all!!

Just like to introduce myself. Im a mother of 2 kids. Both sons, 5 and 13 months. Glad to be a part of this group and hope we can support each other when needed.

Peace G

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I am extremely sorry and  please forgive me. It was not intentional. May be I was trying to over do my part in presenting my point. I am sorry. I have two children and they keep me real tight to bring them up. Please reply me.

sk

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

So glad to see our group grow. 

Kumar, all's forgiven, friend!  What are your childrens' ages?

 [ send green star]

   I was drawn to this site because my husband and I believe in Positive Parenting.  Our boys are now 17 and 20, however all the aspects of Positive Parenting never truly just disappear because 'they are all grown up now'.  I hope my journey here helps ease some of the parenting struggles by sharing things my husband and I have tried, as well I get the sense that I may also learn some things from parents today that will enrich my college and professional aspirations of working in the field of Social Work.  As one of the members stated (??) it is advantageous to remember that, "This too shall pass", because ultimately it does with consistent, Positive Parenting! 

   I am going to share with you that time and again we heard, "You are a such a mean mom/dad" (don't think it did not break our hearts), however today we have two grown boys that can...introduce themselves (eye-to-eye) with a handshake and a smile, work part-time (senior in High School) and full-time (oldest 'almost' ready to transition to his own place ), two guys that are not shy about talking with either one of us about issues like sexuality, friendships, and daily frustrations (although we admit we probably only know 1/2 of ALL the issues ), and the icing on the cake...they have both communicated their appreciation of how consistent, ornery, even mean we were when they were growing up because it gave them something to latch onto.  Ummm? 

   New to the Care2Connect community I was ready to give each and everyone of you stars for the BEDTIME discussion but found out I could not because of membership rules...darn it anyway! I do look forward to reading additional posts and 'when I am allowed' will make sure to reward the 'stars of the site'.  Thanks for your time tonight...'see' you all on the boards.

Correen K.  

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

   Something to think about...spurred by the discussion between Janey and Kumar...sometimes we do not realize the 'global reach' of the Internet and with that it can bring misunderstandings simply because of language barriers, writing style, personal perceptions, and a whole other myriad of issues (governmental control of population comes to mind). So rather then taking issue...Janey handled it very well ...I suggest that we ALL take into consideration not only the posting but also where that posting is coming from.  We all learn soooo much from each other and I love the global reach I realize from the comfort of my home in the hills of Washington.

Peace,

Correen

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Welcome Correen!!

Hi, its so nice to hear about how you have such a close relationship with your sons. I really hope that once my boys are older that they can share all that stuff with me too. But sometimes I get scared/worried that what if I'm not open enough or not so approachable?! What if I am too strict and end up pushing them away from me?? I see that happening now with my 6 year old. He will be too scared to tell me if he spilt his milk or broke something, he will go straight to his father and tell him. THAT hurts. It makes me wonder whether I am doing something wrong,... but my husband just cannot be the "bad cop". I end up yelling and disciplining, while he ends up being the one my son runs to for comfort. I just dont want my sons to grow up too pampered.... I want them to be big strong men.. not just physically, but emotionally too. Am I being TOO harsh?

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

   When our boys were growing up I often heard, "You are such a mean mom"...don't think it did not break my heart because I DO have feelings, however I would say to them just because they think I am 'mean' it does not mean that I do not love them and it is because I love them that I expected certain things 

   My personal feeling is that being assertive...not really mean like they described it...meant they would start to realize the boundaries within a family relationship.  No fuss...no muss...this is how it is period (as they got older negotiation did come into play)! Being 'mean' now, when they are trying to figure out all the dynamics will reap many benefits for the future.  

   Guiti remember one thing...boys always love their mother's (it is that Freudian thing...lol) and maybe by having your hubby for a safe zone right now is not all bad...just make sure you as partner's and parent's are on the same page when it comes to discipline and following through.  Kids buck against consistency, however it is real and true consistency that helps them shape their identity within the family and beyond.

Peace,

Correen 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I'm starting a new thread called are you Controlling?  Let's continue this topic over there... it's a good one!  I wrestle with this, too.

More intros?  Welcome new members!

 [ send green star]

Anyone know how to copy and paste the last 2 posts (excluding mine) onto the new thread "are you Controlling?"

 [ send green star]

I copied and pasted mine

Correen

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

You know, it is funny, I had a dream last night that I started a group on Care2 about our children, and then today here is this group... WONDERFUL!!! THANK YOU for having it up...

I am a single father in Texas to my two year old daughter Samantha. I wish I got to see her more, I miss her during the week and on the weekends that I do not get her, BUT I cherish every second with her when I do get her. She is such an artist, a comedian, a movie star and a thinker. She will sit sometimes and just look at something for a few minutes and then say "daddy..." and proceed to exclaim what she just learned in her own highly intelligent language... much more intelligent than our own, I would have to say

Anyhow, thank you for this group, I look forward to reading more stories and hearing more thoughts on the subject or parenthood, which, in turn, is more them teaching us than us teaching them, I believe.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Zora here, mother of one 3 and a half year old cheeky chap, just getting into setting boundaries, 'trying' to be consistent, its tricky being that day to day life is pretty chaotic. Single mum though little one spends 2 days one week and 3 days the next with his dad, who has very different ideas to me on some issues of parenting and many on life in general, unfortunatley we have very little trust in each other, so it makes it difficult to discuss parenting and backing each other up.

We are in mediation attempting to resolve these issues for the good of our boy.

Luckily my little one so far is a happy, healthy, cheeky, sociable noisy, full of energy 14 hours a day 3 year old, so all is well with him, I am just exhausted!!!!

Thanks for being here I am sure I will have a few good questions coming soon.

PEACE and other lovely things

Zora

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

HI New to the group.  My name is Daphne and I have a son G-age 21/2 and a daughter T 11/2 yrs old.  They are 14 months apart and mostly this is a wonderful thing and sometimes I rely soley on absolute faith and patience.  They are wonderful bright outgoing kids that are curious about everything and are learning at a pace I did not expect.  I am 37 and my Husband J is 30 and we are fortunately soulmates, I believe this gives us an advantage in many areas, like really giving our children a FAMILY and also keeping our relationship as husband and wife wonderful.  I consider myself to be so blessed and awed with the happiness I now know and never knew existed.  Our goals with our kids are to let them grow up in a home with love, respect, and knowledge.  Also a deep knowing of nature and conservation , as well as try to give them the seeds to start them early about saving our environment and changing what needs to be changed for a more peaceful and less contaminated future.  Ok I babble a bit.   I just love my babies!

Namaste, Daphne

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi every one. I know a few folks on there from other groups but for those who dont know me, here is a quick intro.

Im a 50yr old single dad, 2 children at home, Hollie 14 and James 6. I have 2 older children Emma 33 and Mark 29, Im also a grandaddy to Emma's Damion who was born the week after James.

I work in the health service in the Uk, job title "Community Parent Worker" My role is to work alondside parents and their children, to help change difficult behaviour, most of these children have ADHD, Asbergers Autisum or similer behavioural difficulties, but not all of them, some it is really just a case of poor parenting and it is within these families that I seem to be able to help make the bigest changes.

I run groups both for parents and children, I work in peoples homes and also do some one to one work, again with both children and adults.

I have training in Cognative behaviuoral therapy, Family therapy, play/art therapy, parent skills facilitater and as a group facilitater and analist.

My core proffesion is as a nursery nurse working with the under fives but now I work accross all ages.

Im also  proffesional clown which helps a lot.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

This is getting exciting!  Lots of new folks joining.  Welcome everyone, and please start new threads.  JESSICA: how about a new one on Terrible Twos?  I bet  you'll hear some good suggestions.

   Janey

 [ send green star]

hello everyone l am a divorced mother of 16 yrs ,my son will be 18 in january he is working, into boxing and boxing competitions and joining the army for artillary and infantry  and still in school . l have raised my son on my since he was 13 months old  he is my only child . the yrs have sped past and l see my baby has almost grown man starting out on the adventure of adult hood ....sigh ...... the memories are awesome and the best times of my life . we had our share of agruments and days of silence but we are the best of freinds as well as mother and son .missing the child but learning what a strong man he is becoming .through his mistakes and mishaps  as well as mine . know l am looking forward to seeing what he is life will be and where it will take him  and some day seeing my son become a father .

cherish your small children as they grow fast and learn like sponges .my name is lorelei and we live in northern ontario.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

My name is Christy.I have 2 children. A 10 year old girl and a 12 year old boy.They are polar opposites of eachother.

Unfortunately for our family, my son chose to live with his father about 2 years ago, while my daughter chose to live with me. I don't like them being raised apart, but I see my son every week ( I make sure that I get him every week).It seemed at the time to be the best solution for my son.

The problem is that my son is being raised with close to no discipline at all, and he has a hard time conforming to our rules when he stays with us.

My daughter has no trouble. She knows there are rules to go by, and even though sometimes she bucks a little, she knows she still has to go by them.

I am worried about my son. He is failing school, and seems to have no interest in doing better. When he first started living with his dad he did great...now, I don't know what happened.

My daughter, on the other hand, is doing wonderfully. Scholastically she is excelling, has a lot of self-esteem, and in general is very happy.

When my son visits I don't treat him any differently than my daughter-there isn't any reason- but I still feel like I am doing something wrong. We do homework, we encourage him to ask questions if he doesn't understand. I don't think I am getting through to him very well.

I have talked to his dad who is very upset with his general attitude and his grades , and he promised to start setting rules and not let him get away with so much, but I am still worried...

I might also mention that I remarried in January- to a wonderful man who loves both of my children and treats them like they are his, and I am so lucky that my children love him, too.

Is this just an age thing with my son?

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

My name is Angie to my friends

i am the mom and step mom of 4 kids  of which we have custody of all 4  my 2 boys are  Cody age 7 and is a special needs child diagnosised with Autism/OCD/ and Sever apraxia  my younger son Seth is 4 almost 5 and mommy little shadow  my step kids are Heather 13  very active in sports and Chad 17 typical drive you nuts kind of teen 

just wanted to say this looks like its going to be a great group 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello, another newbie to the group here.  I have two children; a daughter age 12, nearly 13 and we can be so alike in our characters, likes and dislikes, thoughts and opinions etc, its spooky!  Even her experiences and reactions good and unfortunately bad, I've felt and understand them so well.  We connect very well and are very close, its almost twinnish.  And I have a son, age 9, who has ADHD and is such an adorable scamp! lol  We have a variety of difficulties as most families do from time to time, but we get through them, and make sure we have a lot of fun and laughter.  As Lorelei said above, its so important to be the best of friends with your children as well as their parent, and this is very much the case here.  In fact I highly recommend letting go the "sensible mature" parent in you from time to time, and watching the delight on your childrens faces as you drop the picnic box and run for first go down the slide at the park! lol   Don't worry about the uncontrollable adult squeel as you go down way too fast for your stomach's comfort, its excellent entertainment for all the sensible adults sitting around the outskirts  

love Bluebell

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

hi nicole how are you ? how old is your child ?

one thing l have sorta learned through being a single parent was being a teenager is so tough so much harder then when l was there is way to much peer pressure to try drugs drinking sex being the tough guy , way to much violence on tv for kids to be watching .... l had to let my son make choices on his own  and when he failed l was there to pick him up  and we sat and talked about his mistakes and most of the time he said to me that l was right.l never rubbed his mistakes in his face .had to bite my tongue lots ........lol

l am going to be 38 in march and my son 's name is vincent

 hi janey ----}--}---}---@

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

janey your baby is adorable.   l have a question to ask how do you get pics in the test part as l would like to do that

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

first of all  HAPPY BIRTHDAY I tried to send a card but I don't think it sent. I hope you got everything that you wished for.

Secondly, I'm new to the group and would like to say hi! I am the proud mother of 5 little monsters!

8 yr son

5 yr daughter

4 yr son

and 2 yr old twins boy/girl

I come from a family of 6, each grandmother had 9 live babies and my great grandfather had 24 or 25 kids, most were all twins or triplets. I allways wanted at least 6 kids, but 5 will do.

I don't know weither or not there is a thing saying a woman should only have a certin number of kids. I say if you can afford them, go for it! Haveing more then two young childreen in one house all the time can be verry draining and stressfull, but it is rewarding. I don't know what I would do if I wasn't woke up early in the morning with a kid saying time to get up or to have my house quite! Its been way to long since I could hear myself breathing, but if I can still run when one of the boys starts climbing the walls, I'm ok!

I am looking forward to getting to know all of you and I'm shure I will be getting allot of good advice!

candy

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Thanks for the birthday wishes!!

Great to see you all here... get involved and use your voices!  We have much to share.

Blessings,  Janey 

 [ send green star]

HIeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

 First of all..... a Happy Belated Birthday to Janey!!

And  a great big to all you newbies!!

This is a great group, hope you enjoy your time here. You never know... you might just learn something or realise something new ( I sure have). There are lots of people with lots of unique and personal experiences with parenting and I for one am loving all the info, advice and tips.

See you around, take care all

Peace, Guiti

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Aislinn thank you for the welcome

i know what you mean about feeling like they add something new everytime you turn around seems like every time i take my son to the doctor he gets a new lable tacked on to him  his actual full diagnosis is Autism pddnos/OCD/Sever arpaxia/Asthma/and unknown auto immune problems he is 7 but has the math skills of a 12 yr old he has behavior issues but only in school (hates his new teacher) motor both fine and grose motor delays and sensory issuse and feeding issues

Occupational evaluation is what they use to test for fine and grose motor delays  kind of sort of sounds like your boy may be on the autism specturm somewhere  as there are like 13 differnet disorders on that specturm and they all can learn  3 yrs ago my son couldnt speek and he was 5 then now we cant hush him up lol  

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

there was a time in my house l had so many kids daily that l thought wow when is the it going to end , all my sons friends call me mom and they all lived here  most of their lives between sleeping in the back yard all night movies and popcorn, kids for supper every day  felt like a army general , on average l had from 3 to 12 kids almost every day ..... thankful it is getting better . my son is an only child so he thought he would bring home strays every day , kids that l have watched grow see me and l get the bestest hugs and l know l had a hand in helping them grow ..... mother of one but mom to about 60 kids .... and three mom to two black labs and three cats .......

it was nuts in here but lots of laughs and fond memories

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi there,  I'm a single Mama of a just turned 2 year old!  He just turned 2 last Monday.  His name is Ashanti.  He's amazing and we have such a great time together. He is very well behaved, sweet, kind, generous, and very advanced for his age. I have had a lifetime of experience with kids, and have been a professional Nanny fro most of my adult life.  I really feel confident as a parent, but I still second guess myself sometimes, and of course make mistakes like everyone.  I feel like I could offer support and education for other parents in this group, as well as get some good support too! My main issue is feeling lonely and needing time to myself as a single parent!   My parenting Bibles are Attatchment Parenting, and The Continuum Concept.  I feel very Blessed to have such a close bond and positive relationship with my son, and I'd Love to share my success, and Joy with anyone interested!  Love and Blessings, Corey.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Welcome Corey!

Welcome Mels!

Pull up a chair and feel comfortable!!

 [ send green star]

Hello,

I am married and have one daughter, Mia, who is 13 months old.  I am working half-time now.  My husband and I are enjoying watching her new skills and personality emerge every day.  As new parents, we want to learn as much as we can about being positive parents/ role models for our daughter.  I am looking forward to learning from all of you and contributing insights when I can.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello,   My name is Niki.  I have  two girls:

                                        Savannah Talor -10

                                       Adrianna Nicole-3 going on 20

We are trying for the third and hopefully will end up with the five that we both want someday.LOL  My husband works out of town a lot so taking care of the kidos is a full time job for me.  My oldest is autistic and keeps me on my toes and my baby is 3 going on 20.  I have never seen a little girl as prissy as she.LOL  They are my heart and soul. 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello, all! A deep curtsey to Corrine and John R and any other 'older' parents I may have missed. I am a newbie to Care2, but it looks like this might be a new home for me.

I am Anne, and a grandmother now. I feel I am too young to be a grannie at 53 but too old to keep up with the two year olds now!

What brought me here was the idea that those who are done raising their children, or at the stage where their children are out on their own (you never stop raising them) could be invaluable to parents with younger children.

What brought that about was the ease in which I was able to identify what my son was doing that directly caused his daughter to lean towards tantrums, quickly becoming a spoiled brat. This is my grand daughter, and I have no wish for her to be this way, so I finally spoke up. Gently. Ever so gently. . . and, thank God, he listened. He and his wife talked, and are on a mission to get her under control immediately, and I smile very day at the improvements.

I raised six children, only two which were mine. I had the advantage of 'learning' with my step children so I had a better handle on parenting by the time my children came along, now 22 and 16. Even then, only hindsight can be 20/20! I am thankful my children were Scouts, they have or will graduate, do not do drugs, are extremely honest, have never been in any trouble, and I am proud of them in any given situation. A big whew!!!

I am in the process of putting together all the tricks and tips I learned along the way, in hopes that they can help someone. Even if this helps one parent, it would be worthy.

The most important and quickest thoughts about parenting: patience, love and positive actions and thoughts.  Then learn, learn, learn.  Then learn and read more! Oh, one more. Each and every single child is different (thank goodness!) and each raising is different. Even after you have done what you know in your heart to be your best and the child builds a life that emcompasses what we think is damaging, you have to let it go without guilt and just be there to help pick up the pieces, if they allow it.  Luck will always be a major factor in all our raisings!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello Everyone...I've been roaming around and this group looks to be a very special one, with many special people.

I have one child, a son.  He just turned 13. 

i feel so old

He's beautiful and funny...smart and loving.  He's kind and considerate and wise for his years.  He teaches me every day, he's my joy, he's my love and without him I would be lost. 

That said:

He's driving me nuts! 

Kiddin'.  He's great.  Really!  I've got no complaints, except that he doesn't have/take any responsibilities seriously.  I really need to work on that area.  Being an only child, I've tended to overcompensate his 'alone-ness' by pretty much doing everything for him.  So, that's really the only thing I need to help him with, taking care of himself.  Otherwise, I couldn't ask for a better child.

Thanks for making this place, I'm going to look around a bit more now that I've introduced myself.

Be well,

Sheena

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Sounds like you have something truly wonderful going on there to be blessed with such a grand child. Aren't children simply miracles? Just when you think you could not love someone more, poof. You do and can.  How much love CAN a heart hold?Also sounds like you will have as much to contribute to these wonderous boards.

A grand day to thee and everyone!

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Anne,

Thanks! What a great welcome!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I'm looking forward to sharing thoughts and insights with each and all of you.

Janey

 [ send green star]

  I really appreciate your clarity and honest approach.  As parent's we do what we can, hope for the best, and always, always lend our support for our children.  What else could we or for that matter, should we do if we have taken on the role as a parent?  Janey has added a VERY valuable site  where novice and the more experienced parent/s have an opportunity to ask, share, respond, and mull over ideas.  Without a doubt caring is sharing.

Correen 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I am Tere, I have one daughter (13) and a son (9).

I love my kids.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

HHmmm Older parents?????? I only feel old when my little one runs rings around me,

They keep me young.

Its great to see so many joining

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi I'm Gloria and I'm "the Grandma" here..LOL! I thought I should introduce myself as I have asked for help here and was given some great advice!

You are all wonderful parents and this is a fantastic board!

Hugs,

Gloria

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi--I'm Jill and am mother to two lovely little boys, ages 2 and 4.  I'm always looking for positive parenting ideas, so I hope that this group will be a source of encouragement for me.  We practice attachment parenting and extended breastfeeding, although both boys now sleep in their own beds  

Thanks for having me . . .

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi Y'All~

Janey here, after 2 weeks off-line.  Great to see new members, Welcome all!  I'm off to check out the discussions- See you around.

It's great to be back! 

 [ send green star]

I am not a parent but have been preparing to become one for a long time.  Knowing nothing about kids, not having been around them much through out my life, sometimes makes my dream a little scary.  You see many kids intimidate me. However I've been told that having my own will change that and that I will gain confidence as time rolls on.  I decided to join this group because, first there is something about Janey's face and profile that I really trust and admire.  Second, I thought this would be a great way to learn about positive parenting through a group of such parents who are already practicing this important way of being.  I don't even have a boyfriend for crying out loud! and here I am wishing for children! I know however that the patience I am developing waiting for this man to build a family with is bringing forth the man that I deserve, as well as highlighting the patience I will need to raise this family..

Sincerely

Michelle

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello Janey

I am a mother to lovely little daughter tomorrow will be 9 months.  Looking forward more postive parenting ideas,sharing experience,etc.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

  Fida and Kim

We're here to make parenting a little easier and more enjoyable for eachother.  Hope you enjoy the group!

Janey

 [ send green star]

guess I should of did my intro here !

name is Kim. Married and a Mom of 2 girls (10-12)

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

hey,

I'm new here and I think I'll really enjoy being part of this group...lord knows I need the parenting advice you all can offer!

I'm 26 and I have two girls ~ Autumn is 2 1/2 and Emma is 7 months.  I stay at home with my girls full time and sometimes it can really put a strain on me.  Autumn is going through the terrible twos and it is soooooo difficult for me to find a positive way to handle her outbursts and tantrums. 

I want more than anything to be a good mom and I want my kids to grow up knowing they are loved. 

Beth

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Thank you for creating such a wonderful group that we all can look to for support in our quest to raise kind, loving & generous human beings!

My name is Stephanie and I'm a single momma to an 8 month old baby boy named Luke.  He is the love of my life!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello.  My husband and I have 2 children-G-14 B-8 and I have a step son B-22.  Big age gaps huh?  Guess that's just the way it was meant to be...anyway wanted to join here with other parents who understand the stress and joy of having children.

BTW 14yr old girls ARE ummm interesting to parent-High School grrrrrr 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I have one big boy. He just turned 16 and boy can I feel the rebel coming out. Like mother, like son.

He is actually (so everyone else tells me) a wonderful kid and very respectful. Well, non family members that is.

I need some help getting thru the screaming, grades, driving instruction.....

Married, but to a man who never had kids and has no interest in them. About the best I can get out of him is a pick up after football practice or driving him to the dentist. It's something, but not a father.

His dad lives 1000 miles away and the longer x is married to new wife (no kids). The less he sends for his son. boo hoo.

Anyway, thanks for starting this group.

I'll see you all around.

Christy

 [ send green star]

Hey. My name is Jerri. I am a SAHM/Domestic Godess. LOL I am married to Kenny. We have been married 11 years now. We have two wonderful children, Kaitlyn is 11 and Adam is 2. We live in NC. I love being at home with my children. I wish I had been able to be at home with Kaitylyn when she was a baby but I had to work then. But it's nice now being at home with Adam and I can volunteer at Kaitlyn's school and be at all her special events.

One of the reasons I am interested in joining this group is because with an 11 year old girl I am going through all the pre-teen, pre-PMS crap, lol and then add a very rambunctous 2 year old to that I need all the help I can get. LOL I have been reading 123 Magic and it has been very helpful.I look forward to getting to know you all.

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Warmest Greetings...

I am CJ and I am the mother to a most amazing soon to be six year old that fills my life with joy, pleasure, frustration, tension, anxiety, unconditional love, variety and did I mention unconditional love? HE is my reason for breathing... my greatest joy, my greatest accomplishment, my world!

I am in a commited relationship for going on tweleve years now. I love my childs father more then words can say

I happen to also be an Attatchement Parent and am proud of it

I DO not spank my child... and do not plan to.

I would love to have another child, but time is slipping away, beign that I am already 37 going on 38! But there is always adoption? Right? If we adopt... I would not adopt a baby, everyone wants a baby... and there are so many young children that just need LOVE!

So... ok, that is my hello? look forward to sharing when time allows.

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Hello everyone!  Even though I've already posted, I just discovered the intros thread and thought it would be a good chance to talk about my son.  He's 2 1/2 and amazing.  He's alternatingly surpisingly quiet and terribly energetic.  Usually when people first meet him or when something's happening that he hasn't seen before, he will just take it all in.  He'll go completely still and quiet and just look with his big eyes.  He speaks well in Chinese and English and often says things like "Mmm.  Good juice.  Thank you for getting this juice for me."  (A little freaky, but very cute once you get used to it.)  Of course, I'm an English teacher and my wife also has a knack for language, so we're always carefully choosing our sentences when we speak to him.

The other day I held out my hand to him but he didn't know I wanted him to give me five, so he just cocks his head back to look at me and goes "What?"  He says the same thing when he's putting toys down the toilet and you call his name in a stern voice.  Is this really a two year old?  What's it gonna be like when he's five?

I'm sure everyone knows what I'm talking about - I think all of our kids pretty much amaze us in one way or another, probably at least 50 or 100 times a day, right?  I think I'm a natural parent - I've always been interested in kids, even when I was a teenager and young adult and thought they were annoying and uncool (I wasn't raised to be loving or appreciate other human beings, I'm gradually figuring out how to let myself do it).  I've just always watched what they're doing and can relate to them, usually better than I can to other adults (not counting Positive Parents and other "enlightened" folks)

My wife is Taiwanese and my biggest challenge in life.  It's not that she's not great, it's just that I hate being married.  I have a lot of regrets because I grew up painfully shy, then got deeply into spirituality, then met her and "we got pregnant", so we got married.  Soon after that, I became filled with regrets about all those shy years and all the potential relationships and unfulfilled desires that I missed out on and would never have the chance to explore because I'm committed now.  This really hurts me on a daily basis as I slowly get older.  I never seemed to mind when I was single, perhaps because I had lots of female friends that I could cuddle with and just be close to, or at least knew I could if I wanted to.  I know I'm definitely in the realm of some other group here, but I was touched by some of the intros from single parents and this started coming up.  It's something I'm really starting to (reluctantly) get ready to work on getting over.

Anyway, moving on, I've studied and practiced very deeply in meditation and Chi-gong - I've gotten a lot of comfort from it and learned a lot too.  After getting to a certain state, I felt that a lot of understandings came to me.  It was often surprising in a calm way, but that's the way things come to you in that connected state.  Right out of the ether.  You don't think something, but suddenly it introduces itself to your head.  This helps me a lot with everything I do, and parenting is no exception, although I don't see how anyone could keep up a daily practice with a young child in the house LOL.  Mine ended after trying to practice for about 3-4 months after my son was born and slowly realize that I was never going to get the same state while half of my mind was on what he and my wife were doing and whether they needed any help.  Also, my practice involves movement, so waking people up was always an issue.  Now my practices are snuck in when the house happens to be empty and I don't have 10 things to try to get done before people come home.  They usually involve releasing a lot of tension and then falling asleep.

Well, thanks to anyone who has read this marathon post.  It's been really nice to type it out, even if no one actually does read it. (But I know someone will, because you guys are all such awesome people )

Bye for now,

Love,

Gary

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

My name is jacqueline i just turned 35 june 3rd i am from ohio and married to a wonderful man for going on 7 yrs in oct ..  i have two wonderful boys

isiah ---5

tyler---13 this july

we all enjoy nascar ...football just about any sport ..we also love spending as much time as we can togther ...my hubby and sons love to fish ...me i am not into that lol don't have the patience for it ...i am a avon representive and bueaty advisor and love it ..still working on the bueaty part of it ...never was one to put makeup on till i got into this ...well that is enough of me .....next

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Great to see so many new faces here and GARY I did read you post thank you for sharing such personal detail, BLESSINGS

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I've made a few posts, but haven't, as yet, introduced myself.  I'm a step-....girlfriend? parent? monster? to my boyfriend's twin girls, Amber and Erin.  We met two years ago this July, and have been together ever since.  His girls were 15 mos when I met (they're now a little over 2 years) and he'd been separated since the previous August.  He's since divorced, and because we live and hour and a half away from his ex, we only get to see the girls every second weekend.  This is very hard, as is being a step-?????, but it is easier because the girls have known me since they were babies.   I'm also an elementary teacher, so the better part of the day is spend with other people's kids anyway.   The girls are in a really fun stage right now and we're really enjoying doing more things with them, although the park is still a favourite.  It's such a fine balance when you only spend so little time with them--you want to do so much, but not spoil them; and you want to maintain discipline, but not growl them all the time.  We make lots of mistakes, but we're learning and doing the best that we know.  I'm looking forward to seeing ideas, tips and tried and true wisdom on here!  Cheers!

 [ accepted]

I'm Esty.  I'm 26, & married I share my home with my husband and my 2 1/2 month old son Mark

Mark is "spoiled" as most say, he sleeps with us everynight and enjoys his time with his dad. Although being a new daddy my hubby isn't quite sure of how to make him calm down at times and tends to pon him off on me when he becomes fussy.

We're really trying to do a good job as parents but there isn't a instruction booklet provided when you give birth to a child.

I'm hoping to meet some parents to share experiences with and maybe get advice from!

Thanks in advance!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hey everyone! Ive been a member of this group for awhile, and Im sure I introduced myself before, probably in another topic...but here I go again anyways! LOL

I'm 24 and I have three children, Kaitlyn (3 in Feb 06) Jordan and Anthony (just turned 1 in July 05). I enjoy reading, walking, cooking, all which usually end up being done with babes in tow! LOL! I just started working p/t again about 2 wks ago. I work three nights a week, 6 1/2 hrs a night. Its nice to be out of the house, and interacting with other people again! The boys have started walking so everything in the house once again has to completely child proofed! Anyone have any good ideas on how to explain to a two year old who is vying for attention from her brothers and so many other people, that is isnt nice to be rude? She isnt horrible, but sometimes she gets frustrated and she makes a face and shoves her face at yours, she knows she is being mad at you. When she does it I ask her why she is being rude and tell her if she needs something that she could ask me nicely instead of doing that. I dont react in a mad way at her because I dont want her doing that anymore. I dont know where she is picking up this stuff!! Anyway, nice to meet you all again!!

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Hello my name is Wendy and I am a sahm with 4 children:

Hope Alexandria - 15

Keagan Dale - 4

Morgan Faye - 21 months

McKenzie Paige 4 months

I have been married to Kevin for 5 years and we have been together a totally of 8 years.

What a great place this is - I look forward to posting here and learning from all you wonderful parents. 

Right now I am trying to learn to balance my time for all family members and even time for my self! We are also in the midst of building on to our house that we are doing all by oursleves.  Its taking a while to get it finished  and our little house 980 sqft is becoming quite cramped with the 6 of us. But I keep positive and know at least it will be built how we want it to be built.

I also am a Doula.  My last two babies were born at home waterbirths with a midwife attending.  I am looking forward to meeting and creating some new friendships.

~Birth is safe as life gets!~

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Welcome Wendy. You sure have your hands full. My boom boom boom boom.

And building ahouse too. Gosh. I'm tired just thinking about it.

Make sure you take some mommy time, cuz if mommy aint happy, nowbody will be.

HUGS

Christy

 [ send green star]

to all our new members!  PLEASE feel free to post and start new threads so I'm not the only one needing advice in here!

Also, feel free to invite friends who you think might enjoy being part of our wonderful awesome group. 

Happy Autumn!     Janey

 [ send green star]

Hi Janey, and Hi All,

I'm a 58-yr. old Grandma with two grown kids,a daughter and a son.  My grandaughter is turning 13 in December and I seldom see her, but she's lovely from the inside out!  I'm hopeful that my Grandmother status will allow me to input here and there.  Of course, I have to say that although my kids are grown and in their 30's, they are still "kids" to me and always will be, I guess.  I mean, in my heart and soul, because I'm well aware that they are adults now.  But, you know, there are always some issues that arise or are already there that a family has to work on even though the gift of age is upon us all.  Time is a funny thing, and sometimes does not heal all things as fast as you would like to have happen!

Anyway, I'm looking forward to getting to know you -in "Time"-and possibly sharing as well. 

LINNER    

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I only ever had one daughter, and am very proud of her, her wonderful husband and their brilliant daughter and remarkable son - 5 and 3 respectively. 

I wish I had known when she was born what I have learned since about dog training. 

• Start training immediately.
• Have a programme of training
• Insist and persist on obedience
• Praise lavishly, especially when favoured with obedience. 

Our dog is very obedient and loving. 

Our daughter knows she is right about child rearing and everything else.  Maybe I didn't do so badly.

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Thanks for the invite to what seems to be a very special group...I am a single mother of a gorgeous little girl of nearly 7 months...she is my love and life...Look forward to sharing with all of you...nx

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi all - thanks for sharing this group, Janey!

I am divorced mother of 3, aged 18, 14 and 12 - two girls (first and last) and a boy (middle).

Since #1 daughter started college, she's been diagnosed dyslexic; we're now starting the process to see if middle son might be too.  We've also discovered that both she and I are dyspraxic (as, probably, is #3).  Since we've all come through the really hard bits, all 4 of us have found this knowledge really empowering.

Anyway, greetings to all, both new and old friends

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Hello All! I'm C.C., 36 yr old mother of one 12yr old son, William Douglas  ! William has special needs; bipolar, ADHD, ODD, Developmental & Learning Disabilities...so, needless-to-say, raising William has been quite a challenge  ! But, despite it all...he's the luv of our lives & we wudn't trade in any of those challenges for anything ! He is our Special Angel  !! Anyhow, right now, unfortunately, he is staying in a Group Home <he has been in & out of various treatment facilities> and we're workin' really hard with them...I cannot wait to have him back home!

Well, guess I've blabbed enough for now...I look forward 2 meetin' yall' and givin' and recevin' support, parenting tips, and friendships

Peace & Prayers, C.C.

 [ accepted]

Hello my name is Rebecca. I am a mother of two boys. One who doesn't live with me, but his father in Spain. He just turned 15. And then my little boy who is 4 1/2 from another relationship. I am looking forward to reading and sharing stories with this wonderful group.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi, I'm Karen, age 30, married.  I'm a certified foster mother in the State of Oregon.  We received my husband's nephew into our home on September 3, 2004 and he has lived with us ever since.  He had already been in foster care for 9 months - it took us that long to get through the certification process in order to be able to obtain him.  He turned 3 on July 4, 2005, and he's my angel.  We are in the process of adopting because his birth mother (my sister-in-law) is unable to become stable, and his birth father has not made an effort.  I can't wait until his last name changes and the Child Welfare office is out of my back pocket...

Our little guy mvoed into our house at 26 months of age.  He didn't talk, he was not yet on solid food, and he was barely walking.  In the 14 months we've had him, he now walks, runs, skips, hops, jumps...eats LOTS of food...he grew 4 clothing sizes in 1 year (we were told he was catching up because he was malnourished)...he's working on talking.  He's quite the chatterbox, but hard for other people to understand because he's got a few speech impediments.  He's got Fetal Alcohol Effect along with some nasty allergies, and we are having him tested because we think there's partial deafness.  Through all that, though, he's a SURVIVOR and he's VERY intelligent.  He's catching up with his peers quite nicely and surpassing them in mechanical ability.  We're really proud of him and his progress.

I haven't read any of the other posts, but found this group and thought I'd introduce myself.  I don't have a lot of time online most of the time, but this looks like a nice positive group to belong to.

Oh - my husband is 34, and neither of us had any previous children.  I think this is a good thing, as our little guy needs a lot of individual attention right now.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

This is really a beautiful and touching story!!!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Welcome to all the new grandma,grandpa, moms and dads.

Hugs

christy

 [ send green star]

Oops!  I didn't post an intro!  I just hit the ground running...sorry!  Hi, everyone!  I'm Susan.  Single, homeschooling mommy to 4 precious little angels and 9 fur-babies (hee-hee).  My kids are Sophie (9, in December), Sydney (7, today...HAPPY BIRTHDAY, STINKER!!!), Sadie (4), and Spencer (2).  And, forgive me, I'm just as proud of my fur-babies...they are (kitties) Hildy, Pumpkin, Jack, Casper, Gus, Storm, Maxwell, and Gidgette and (puppy) Cody.  We're one BIG, happy family!  I'm glad to be here and hope I'm able to help out with some of your ADHD/Disability struggles.  I'm sure I'll be asking for plenty of advice on HOW TO STAY SANE!!! LOL 

My Sophie was a preemie (27 weeks gestation, 2 lbs. 9 oz.).  She's had pretty severe developmental disability, but finally is close to being on track.  Sadie is hypotonic, developmentally diabled, and diagnosis unknown (possible CP, and the latest possibility is a syndrome called Cornelia-DeLang).  All 4 of my children are ADHD.  I see that a lot of you are against medication.  I was, too, at first.  With the disabilities, though, I had little option.  It was evident that in order to keep them safe, they would have to take the meds.  For some reason, both my disabled girls had no sense of danger or fear.  After a broken leg and one near car wreck because she [Sadie] squirmed out of her carseat restraints, I had enough fear in me to look for help.  As much as I hate it, they've been on medication for a year now.  It really has helped!  I'm thankful, so far, we haven't had to deal with any "zombie"-like behavior, but it does affect their general mood.  Anger is now a problem.  It's a daily battle!  For now, though, I feel like medication is the only answer.  They are getting close to the age where they can participate in activities (sports, etc...we're limited here on extracurriculars for kids) that may help them channel all that energy, and then, hopefully, we can get rid of the meds!  I'm glad to be here and hope we can all be great support for each other!  Blessings to all!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi to everyone here .  I joined the group a few days ago, and hope it is ok that I joined, considering I have no children of my own at this moment.   I joined this group due to my interest in working with children, as the group seems to reflect looking for positive, productive ways of teaching, living, sharing, communicating, etc. with children.  This would fit regardless of whether you are a parent, teacher, doctor, etc. to a child.   

I have a teaching credential and have also been working on ways to teach children better inside and outside of the school system.  I do not have any kids of my own yet, however, with the just in case mark that I may someday, it is also good for me to be learning some things prior -- whehter or not I choose to have my own kids in the longrun.   

I also do creative things at times, like create games for children to help them think outside of the box further.  I also began recently writing some short stories for children.

I think children need to learn in newer ways, more outside of the box, and out of the desks!  I think they can learn so many things in real-life activities, while at the same time, they are getting to learn more about real life .

Nice to meet you everyone!!

Kim

 [ accepted]

I would be petrified to homeschool.

For one thing my son had surpassed my math skills by the age of 12. And I had college math in school.

How wonderful that you have this incredible bonding them and tools.

Wow, is your little one going to trust you.

Mine is 16 and laughs at me when I ask what he has for homework. He said, like mom, you wouldn't know if I told you.

The only way I could get him to finish his math (for like 2 years) was to have a math dual. We would each start on the problem at the same time. I almost always got the wrong answer(most of the time on purpose). He would then go thru my problem and tell me exactly where I made my mistake. It was so fun and he is now a A student in math. Not so good in english and history, but if it can be figured, he can figure it.

Momma Hugs

Christy

 [ send green star]

Hello Fiona!  Great to meet you- Christy, I'm glad you were around to welcome our newest groupie.

Fiona, I love what you wrote here: "It makes me wonder how much more could be done if children were enjoying themselves and the lessons were suited to their particular needs. I know that our society can't afford to provide such an environment to our children but doesn't that suggest that we have got it really wrong from the ground up?"  It is essential.  Check out this thread: http://www.care2.com/c2c/groups/disc.html?gpp=1883&pst=252176&archival=

I think you and Susan will enjoy meeting and I for one am interested in hearing more about your homeschooling experiences.

  Janey                         P.S.- my hubby's from Melb. too!

 [ send green star]

You are very here.

Tracye, I was a live-in nanny for a year many years ago.  I think it's great that you care enough to try to understand your little charges better.  I'm off to read the new thread...

 [ send green star]

Hi,

I am Renee, I see several familiar faces from my friends lists etc. I have 2 boys (My "Miracles") as I refer to them; they are "J" 8 years old and "B" 6 1/2 years old.  The "miracle" thing is based on the fact that I almost was unable to have either of them, took fertility shots and endured artificial inseminations etc. etc. (T.M.I. = too much info) I am sure - sorry guys!  But, I truly appreciate, love and enjoy them so much!  Being a Mom is the best job!

Well, here is my question to pose for you all: My marriage is not in the best situation.  My husband is what I would call verbally abusive; he picks and nags on them constantly etc. My oldest tends to have "tics" when he is nervous or upset etc. and he has gotten into his face and said "what are you retarded?".  To me, this was one of the last straws; you don't EVER say that to anyone, let alone your own children.  He also bullies them, and is "rough" with them.  His playing around, ends up with them in tears at times.  I am taking the steps to divorce this man, because I truly do not love him anymore, and do not find anything attractive about someone who can be this way to his own  children!  I plan to be done with him by May (kids have to finish school year out).  but, my boys tend to "act out" - we left for a week and stayed with my parents back in November.  They were upset with me, and to tell the truth I do expect that but, at the same time what exactly would you say to them when they ask why we are not together?  I don't want to totally bad-mouth their Dad, but they should know the truth.  I accept that I will be hated from disrupting their lives, but hopefully in the future they see my true intentions.  Any advice out there???

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Renee, I left a similar situation, where my ex was actually physical with my son (from a previous relationship- the ex adopted him when we married). I think your kids will get it. I left when "I" was 4 and "H" was 2 (they're 5 and 7 now), and everyonce in a while they'll pop off with some comment about how it is better now. I try to keep my relationship with their father civil and respectfull, and hope that even if they do reach a stage where they get pissed off at me for leaving, they'll be able to look back later and see the truth. And as much as I despise the guy, he is their father and they love him anyway, so I don't try to discredit that. They may be young still, but they are definately aware of what's going on. Good luck, my thoughts are with you. And please email me if you need anything.

 [report anonymous abuse]  [ accepted]

I respect your process and your decision.  I think your children will create their own relationship with their Dad over time, but seperating them from an abusive/growth stunting situation is your right, and a respectable goal, even if they won't see it now. 

for posting.  If you agree, I'd like to transfer your post as a New Thread so you can get more feedback from some of the group members that might not check in with the Intros thread. 

Blessings,  Janey

 [ send green star]

Hi Janey,

Yes, please re-post as I would like as much feedback as possible!  Thanks!

Renee

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

My name is Elizabeth and I joined because...like most of you want to stay a positive and true influence in my childrens life!!!  I have two girls ages...5 & 8.  They keep me busy along with my full-time job.  I wear many hats, but the most important and most rewarding is the hat of "MOMMIE!!"  I have always tried to be a positive person and I have tried to direct that towards my girls as well. 

I think having friends to go to and talk to about things makes things so much easier, because...I am speaking from experience..I NEVER have all the answers.

Hope to be a positive energy on this site for "Positive Parenting"

Hats off to all of you!

Elizabeth

 [ accepted]

My name is Kristina, I am 31 yrs old, and I am the mother of a 4and a half year old boy... I am so happy to have found this group, I want nothing more than to provide a happy, healthy and positive environment for my precious little guy to grow in. I think I will definetly learn lots of useful information and tips here, find lots of great advice and hopefully be able to offer up some insight of my own!  Thanks, sincerely, Kristina

 [ accepted]

I could've sworn I posted in here!!! Anyway, I'm Katie, 30, married to my hubby for 6 years, we were together quite a bit before that. We have 1 child, a daughter who's just about 8 months and she's our pride and joy, of course. I was pretty excited to see this group existed. As parents, we're trying to break certain habits we grew up with. This isn't in any way to insult our parents, especially since we both agree that we had happy childhoods. We want to make sure our daughter has the same. I think our biggest problem will be my hubby and I being in agreement over issues that come up as parents.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello, My name is Erica. I have one beautiful, incredible, gorgous daughter who just turned 6 months old. She is truly a miracle baby. I am so pleased to finally have her. I am 27 in May and married just a year ago. My life is finally complete with my little A. I hope to have many more. I was raised with 4 sisters, and know that a house full of children is both rewarding in the short term and long. What would we do without each other? Every child is a blessing from god. I am appreciative for each one to come as so many people cannot have them or choose not to. This is our job in life as women and men too.

Thank you for the invite! I have a group which unites both animals and children. I am glad to be in a group which focuses more closely on one as there are so many subjects to discuss.

Being a mother is so fun I cannot express (as my daughter eats my face and squeels into my ear). I have worked with children my whole life. It is a shear joy...I never imagined how great it would be when I get them permenently!!!    I'm in heaven...

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Wow what a great group!  Thank you Janey, for inviting me.

I am Kelly, I live in Ohio, and I have two children.  DD is 5, and will start kindergarten this Fall, and is she psyched!  DS is 7, is going into the 2nd grade, and lives for Gameboy and swimming.

I am separated from my husband, hope to have the divorce final this year.  We are starting to communicate again, which is good, I was worried about the lack of consistency between our two households for the kids.

Currrently I am a receptionist, although I am trying to find a job with more challenges and more money. I love to scrapbook, hike/fish/camp, and be with my kids.  I also enjoy reading when they are with their dad. I am a Christian.

This group promises to be a great resource for support and advice, and for mind-widening as to parenting strategies.  Looking forward to diving in!

Thank you,

Kelly

 [ accepted]

Hi,  I also thought I had posted here.  Since I don't see anything by me...here goes...

I am mother to three wonderful kids..Amber, 17, going on 40.  She is SO excited to be turning 18 shortly...

Thomas, five, he has autism, but is SO bright. He is such a love. 

Victoria, two, who this week was dx as PDD.  I think that her speech delay is just that, speech, not mental.  She is sharp as a tack.  She does have wicked tantrums, but she IS two.  I am hoping that she will outgrow those soon.

If I may ask those who have done this...why do you only put the first initial of your children? 

All my kids have had their challenges.  Am is the only one who is 'mainstream'.  She will start her senior yr of high school this fall. 

I do try to be positive in my parenting.  I do slip and make mistakes, but my kids know they are the light in my eyes, and the love in my heart.  They are such precious miracles.  The pic here is of my son.

Well, that's me.

Peace.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

So true Leaf. Just when you think you got no more love to give, some little person comes along and steals your whole heart.

Congradulations. Our first 6 weeks sucked too.

 [ send green star]

Hi Tra, glad you could make it. There are many people here with special needs kids. I'm sure if you start talking about Pumkin, others will show up.

Rebecca, I could never home school. I was so glad when my son left for school everyday I could have kissed the bus driver. Besides by the time he was in the 6th grade, I had to read the whole book to be able to help him with one problem. I never had physics in high school Good Grief. Besides having to work......Our school system has done a better job that I could have. Kudos to you!

And Brandi, BREAKING THE CYCLE is the best thing you could do. I did it (as best I could) just trying to be conscious of my yelling and NO hitting ( like mom used to haul off a slap me across the face) You will be amazed at how you will have a much happier and successful child because of what you are doing. You Go Girl!

 [ send green star]

I am Angie.  I am a single mom of three kids:

• Allyse, 13
• Ashley, 10
• Robbie, 7

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Hey there,

I've been a member here for a few months but have never been properly introduced!  Here goes....

I am 31 and I have a 10 year old son named Kieran.  I was only 20 when I became pregnant.  My parents were really mad and treated me as if I had ruined my life.

After 2 months of pregnancy the father abandoned me, saying he didn't feel like getting a job and being responsible. (His words!)

My son has also been abandoned as he is 10 yrs old and his father has made no effort at all to see him, (that's right my son has never met his father!) and has never sent him a birthday card or Xmas present, despite the many times I have called my son's father and his parents and asked them all to be a part of my boy's life.  So I feel I have done all I can by giving them the invitation and the rest is up to them.  Unfortunatly for my son it has been 3 years since I last contacted these heartless people, with no reply .

By pre school it was apparent that my son acted differently in many ways than other kids and after years of testing and waiting lists, in his first grade he was diagnosed with ADHD and High Functioning Autism. I cried and cried for so many days. 

I spent many years with fairly serious depression and anxiety (for many reasons,not just issues pertaning to parenting and my son)I have worked very hard at overcoming depression and anxiety.  I have learned to take control and responsability for the direction of my life and my actions.  I have a full time job and am financially independant.  I also work out for an hour 6 days a week!  It feels great!

Fast Forward to the present and my son is in grade 5.  Academicaly he is doing extremely well.  He gets "A"s in over half his subjects and is involved in afterschool soccer, and a leadership and teamwork class that meets 2 saturdays a month.  I play the piano and used to be a piano teacher so my son also plays the piano, recorder and tin whistle and loves to sing! He is also involved in a church group (pioneer club) once a week.  I always tried to have him around alot of people to help him learn social skills and just make his world bigger.

He has no real friends. It's been 4 years since he has been invited to a birthday party. He is not badly teased (but has been in the past) but the kids just simply tollerate him, as they know that "something is wrong with him".  He is very argumentative with anyone. Me, grandparents, my friends, teachers, strangers etc.  He has no fear whatsoever of arguing with an adult. He is exceptionaly bright and it goes without saying that my son likes to be right. All the time! 

I have taken lots of parenting classes and classes for the spirited child. I have also taken anger managment and self esteem courses for myself. I've read countless books on every topic of parenting, books on ADHD, Autism, anger managment etc. ,and have tried to teach my son the things I have learned. I try to empower myself using  one of my personal strengths - resourcefullness!

Alot of days can be a struggle and besides frustration I often I feel very isolated and lonely. Having an internet connection is helpfull.

I keep myself busy with crafts, reading, cooking, music, outdoor walks and hikes, and exploring my world with travel and day trips. 

The most important thing I have learned in all my studies over the  years is to never underestimate a positive attitude.  I might not be able to control everything that happens to me but I will always have control over how I will react! To quote Viktor Frankl:

I am glad to be a member of this group.  Thanks for listening!

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Thanks for inviting me, JAney.  Let me introduce myself.  My name is Sara, and I live in the United States (California).  I have two children (Not counting my husband who sometimes seems like a third child-LOL)-

My son, Benjamin, is 9 and my daughter, Miriam, is 6.  They are the blessings in my life.

My biggest challenge is I'm not bery organized and we have a fairly chaotic lifestyle, but I try to keep the kids somewhat structured.

Spirituality and rituals are a big part of our life.

Thanks!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi, I just joined this group, and looking through the threads this seems to be a really great group!

I´m 31 and a share-mom to a three y/o boy. Share meaning that his father and I share him one week at the time. We live close by eachother and have a really good communication - we actually spend a lot of time together, we just can´t live together. For our son it means that he has both his parents equally, he has the same ground (day care etc), but each Friday he gets the bonus of a well rested parent who is thrilled to have him!

Both the father and I agree very much on our approach to raising our child, we work very well together. We don´t "follow a program" or anything, we just listen to our son, take him seriously, show and expect respect and show where our limits go. This has made our son very openminded and well-communicating, and over all he is a very well functioning and happy intelligent kid. He is very interested in writing letters at the moment, and he writes a lot of "A"s

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

WowSigne, You sound like you are it all going on. Even sounds like maybe oneday you and your X might find a way to get along. YOu both have the right priorities.

It is all about the responsibility that we are blessed to have. You and your X sound like a great couple of parents.

 [ send green star]

  I just posted to one of the other threads and realized I never introduced myself.    I'm Radonda.  I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter.  I am a homeschooling mommy who believes in an AP approach to parenting.  My daughter was born naturally, with the help of a mid-wife...we extended breastfeeding etc.   I don't believe in corporol punishment.  I find many of the television programs/ toys and advertisements aimed at children to be distasteful and inappropriate.  We try to eat realitively healthy...although we do like our treats!!! Especially, home-made desserts! YUM   

   Well, that's my parenting style in a nutshell.  Of course all of that is depending on the day, the weather and my or my daughters paticular mood at any given second...LOL.  I am not a perfect parent...just a parent of a perfect kid (because aren't we ALL???).  I find I learn something about myself or the world around me every single day and my child is my best teacher. 

  Oh yeah, I used to work in social work and still do some "contract" work from home at times.

Peace,

Radonda 

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

What a concious, bright and warm group of parents here!

 [ send green star]

Hi Slavena, I'm really glad you're here!  Sounds like your husband is a good father and that you also have a lot to offer your stepson.  I wish you luck on the courtcase, if you decide to go for it. (Sounds like your stepson would benefit from more time with you two.) 

Please feel free to browse the threads and archives and to start new threads.  Welcome!

Janey

 [ send green star]

I never introduced myself in this group!

I'm Jessica, single mom of a wonderful, beautiful, intelligent 3 yo girl. I try to take my daughter seriously as her own little person and value what she says and that things that are important to her.

She's an only child and her father has not been involved in her life for nearly two years. Raising her without a dad is challenging . . . but she is great.

I think *crossingmyfingers* we're through the "rough patch" of terrible twos . . . she's actually pretty well-adjusted and well-behaved . . . but ask me again next week

I work, and I'm a student; my daughter attends preschool on my college campus. I was mostly a stay at home mom her first three years and took a very natural AP approach to motherhood. V is pretty independent and secure in her world.

Okay, that's it! I love this group and thanks to everybody for being here together!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi everyone, I'm Heather, a single mom of a beautiful boy - he'll turn 2 next week.  With the new year I thought I'd try something new - and this care2 place is it.  So far, I feel like I'm home and have been wondering where you all have been all my life.  I struggle with discipline both at home and with my students (I teach K-12 English as a Second Language) and I'm hoping to find ways to deal with this struggle in a loving, yet clear and consistent way.  Hopefully I can contribute somethings too - I've travelled and lived in Russia and Japan and have friends from all over the world.  Sometimes taking a cross-cultural perspective or approach really helps.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Heres a little bit about me im a stay at home mother of 3 wonderful boys.Ive been married for 8 years now.My kids ages are

B~8

L~4

J~almost 2

 [ accepted]

Hi everyone!! Am new to this group and I am hoping to make new friends here. Thanks Janey for the invitation!! I am a single mother of 2 children... The Boy (Caleb) just turned 14 and The Girl (Lauren) is 4. (loving nicknames huh?? )

 I am going it alone, with the only help I get being from my mom. I don't know many other parents and don't really get a chance to talk about parenting tips and what not too often, so that is something I am hoping to get from this group! And hopefully some of Janey's patience will rub off on me!!!!!!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

(Jessica- help, I'm falling off my pedistal over here!)

 [ send green star]

Hello to all. My name is Morning and I am Mother to 3 children ( Ashli, 16-Miles, 5-and Ethan, 2) and wife to Mark ( whom I often consider my 4th child!)

The title of the group is what grabbed my attention to begin with. I gravitated toward the "Positive"  My hope is to gain some insights and ideas from other parents and possibly share some of my own.

My daughter (the eldest) is from a previous relationship and I, like many others, was faced with the hardship of single parenting. I didn't meet my husband until she was about 8. When I look back on those years I wonder how I even survived. I guess I knew I had to.

Now our family is blended ( term???) and we have a whole new set of hardships. Everything from discipline to finances, housecleaning responsibilities to finding time for date night!

So as you can see I feel I can only gain from any experience other's are willing to share.

 [ send green star]  [ accepted]

Hi my name is Betina and I am a mother of 3 kids.

O:8, R:5, T:14 months

Two boys and a girl (the youngest)

I am married and I just went back to studies.

I chose to member in Care2 because I do care about how to raise my kids in a "good" way and I like to about how other parents deal with parenting

Betina

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi, my name is Meisje. I am the mother of a fiesty five year old daughter and a happy-go-lucky (except when he is teething) 8 month old boy.

I have struggled at length with my fiesty daughter. I am a therapist, but boy, when it comes to your own kids it can be very hard to see clearly how to respond to tough behavioral stuff. However, I think that my husband and I have done  a pretty good job. AND there are times when we really worry about how it' going to turn out.

I am excited to join and see what ideas people have and to hear what they are struggling with.  I think that when it comes to parenting, the more help and support we can get, the better we can be and I am excited to be a part of this community.

Meisje

 [ accepted]

My husband & I have been married almost 15 yrs, we have 4 wonderfull kids.

Missy ~ F ~ 14

Sammy ~ F ~ 10

Ty ~ M ~ 8

Pookie ~ F ~ 5

We are dealing with ADHD with our son, and just the lovely joys with our girls.

Please send help . . . Jennifer

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I guess your home is busy to say the least.

Thanks for joining. We are not the busiest group, but once a topic hits a nerve or someone has a question, we all jump in.

Welcome

 [ send green star]

Hi, I just recently joined and am looking forward to sharing stories and good advice!

I'm married and have three children: Paige (F-13), Colin (M-4), and Aidan (M-2).  I'm a full time mom now, although used to work full time before Aidan came along.

I'm looking forward to meeting some new people, so hope to chat with you all soon.

Have a great weekend,

Kim

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Jacqueline-37

Mother of two boys

Isiah --8

Tyler-15

I am a stay at home mom and homeschooling mom of my 8 Yr old he has alot of health problems and we just found out that he has some learning dissabilities and also has anxiety as well , he was in public school but i chose to take him out and try and get him back where he needs to be . Tyler my 15 yr old is my stepson but don't treat him like  a stepson he is my boy lol . I am also married and have been for 9 yrs .

I am glad to have found this group i sure feel like it will be very helpfull with what i have going on with my life .

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi!  I am Kim.  I currently have no children (hopefully there will be some soon) but I work with children and families everyday   In my career I see many different parent styles and am learning from families constantly and hope to learn all I can before I have children of my own.  I also plan to participate in some of the different topic threads since my occupation and education background will hopefully be of use in some areas.  I look forward to chatting with everyone!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I'm Renee' and I have one child S. who is 8 years old.

S. is a picky eater and a lovely lovely human being!

I just wanted to stop by and say HELLO ALL!!

Smiles from Me..

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi

Im rachel - 46 with 3 kids 23,21 and 4. And I have a grandson on the way. I thought id got through being a mum of a young family then went and did it again!! But I love having my youngest - she is certainly keeping me young - though im not actually that old. Its amazing how much you forget and now i have her going through the same kind of stuff as her older siblings I think 'oh yes - i remember doing that before!!'

Im a single mum - and money is tight, I cant afford to run a car and holidays are a distant memory, but we have fun. My eldest two have left home but come and visit every week so they are still a close family. We live quite simply - lots of outside walking, exploring and picnics (even in the rainy times). Im very involved with the nursery - on the committee and i intend to be involved with my daughters school when she starts in september. My eldest daughter (21) is with her partner and expecting her son in october, and my son (23) is at uni. The eldest 2 still come to me for advice and im happy to say our relationship is such that they tell me most things (even the stuff you dont want to hear as a parent - but im glad they do).

looking forward to getting to know some of you better.

rachel x

 [ accepted]

Hi Tracy Rachel and everyone else here.

Tracy, I have a distanct cousin that you might want to network with I only have her lineage web addy, but you can find her from there.

I wish Tracy was here too.

Anyway, welcome!!!

Christy

 [ send green star]

Hi everyone, finally some action. I'm Toni and I have 3 children who are 9,8, and 2-whew!  Let's just say that I take it day by day. Don't worry-you don't have to tell me now to have anymore lol-I am done and my 8 year old daughter says she is done before she starts loud lol.  I am trying to work from home but the little one keeps getting in the way. I would never send any of them back-but I could use a vacation.  I am so glad to finally connect with some people. On many of the sites, the connections are either already established or non existent. I will be checking daily. God Bless!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi, my name is Susan! I'm a full-time wife and mommy to two beautiful special needs children and a primary caretender for my mom and disabled aunt! Needless to say, I'm a very busy lady with very little time on my hands! I've always wanted to find something I could do from home to supplement my family’s income, but I could never

find anything that was legitimate AND worked around my busy schedule! What I finally found was a company that was risk free, reputable & over 24 years old. There are no hidden fees, no selling and no inventory. They also offer weekly pay which is practically unheard of anymore. When I was searching for a company there were many things I knew I didn’t want to do invest money, buy inventory, sell products, have parties, take orders or telemarket. I was amazed to find one that didn’t expect me to do any of those!

You can work part time or full time depending on your income goals, everything is month to month, no contracts or quotas, no monthly fees. I call the shots and spend as much time with my family as I need.

I have been building this business since December of '08, I started this when in addition, I was a fostering special needs children, so I know anyone can do this. It definitely requires hard work and determination, but it is so worth it. It only takes 25 minutes to get you all the details on the company so you can decide if we are a good fit for you. We may or may not be what you are looking for, but at least you’ll know. If you are in the same situation as I was and you'd like more information

go to my website at: http://www.Free2beMoms.com.

You can view the link that says view more and then if you would like me to contact you, please click the link that says Get More Info. Now! and give some basic information and I'll get back to you!

Hugs,
Susan

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hi All,
I am a single Mom, adoptive parent and a Grandma. I'm a nurse, as well as an artist, writer and very involved in my community in the arts and issues affecting families and children. When I was raising my children, I always had weekly family gatherings to discuss matters of interest, or concern to us. It was very helpful and allowed me to learn what my children were dealing with, or thinking about. I also made sure I knew all their friends and their families. Looking forward to discussions.

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

Hello, I"m Nienke..

I'm a mother of 1 girl (21 months young lady) and a stay-at-home-mommy..

I sometimes feel the need for some positivity in parenting..my daughter's days are like this; no, mine, angry, crying, no eating, a lot of protests and throwing herself on the floor..acting her cries and hiding her smiles..aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah..I feel more like a referee than a mother at times..there goes my energy..advise, tips? welcome!!

 [ send green star]

 [ accepted]

I thought that after my son went to college and I didn't have the (everykind of sport) schedule I would be online more, but ....Don't be mad. I did some traveling all by myself.. AHHH.... I'm living proof that once you do the time you will be able to have some of the time for you..

Don't stop learning any and everything you can, computer, politics, anything you can access with the few minutes you might have at nap time. Treat yourself to a pedicure of massage or something every six months. Once a month would be nice, but not practical. Hopeing to have the time to do this once a month will simply piss you off when 6 months go by and you never make it to the shop, so you can soak your tootsies in hot bubbling water and someone taking care of each little toe while you wonder if they are talking about??

Seriously, A long bath, a walk or something will make you feel like you can take it one more day. That is when those days come along.

As for the kids, get them involved in sports, music, art, make sure they see you as someone who cares about those less fortunate and involve them in charity.Make a big deal about injustice at least once after they are in school.

Don't try to be there friend, but be friendly.

And lastly. Lie Lie Lie to them. Don't let them see you drink, if you drink, smoke, if you smoke or say hurtful things to your family or friends. Give your kids a chance to be better than you.

And when I say You, I mean Me. Teaching my son independance meant telling how much money I made, how a ticket made my insurance go up. When and why I refi my house...

He is wonderful.

Those reeses monkeys made me stay home with my son until he was 6. Good Job MoMs!!!!

 [ send green star]