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Caring for an Older Parent November 29, 2004 1:17 AM

I didn't know where else to start this but I need some serious help with my Mom aka "Merm". She is 79 years old & while her physical health is terrible- Osteoporosis (sp?), Arthritis in both hands, Psorasis on her legs & a funny 'tickle cough'- Merm can still make homemade Gazpecho & Osso Buusco! At the the same time, she is bouncing checks all over the place :(. This is very strange because when my Dad was alive (he died unexpectedly on 7/26/01), she was in charge of both accounts! Merm is also an Alcoholic- she doesn't call it that but I recognize it as such- and she Won't Change. Trust me on that! I am getting married in 18 days and need some help, hints & suggestions as to what I can do for Merm. We (Richmond & me) moved in w/ her after my Dad died & will continue to stay here. Thank you ahead of time! God Bless, A.J.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
A Handful December 01, 2004 8:22 PM

Yep, you most likely do have a lot to deal with. I don't know that I can offer much except some "sympathy" ...'cause I have been there done that"...and to let you know that you are not alone. My dad was an alcoholic as long as I can remember...and made problems of all kinds. He became VERY ill while living alone: menengitis, stroke, alcoholism and coma. He had been unconscious for two days when he was found. He was 70. He spent the next four years in a nursing home, because they were the only ones that could manage his illness and some of his out rageous behavior. (Did you know that at least 50% of the patients in nursing facilities are there because of alcohol and the physical damage it has done?) I hope that someone else will have some good pointers and advice for you, but meanwhile, I do know how to listen when you talk, so let us know how things are going .....and good luck.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 December 09, 2004 10:55 AM

Dear Great Grand-Cousin, I just saw your posting and am saddened to hear about what's happening with Merm. Since you are an Only, do you think your friends- Robert or Ralph- could help w/ the bouncing check problem? She might get mad if Richmond tries to help because she'll think he's 'over-stepping' his boundary...until you get married that is. I wish I knew of a way to help you...I could wire $$ to you to help w/ the phone bill... Darling A.J., You continue to be in my prayers. God Bless, Uncle Willard aka Henry  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 December 12, 2004 11:45 PM

Dearest Great Grand Uncle Willard, Thanks for the offer of help. And the phone call on Saturday morning :). Love ya bunches! p.s. stop bottling yer beer the wrong way & I do NOT want to see an Inflatable Rabbit show up here the morning of the 18th!!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Merm December 18, 2004 2:02 PM

Hi there, ...there is a dementia that goes along with alcoholism which sounds like could be affecting your mother. You can read more about it at this addy: www.mentalhealth.com  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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