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10 years ago
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Are you looking for someone special? Then this is the thread for you. Post a little bit about yourself and the type of person you are looking for and hopefully, like minded, environmental people will find you! *hearsmile*
I love being cupid . . .
I am looking for a man
10 years ago

He must be, intelligent, funny, put women on a pedestal and have the utmost respect for men looking for love also. A good listener and a great wordsmith, I think the older man would be good, a few words of wisdom bout love, how to woo the female, etc etc....

if you check out my groups you will understand why? (its getting desperate!!!)

I do hope you dont mind me posting here for this....

Much Love

Zora

Zora
10 years ago
sorry, but I'm already in a relationship... but I'll be visiting your group much more from now on ar
Oh Amos
10 years ago

Not for me, and certainly no unfaithfulness ever crossed my mind, though you were the person I was thinking of!!!

I am looking for a man to help me, come to the group and you will see, I so dont like advertising in other groups, hence my less than clear message.

I do think you will all love it though, LOVE LOVE LOVE

Anonymous
My Wishes...
10 years ago

Okay here's the "tofu" of the matter...

I'm a "Vintage" Hippie Woman(53) though sprouts are NOT growing between my toes - but, I do like a crunchie bowl of granola now & then, and a warm hug from a tree from time-to-time, and would love to pet a whale.  I would like to meet/connect with a man near my age, (44-60), and compliment each other's interests, dreams and aspirations...and make a little "whoopie' in the process.

I'm easy going - mellow, but my mind is always learning and creating as I love:  Writing, reading, singing(I have a small group), music (mostly in general, but not Rap or Heavy Metal or the fingernails-on-the-blackboard-barbershopper type of yowling),  fabric art, quilting, clothes sewing, cooking/baking, gathering with friends or my grown children, cafes, bookstores, NPR, PBS, natural foods co-ops, resale shops, herb pharmacies, walking along Lake Michigan(not so much in the Winter, except if it's in the 30 degrees range it isn't so bad), and I am a Unitarian Universalist.  I have a number of social concerns I try my best to attend to when I am able.  I am tolerant, patient, understanding, an absolute joy to be around --- and the first to proclaim I'm not perfect.  Just trying to meet up with someone to be imperfect with is all!

I am 5' 6", Br hairs & eyes, Red hair from a box (no, not an Eva Gabor wig...) - chin length and growing, average form, fun-loving, a witty and warm sense of humor,  and can very easily laugh at my own faux pauxs when the occasion arises - trust me, I am my own best source of amusement!   I have a 9-1/2 yr old Shih Tzu-Poodle mix dog named Louie.

Well, that's quite the gist of me.  Film at 11.

Do your magic!

Peace & Unrest, Carol

New Member
10 years ago

I'm 19, kinda athletic, light brown hair, greenish eyes. 135 pounds. My hobbies are hiking, rock climbing, riding my bike, poetry, music...and about a million other things. I don't like smoking, but accept others smoking...but I don't drink, and it is the one major thing I won't tolerate in a mate.

Mutual trust, honesty, openness, no cheating...these are things I value.

I'm looking for someone 18-28. I don't care what you look like, just your personality. You've gotta be someone who won't hurt women. Or yell at them. And maybe you could share some hobbies with me. And please, nobody who drinks.

10 years ago
Welcom Aurora!
10 years ago

Hi! 

I'm a 32 year old, never married girl with no kids.  I enjoy all sorts of things - but most often you'll find me biking, walking, reading, writing, camping, swimming, watching movies, watching sports, or drooling at car shows.  I love country music and 70s music the most, but I'll listen to almost anything.  I'm currently living in MI, but I'll be moving to TN shortly.  I'm close to my family and consider them to be my best friends.   

I'd love to make some new friends so feel free to write! 

10 years ago
Zora, you are still invited to be my friend!

Right, a bit about me: I'm a young, divorced but very loving 33, with plenty of time on my hands, living on my own in Ely, near Cambridge, UK. I'd like to meet someone who sings with joy and love, loves life as much as I do and who isn't afraid of dropping me a line on the off-chance Make my day/week/year/life and yours, by being the right person to be my 100th care2 friend

Looking for
10 years ago

A straight male, spiritual, nature loving, animal loving,people loving, musical, music loving, fun loving, not wanting additional children, able to be alone, knows how to be together, can teach, can learn, can listen, can love, can hold, can let go. On Long Island or close to. 40 - 50, cares for inside more than outside.

I think this is more of a prayer or a meditation than a thread but here it is anyway.

Peace not pieces, peace and Love

Margaret 

Anonymous
I got nasty habits
10 years ago
Ha ha, not really. I am a trickster and a funster. I work with people living with mental illness. I am a lifelong peace activist, which is where I usually find the women I connect with. I am a UU/Quaker. I am an African American, always voting for leftist parties. I live in the midwest, Milwaukee to be exact. Although I talk about a lot of songs from the 60s, I believe that my best days are ahead. Let's have lots of laughs, lots of rallies and a glass of wine at night.
Best days ahead
10 years ago

I also believe my best days are ahead, but along the way I try to have as much fun as will fit in my limited free and financial times.

Merlo or Cabernet? Clink, Cheers.

Anonymous
Merlo, definitely
10 years ago
I am a Merlo drinker, on a 2 glass limit. Thanks to the alcoholism in my family, I never found the idea of drinking myself into a stupor appealing. Similarly, smoking ruled itself out. Why ingest poisonous substances that will remove you from your children's lives? I love theater. One of NYC's gifts is free summer theater. Shakespear in the park. I lived in Queens, near Shea. It was a great experience. 
Anonymous
NPR is passe
10 years ago
I listen to PRN, radio for the dyslexic. I am a legend in my own mind.
I bet you are
10 years ago
I bet you are, funny  too.
Hehe
10 years ago
Funny in his own mind
Well its got to start someplace
10 years ago
As Buddha says its all in our mind
and he doesn't even know me...
10 years ago
I mean Buddha... ar
Dating
10 years ago

What kind of man do I want? A man who likes people and experiencing other cultures. A man who likes to travel, but is comfortable going to a small guest house or renting a room with a family, so that you really experience the people of the area. Someone who likes to participate in sports rather than just watch them. Someone who can sit and watch the ocean or sky for hours and marvel in the enormity of it all...or get all dressed up and enjoy a play... Someone who 'gets' my passion for my causes, whether they agree with me or not. Tolerence of others is the key...and enjoying just being alive on this earth.

Ha is there anyone out there like that? Hard to put what you are 'looking for' into words...this is a good start.

Cat

Oh and Amos...I know that you are already 'taken.'

Hi
10 years ago

iam Pharmacist ,divorsed i dont drink,dont smoke

love movies ,love to travel,go out,i live in cairo but dont mind to move because i spent most of my life travelling

Anonymous
If you date me, you may be rolling in the aisles
10 years ago

Sometimes, we'll be immature, laughing and careening through life, as you can tell from my postings. We'll dance to soul music, do an Irish jig and eat at the Mexican restaurant. Life will be a mural. None of that all black, all brown, all white stuff. A collage. Any yahoos out there?

Catharine!
10 years ago

Because I SO resonate with what kind of a man you want, I tried sending you a star, BUT I just learned that only 1/week is allowed. Darn! Just wanted you to know ... ! And, yes, I know, if you find him, he's yours!!! hahaha

May you dream of discovering the man of your dreams and bring him back into your daily life!

Sincerely,

Joy

Kenyatta
10 years ago

Ha ha ha...I studied Scottish Highland dance for years...gotta watch those swords! You could lose a toe!...grew up on Motown. Spent a month in S. Africa last year finding myself (yup I was lost.) Made a mid-night raid on a men's military college many moons ago~crazy enough?

Who would be the sensable one?

Cat hee hee

Joy
10 years ago

Ha!!! You are so sweet! How about you take all the 'perfect men' in the west and I'll take the 'perfect men' in the east (notice I said 'all the perfect men' ~ I'm a dreamer too!!)

At the moment just thrilled to be enjoying all the fun people in all the different groups of care2!

You can spot a LEO a mile away...dividing up their prey! 

(Think we have scared them all off yet??)

Cat

I wish everyone the best
10 years ago
  I find it so amazing as to energy/feelings that come across about others from online from their writings alone, so, I am sorry if my attempt at being funny didn't come through   I will have to try harder!! Gosh darn it! .

I was teasing our very spirited friend as to being only funny only in his own mind...
I used to be a f/t sarcastic smart a*s, and sometimes it rears it's ugly head, what can I say... I'm still reforming myself

I wish you all the best in finding whatever you are looking for. I find even when we do find that person we can fall softly into life with, we still should continue searching in one way or another to beas complete as we can be, may it be together, or even more importantly, for ourselves... It's a lifetime work, isn't it?

In the past, I've dated quite a bit from online, and it can be very interesting, indeed! If there weren't already so many books now written about it "the right/safe way", I would start a thread.....

I personally, was not into going to bars.  I wasn't meeting anyone of substance in all the wonderful places I used to go, either. Botanical Gardens, Central Park, anywhere in the city..etc. The man I married, is not one that would just walk up to someone and make conversation, but, I was, and it still didn't happen that way. We met through a mutual friend, but began from online becaause I wanted to see what he was about through, letters, I.M, etc. first. Being all the experience I acquired from the "Match.com" and the likes, I c ould tell pretty quick if it was something I was interested in pursuing or not. Probably, because I knew myself pretty well. This was all because of the experience I acquired doing it.  I had been hurt quite amount of times, but looking back on it all, I wouldn't change one thing!!! Speaking to people from around the globe was my favorite part of the experience... I even thought I was once in love with someone from England....but he was trying to change me from who I was and well...you know how that ended.  There are lot's of stories to tell, but my garden awaits.

May all of you're own "gardens" florish!
Amos
10 years ago
You're Groucho would have worked well with that....
Naturallynice!
10 years ago

Your wonderful, helpful personality comes through your posts...um...naturally!  I caught the 'in his mind thing'...and giggled out loud...my daughter is convinced that I am loonie!

I look forward to lots of helpful hints from you as I have been out of the dating scene for ah...oh...two decades!!!

What am I thinking?!

By the way, I lived in Ohio once upon a time! Near Cincinnati!

Samir
10 years ago
One of my dearest friends in the world, that lives in NYC (was my next door neighbor before I moved away), is from Alexandria, and has a sister stil there that has never married, but is looking to with the "right man". She is about 28-29 in age, and I believe looking for someone around that age (but I am not 100% sure) I have met her and she seems to be a lovely person. She is a Pharmacuitcial sales person for quite a number of years now. I do know that she is an Orthodox Christian, and is looking for the same in a man.

So, just how far is Cairo from Alexandria, anyway?
Ok
10 years ago
So, Catherine, maybe we can barter our services to each other..yes?

You may wish for some asssistance in "getting back in the swing of things", and I have lot's of past experience of "being in the swing of things".

I have never been to Cincinatti and wish to... There is even a possiblity that we may oneday move to that area, so as to be closer to a larger and "better" city than, Toledo (not my idea of great city if you ask me!!..lol)

Samir, so are you divorced, or are you separated (what you're profile states), or somwhere inbetween?

Oh, and Joy and Catherine, you two sound like you ought to stick together
Naturallynice!!
10 years ago

Joy and I seem to get each other's humour...it started on a different thread? or group.  Sorry in advance but fear all our posts will have weird humour!

I do have a serious side which you have seen. 

By the way..I am the Leo...not Joy...her birthday is closer to yours!

I guess if I was going to pretend to be well behaved, quiet and demure...I've blown that right out of the water...I'll never date again!

Cat

NN
10 years ago
. Groucho is ineed one of my favorites. ar
10 years ago
Amos, I am sure if Groucho was alive today, he would be a fan of you'res too... oh, and from Vanna through me, to you "d" .

Catherine, how in the world do you know when my birthday is? Is it in our profiles? I don't see where...
10 years ago
  Ok, I see where
10 years ago
Yes, Joy's birthday is quite close to mine (and at a very exciting part of the year!) Not only that, but I would certainley vote for her in the Mayorial elections if only she would run? 

Catherine, you are exactly one year and a day older than my oldest brother. I am sure you are nothing like him though!!!
Cat dear
10 years ago
I'm not 'taken' - I'm still on a free choice bases. And by the way - wouldn't it be better to write what you have to offer as a person rather than requests? After all everyone is interested (in the first place) in what the other has to offer them as a person and not what they demands (that comes later ). It worked for me and my partner. ar
Dating
10 years ago

NN: I am a researcher...ha I researched your birthday, page two of profile!   and Joy is so named due to proximity to holidays!

AR, dear: I mis-spoke...perhaps not 'taken' but Bee would have my hide!

As per the 'slant' on my post...Zora made me do it  see above!

What can I offer ! Lord have mercy! (Not Lord Tom by the way).

Can I get back to you on that??? I'll have to go make it sound all nice and pretty...and so it will take me a long while!

 BBLTL (be back long time later) Cat

offer as person of course...
10 years ago
i already know many things ar
AR
10 years ago

Has Tracy been talking? Oh I'm gonna have a chat with that red head!

Still thinking!

Cat

10 years ago
I think I am going to open up a flirting thread for all you love birds!!!!!
Cat
10 years ago
Tracy didn't talk - you did One can get to know a person through his words and deeds, you know... We all offer something - also online. ar
10 years ago
good idea Leafy I thing we are disrupting this thread. ar
Oooooh...I LOVE flirting!
10 years ago

Bring it on, Leafy!!!

           

It doesn't actually matter that I'm married, does it???????? 

Cat....tsk! tsk!....would I reveal your deepest darkest secrets?  (Yup...in a heartbeat, for the right amount of money.....)

Amos....I shall protect you from the Texas Tornado....not

Oh My Lord :)
10 years ago

~ You guys are too funny! 

I don't want much, or so "I" think.  I need a man who:

Won't try to change me...will respect that I both want to share the 'simple' things in life; yet also respect my need for solitude and time it takes to assist other's.  A man who can make me laugh -> (most important)...that alot of my 'exs' have remained as my friends...I am brutally honest and a man is history if he lies...We 'visit' each other and live separate...A man who respects other's, at all times...A man who agrees to disagree...A man who can tolerate/respect/accept my 'causes' in life...A man who is NOT materialist/hung up on himself, etc.,...A man I can just sit with in the lounge chairs at night, enjoying watching the moon, listening to crickets, dreaming, unwinding, walking through the woods, creeks, etc...A man who can take his negative experiences in life and put them in positive gains to help himself, as well as other's...

Hmmmmmmmmm...Well, I guess I was wrong ~ I want alot...probably 'why' I'm still single...Ha! 

Smiles, Light & Laughter!

Cindy 

10 years ago
It doesn't matter Tracy .
10 years ago
Amos! 
Dating
10 years ago

Let's start there then...my personality becomes more and more evident with every post that I write.  I give myself away it seems.

I am hem...a wee bit talkative (very obvious in real life, although I can be quiet at the right times). I have more energy than any human has a right to have and this can work in your favour. I can walk, hike or bike all day, without much complaint. (Amos! do not comment.)  I love fitness and prefer really strenuous things like tae bo boxing and weights...I can therefore hang out with you at the gym and keep up with the best of them! I also like to sit by the fire, read a book or listen to music-many kinds.

On a more serious side...I am very passionate about the things that I believe in...or the people I love.  I will stand my ground on a belief, and yet really listen to the other side...have actually been persuaded to accept the opposite view as a possibility because of the explaination...so I'm not totally rigid. (leave it Tracy) I am fiercely  loyal and will protect friends to the bitter end if necessary. I am the kind of friend whom you call at the last minute for a ride to the airport, or help moving something-I'll be there in a heartbeat. I like to do such a variety of things that we would not argue much about where to go and what to do..fishing? great...theatre?...great...local kids sporting event?...great. I like people and to be around people...experience people. I am a little zealous on some issues, like prejudice...I hate humankind's injustice to humankind and animal-kind-just don't get me started!

Texas Tornado kinda sums me up unfortunately...think independent, perky, outgoing, tomboy, who will stand up for friends and a good cause...fearless often, and yet vulnerable.

Is that even close? all of you who know me? 

Cat

Cat
10 years ago
. but .
10 years ago

I am female,51,live in phoenix. I consider myself layed back. I love to laugh, and joke. I would like a friend,companion and then hopefully more.

Of course I like the moutains and desert.camping out, cooking out.I am not hard to please on having fun. I can stay at home and cook, or enjoy a fun night out.Honesty is a big must with me and my partner.

I enjoy a man who is funny, understanding,cuddly and not afraid to show affection.Average built, mustaches and beards are nice.Someone who doesnt play mind games and speaks his feelings. just a fun guy and who knows how to treat a lady.

I wont ask anything from him that i cant give either.

So, thats me

Anonymous
Bring on the loons
10 years ago
Well Catherine I think you should tell your daughter your looniness is probably your best feature. She sounds like a character in one of those overly serious sit coms who keeps trying to get their parent to behave. Such brats! Let's go paintballing and let her sort things out!
Yup....
10 years ago

that's   Cat in a nutshell....

(Well done, girl....you summed yourself up brilliantly!!!)

                        

(She neglected to tell you that she's also sweet, loving, caring, funny, smart, attractive and the best that either Canada or Texas has to offer!  And I know these things....we've been friends for almost 30 years...)    

Hi Cindy
10 years ago

We always think we dont want a lot till we write it down, its like I not really doing anything this weekend, just, mowing the lawn, weeding the yard, cleaning the house, grocery shopping, doing laundry, going out to dinner with friends Thats saturday, Sunday, Meditation class, Guitar class, fixing the bathroom leaky sink, hiking with the dogs, maybe taking in a movie,(yeah good luck), visitng friends, cleaning out the car.  Oh not to mention I would like to make some jewelry, use the sewing machine I bought, maybe meet someone and have sex once in a while ya know.

I love ya.

Margaret  

Have a nice weekend.

Kenyatta
10 years ago

She is one of those kids that tries to make you behave! Don't worry she hasn't been successful yet! Ha!

Tracy: thanks for the fanfare and great words!  Nobody knows me like you do!   and let's keep it like that!

Cat

10 years ago

LOL @ Margaret! 

~ You are so 'right'...Man, I forgot about the things I 'need to do'...Ha!  I believe I am going to go and take a nap, I didn't come home last night and I'm dead on my face...(funny, I can't seem to 'keep on truckin' with just a couple hours sleep like I used to...

But, first, I am going to go outside and pull out my 'kiddie pool' for tomorrow (I left my adult in-ground pool with the ex <what was I thinking?  Ha!>  But, if I lie on the float, in the kiddie pool, close my eyes, and have the big fan blowing on me, I can pretend I'm floating in the ocean, and the ocean breeze <being the fan>...is blowing on me!  Pitiful, 'eh...just pitiful ~ it's a good thing I have a great imagination! 

~ Exciting weekends, 'eh?  Ha!  Ha! 

Smiles & Laughter!

Cindy 

Anonymous
10 years ago

Hello,

  What am I looking for? Honesty, understanding, self confident (but I'll be there for you on the bad days too, (guys need the same)) Smiles are good!

 I love to laugh.

Greg
10 years ago

They do? Only kidding, of course they do too, everyone wants to be loved and respected.  If you add to that and _____, and ______,and______, and _______ thats when it gets too much.

Cindy, enjoy the pool, its not pittiful, its your pool.  Lay back and think of me I have to work today, no pool for me.

  

LOL
10 years ago
I love this thread...........
Anonymous
10 years ago

....and likes the color green, and likes seafood and loves to travel.......

ya mean like that?

10 years ago

LOL!  You're all too funny! 

Greg, grab the ladies and come join my kiddie pool party!  Ha! Ha!    I'll let you have the green float! 

I'll be in the pool with my rum/iced-tea, enjoying the breeze (box fan)...Ha! 

Laughing ~

Cindy 

10 years ago

Really, I think the only love we can find is online with our friends. at least our minds can love, thats not a bad thing. I think my dating days are over. haaa

Lee
10 years ago

Good plan...I've been told that it is when you least expect it that it happens...so 'give up on dating' I'll be rooting for ya!

Seriously, I can imagine the frustrations involved here and I will confirm my stories with you all when I have any! I know many people from my new job, or classes and I have met some really nice people and made new friends...but I have not met a person to date yet.  I am not being too picky, as much as they should be single (LOL) friendly and we should click in some way.  May I suggest a vacation from dating and then return anew when you are refreshed!

Stay in touch my Lee.

Lee
10 years ago
I agree, pity we can't see or touch each other sometimes, but virtual love is also Ok isn't it? After all we are all real people here. Why do you think that your dating days are over? .
10 years ago

sometimes I guess it isnt meant to be. i meet alot of the wrong guys. So time will tell and I will stay here bugging u allhaaaaa

10 years ago
You know Lee - one 'good apple' in a basket full of 'rotten apples' makes the basket worthwhile... - says I What can I say - I also went through it for many years but finally found my "good apple"... and that was even before I joined Care2... Things happen Lee... .
Anonymous
10 years ago

Thanks Cindy, a float would be nice.

Cheers!

Greg!
10 years ago

You had me there all the way to green???  Does spruce or teal count as green?  Enjoy Cindy's pool, perhaps I will join you all there.

Cat

Lee
10 years ago

I believe I used the "you have to kiss a lot of frogs" example when I spoke with you another day...but Amos puts it so much more eloquently...end result is the same...Lee, you are worth finding for a 'great someone' and you will find them. (Resort to telepathy if you must!) In the meantime you do have all of us and we are 'real' friends.  

Cat

Anonymous
Catharine
10 years ago

Yes, teal or spruce counts. I was just being silly with the, ....., ....., ..... crack. But, I do like green.

  Have a great week everyone.

hey Geg
10 years ago

I was being serious!  except for the they do remark.  Its not the basics that twist us up its all the others, exzample: I want a kind, compassionate, passionate person, who is loving towards animals and people alike(which is a lot already) we add, finacially secure(which means to many more than secure), attractive (which can mean either a size 6 or muscular), loves to travel (which can mean take me on vacations I myself could not afford), nature lover(which could mean to some a drive in the country not a hike in the woods), Loves animals (which means he likes my dogs and cats, but is not into reptiles).

So yes I crack jokes a lot, but it is just to try to keep it light  because all the and _____,and______and________ wear me out, plus I dont really want to believe them anymore.

Peace not pieces, peace and love

Margaret

p.s.
10 years ago
Greens my favorite color too!
Margaret
10 years ago

I think I hear what you are saying. There is a basic list to begin with: sensative, likes sports, independent and loves to travel. Which can already mean different things. 

Then when you match certain criterion, you move into the sub-list and that is where it gets tricky. I like to participate in things, not just watch sports on TV. I am sensative in that I feel. I am sensative about certain issues and I am passionate about those things which concern me. I truly care about how people are feeling. I am independent.  By this I mean that I can earn enough to take care of my needs and 'take care' of myself.  I don't need someone else to help me buy a new air conditioner. I have interests and don't need to be entertained and yet I love being part of a greater number than one. I am a care giver by nature. I like to help, assist and make others' lives easier or more enjoyable. I want my 'other' to be involved in some of the things that I enjoy, not just two people rotating in circles that rarely meet. As for travel...I can afford my own adventures.  I would love to be able to stand at the top of a mountain or the edge of an ocean and turn to someone beside me and say isn't it wonderous...then years later remark "that view was spectacular wasn't it" and have them agree, or at least understand the feeling that I am experiencing. Travel to me does not mean how many different cities can we squeeze into two weeks!

After you have met someone who now fits into how your world spins and you into theirs, it gets trickier. I am sensative and yet I don't want to listen to your problems is a big difference...I am into sports with a best man standing attitude, is a problem.  Or I like to travel to cities and you like the countryside, again an issue. I am independent and I will not help you because you can do it on your own...again it is a problem.

Ha and this is the fun part...the sub-sub-list...you like green, but I hate green (just an example Greg), but can we work around it?  That is the problem with the list...it can be too rigid...can we come to a meeting of the minds on the finer details...

Margaret...I feel the best thing is to defiine who we are on the surface...if there is an issue that is rigid, ie. "I am neat and you are a slob" and it is vital to a relationship, then it needs to be defined. Staying open to exploring the possibilities of new experiences is one of the wonderous adventures of experiencing life with a new person, and yet not everyone feels this way. Personally, I still want to grow and want to learn new things with my partner. There are many questions in life that cannot be answered and how to "make the list" is one of them.

I guess that is why Amos suggested that I present what I might have to offer, rather than listing what I am hoping to find...although a little of both is a good mix.  Oh that person sounds interesting and oh I see myself written on that page, go hand-in-hand perhaps.

What do I know...I had been married forever (but not now-just to clarify)!!...but I see and hear people everyday and you learn somethings...

I may have gotten off your point, but I hope that I have touch on some of it.

Cat

Hi Cat
10 years ago

No you are on point., what I was actually saying is something I have been thru.  Once I meditated long and hard for the universe to bring me someone who was Kind, well that is what I got, he had nothing else, no job, outstanding debt, physical illness, no plans, but he was Kind.  The kindest.  When the and_____,and______,and______, showed up I was told well I never thought I would meet someone like you, their failure to properly plan for a committed relationship, became my failure to properly put it out there.  Anyway time marches on and Kind is good, Kind is really, really Good.  Completely doable and acceptable and all the and_____, and______, ands_____ are just that.

I think we should simplifiy ourselves, after all we want is really really basic if we are truthful about it.

The and, and, and list when written out look kind of silly dont you think? and in reality do not really get us what we want.

ex.  Just an  AND example not what I really want.

Woman wanted, Big or small brested(depending on preference), Tall or short, weight give number to correspond to height., Hair length, Intellectual or dumb bunny type, Consertive, republican, liberal, moderate or other, Income$ from --- to ---, Big or small butt (again preference, Independent meaning _______.,(this is 2 seperate sentences ) likes to be on top,bottom, other spell out again preference. Will enjoy cleaning up after me and wiping the toilet seat.

Man wanted, Big strong type or short gentle type or exact height, Intellectual or bully type, washboard abs or beer belly, give height to correspond to weight ratio, long, short, bald headed, Must have income between $------and -------, Big or small, flat or round butt, klingy or independent which means ______ and ________, likes to be on the bottom or top, will enjoy sleeping with cat or dog hair on the sheets.    

See what I mean?

Margaret
10 years ago

I am so glad that I didn't lose the point!  Yes, the and__, and___, list does get very ridiculous! I must admit I laughed out loud at the pet hair on the sheets reference! It can be an important point! but is it really a determining factor! 

I believe we are both saying that there are maybe personality types...just to an extent and not to be limiting...and that we should be willing and eager to explore whatever else the other has to offer!

Personally it is really what is in a person's soul that interests me the most...I could learn to appreciate green after all...

Have a good day Ms. Margaret!!

Anonymous
,....,....,....
10 years ago

Well absolutely. But it is a start. If it was as simple as listing 10 things and then *bing* instant mate, no one would be posting here.

  If I wanted somebody who liked exactly what I liked, I would never learn or see anything new. I would never taste a new flavor, I would never learn to think in a way I hadn't before. Eek, how boring.

 It's all good. People are dynamic, I love that, I love suprises.

Greg
10 years ago

You are right, oh so, so right.

Surprise I am not a real blond.

Anonymous
10 years ago

I was, now I am experiencing what I call follicle drift.

 : )  

Dont worry
10 years ago

I like that in a man.What about you? do you like that in a woman?

Greg and Margaret
10 years ago

Ah! Ha! It seems were are attaining a meeting of the minds! Yes!

I call dating someone just like me "redundent."  I am always exploring new avenues, life is an adventure that I choose to experience.

Ha...I would be the natural blonde...good Dutch genes...and I honestly can claim a blonde moment! Greg, your folically challenged status is so au currant!

Talk to everyone soon!

Anonymous
Margaret & Catharine
10 years ago

Sorry addressing both,

   Margaret,.....judgement on physical, I find beauty in all sorts of people. Do I like the physical, yes, I think everyone looks at physical beauty with some form of amazement and "oh my" but I'm not that shallow. I find beauty in intellect and intent, heart and spirit(oops more,...,...).

    Catharine, Ah, that's my Dad's side, Dutch, Mothers side Hungarian, both Grandads were bald by their 30's, my Dad has more damn hair than I do. I got lucky I guess.

   

Greg
10 years ago

Life does little things like that to us... it is a fun ride no matter what we look like...I had an accident this spring...ha got my nose and my chin loaded with stitches! Now that's attractive...You just have to laugh!

Catharine

Anonymous
Catharine
10 years ago
 
Greg and Cat
10 years ago

Yes the body is a beautiful piece of art is it not?  I love to look at all kind of bodies and people on the street, one good thing about my job, you can people watch without looking like a nut.

I think your both beautiful.  do you guys like my picture?  Yes I am blue or at least was till I met you.

Anonymous
10 years ago

That's sweet Margaret,

   Thank you.

 Hope your evening is pleasant.

Greg
10 years ago

I am just mastering the things beyond keyboarding and added smileys..so I can't get the characters yet...this will suffice I hope...mei guan xi...

Cat

Margaret
10 years ago

Thank you...I am glad that we have met here and other locales...perhaps a nice green picture ?? since it is the favourite colour here at the moment!

Cat 

Anonymous
10 years ago

Have a good weekend all, I'm off to my sisters graduation.

Thanks Cat

Anonymous
10 years ago

Hellooo. Must have been a good weekend all the way around!

Quiet room.

10 years ago
wanna party Greg? .
Anonymous
10 years ago
Hey how are you? Just ended a long day and thought I'd pop by, better crack a beer.
How was your long day Greg?
10 years ago
OR ? .
Greg
10 years ago

How was the graduation?

Hi Amos sweetie!

Cat

Anonymous
10 years ago

Hello both of you,

 It was good, saw a lot of family I havn't seen for almost a year. Sis graduated from Rhode Island School of Design double major focus on Exterioir Architecture, corporate structures, hospitals. Brilliant woman, wonderful classmates. I went to a couple of museums, saw the graduate shows and hung out at a graduation artist warehouse party until 4:30 am on saturday. Just talking art and meeting people. Makes me want to go back to school again! I miss the immersed intelectual buzz, raw talent and eternal optimism of people who love to excel.

Anonymous
10 years ago
Amos, sorry, the day was great, I love my work. I run an architectural millwork firm in Boston, very stimulating. How was both of your days?
Greg wow!
10 years ago

Rhode Island is a wonderful school, so it is apparent that your sister is very talented!  I miss those college days too. We all thought we knew so much, and we were so spirited - oh the idealism! Ha.

Cat

Greg
10 years ago

  It was a great day for me!  I have two part-time jobs-long story.  I work in a law firm, but the best part is that I teach some sports skills classes to children!  Wears me out but I'm happy!

Cat

Anonymous
Cat
10 years ago

Absolutely! I was so impressed with the graduate work. Just amazed. It was so strong!? It was interesting watching the rest of the family/ families trying to make sense out of theoretical and conceptual work. Yes the idealism is so refreshing, nothing can stop them at this point, beautiful to watch.

 How was your weekend?

Anonymous
Cat
10 years ago
Nice. What age group do you teach? Noble work, kudos.
Greg
10 years ago
My weekend and the Monday were just like life - with ups & downs... but luckily with more ups than downs. .
Hi Cat
10 years ago
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Greg
10 years ago

I teach soccer, basketball, and t-ball to the 3-5 year olds before they start all their league sports...Coach Cat   It restores your spirit.

Amos  Hope tomorrow is better!

Cat
10 years ago
What kind of vitamins do you have to take to do that job?
Margaret!
10 years ago

LOL!! I happen to have more energy than anyone really needs and so it is a perfect job for me.

...besides the kids love me!

Cat 

cat
10 years ago
I bet they do.  Me too.  Check out my grocery list on crazy fantasys, let me know if you know anyone.
Anonymous
Intelligence is a must
10 years ago
I highly value intelligence in women. I am highly educated and my family values education. I could not sit and listen for five minutes to a woman who used a lot of m-f's and other such trash. I like women who read and have stories to share from the things they read. I like women who help me argue with the news on tv. And aren't concerned that the tv doesn't answer back.
Margaret
10 years ago

I already responded to your "fantasy" list!!! LOL I went there first!

Kenyatta...despite my ridiculously silly responses in these threads (my new friends make me laugh!) I have a degree in English Literature! I read as much as I can and seem to get caught up in topics for a while.

door bell...later...sorry!

Cat I just re read your profile up page
10 years ago
I have a question? Will you marry me?
Margaret!!! LOL
10 years ago

O O O O O H ~ Sure!

      Cat

GREAT!!!!
10 years ago
Talk to you tommorro then.
Anonymous
Reality check
10 years ago

While a lot of us have been talking about our romantic fantasies let's have a reality check. One of my co-workers just called to ask me to switch shifts with her so she could get a restraining order against him. My next door neighbor has been making eyes at me and told me her last relationship included domestic violence.

My last relationship was with a woman who was the caregiver for her elderly mother. I notice that several of the women on this list in my age have children. I know of women who are caring for their adult mentally ill children. these are the issues I consider when I think of the possibility of joining a woman's family. 

and so you should
10 years ago
I consider how many other children they have by how many woman. If they have their own health insurance, a huge credit card debt, a gambling problem, a drinking or druk problem, sexual disfunction, do they like animals, can control their urge to tell me what I am doing wrong raising my kids.
And
10 years ago
If they are supporters of GW. ugh!
10 years ago

you have that right Margaret I have a lot to consider and with my own kids I watch out for perves also...

part fantasy part reality, what I want in a relationship/partner is trust, a feeling of mutual respect, digging each other in the bedroom and out, a good kisser, gentle yet firm, educated, I have two masters one in fine art the other in art education, so a lover of the arts is a must, open to others differances and accepting of them. someone who looks at the little things and gets a kick out of them, easily amused you know the one who finds wonderment in a shard of blue glass that just happens to be in a place where one would not expect it to be. Looking for the hearts in the world but also able to handle sorrow. Someone who looks at me from across the room and we both know there is no one else there who can satisfy either one of us.. like we were in the room all by ourselves... Ok you catch my drift...

renee
10 years ago

Most days lately I am just too tired to give it thought.  In the last year and a half of my job, they base your pension on your last 3 years so I work like a mule to pad my pension and also just to make ends meet (which they rarely do) as a single mother of 2 two legged ones and 3 four legged ones and l winged one. by the time I pay one pile it is past due to pay the next pile. I never had the luxury to continue my education raising kids and working like I do.  Would love to pursue my arts, music and other various intersts.  I suppose I do ok.  Just tired is all. Almost time to take my nap on the train. (do 4 hours there daily). You have a lot to offer as do most of the men and woman I get a chance to chat with in this lovely site.  We will just have to put out one big collective plea to the universe that we all get what we seek for.  big Love.

Peace not pieces, peace and love

Margaret 

lol Margaret
10 years ago
I know what you mean I am also solo parent my husband died so I have to keep above the water also so to speak. I am just finished with grad school and all that entails and in the process of looking for work. I hope to be teaching this fall but all is up in the air right now... We shall see and in the mean time you are right we just have to find out what we want in another human and hope that we trip over them or they us when the time is right... WHo knows there is someone out there right now that is looking as we are...
I just hope
10 years ago
They are riding my train.
and
10 years ago
That I dont have my mouth open snoring.
Margaret!
10 years ago

Snoring with your mouth open LOL...thanks for making my day...oh heck my week!

Cat 

Margaret!
10 years ago

Love the avi !

Cat

Cat
10 years ago
I am so glad you like it.  At first I asked my youngest daughter to post a few pictures she puts a picture of my pitt bull chewing up a baby doll on the cover.  Just what I wanted the world to think of me and her.  This one I think is better.  It was taken the summer before the towers went down.
Anonymous
Hi All
10 years ago

Just thought I'd say hello, hope all is fun and well.

I've been busy as heck.

Hi Greg
10 years ago
Long time no see.  Have a good night.  Look I no longer have a big blue head, how about that.
Hi Greg
10 years ago

Welcome back to the land of the not-so -busy!  Don't you just love the 'real' Margaret!

Cat

Anonymous
Hi Margaret
10 years ago
Nice! A real picture. Much better than the blue head. What took so long?.....Nice smile.....
Margaret!
10 years ago

Love the photo...even better than the one of your dog!   lol

Cat

Anonymous
Hi Catharine
10 years ago

Yes, much improved pic!

 Right, you're not busy with 2 jobs. Teaching kids is work! Fun work though.

Thanks guys
10 years ago
I can be soooooooo self concious.  It took me so long to put up pictures as I have few of me I like and also I need my 13 year old computer wiz to handle the job.  Amazing I can rewire and hang a ceiling fan, fix the bathroom plumbing but computers well are just not my bag.  I guess because I can physically handle it I cant figure it out. 
Margaret
10 years ago

You are most welcome...and FYI I need my computer wiz kids to help me too!  That is why we had those children...to help us out from time to time!

Cat

Greg
10 years ago

Yes teaching the kids is both fun and work!

Cat

oh Is that the reason
10 years ago
I knew there must have been some reason I had them.
Matchmaking?
10 years ago

  Well, since I am fairly new in this group and considered an unknown at this time, I don't expect any of you regulars here making any attempts to connecting me with someone. But I do wonder if any of you ever done matchmaking for a friend, and if so,

 how successful have you been so far? 

I am very open-minded to having others do the love connection for me 

(yes, I can accept dares!).   But if you do, all I ask is "look northbound to Canada". In the meantime, I look forward to getting to know you in this group.

 

10 years ago
I am a 27 year odl divorced female from Greenwood, South Carolina.  I am 5'3", brown hair and eyes.  I wear glasses.  I weight around 240 pounds.  Very friendly and outgoing.  I love to watch sports, read, go to movies, go out to eat, do stuff outdoors.  I looking for a guy who knows how to treat a lady as she should be treated.
10 years ago

I wish you all much luck and happiness! 

As for me, I don't want to date anyone...I'm tired of all the octupus men, ya know? 

For the first time in my life I want some time to reflect on what "I" want and need...am I the only one feeling this way? 

Blessings,

Cindy 

What am I Looking for?
10 years ago

That's a tough question. Hi there everyone.  I'm a 41-yo divorced mother and I live in Maryland.  I'm  5'8", have long, curly brown/red hair, light brown eyes.  I'm new to this dating thing and since I don't go to bars, I'm clueless on where to meet men.  I'm looking for someone with a wonderful sense of humor, interested in environmental issues, someone who thinks out of the box.  I do want someone taller than me.  I want someone who is kind and loyal and generous with their affections.  He should also be emotionally mature and healthy.

I hope that's not too tall an order.  Let me know what you all think.  I look forward to getting to know you all.

Deb

9 years ago
Hi, I'm a 46 year old woman from Diss, Norfolk UK 5'10 green eyes, hair usually reddish but subject to change without notice.  I've been separated for 5 years and have no children. I enjoy life tremendously, sing, swim and love to learn, have just finished an Open University BA.  Warm, caring and friendly, I'm well spoken and articulate, open minded and interested in many things. I have been accused, with some justification, of being an old hippy. Honesty compels me to admit to health problems, but nothing that has so far prevented me from enjoying life in every way I can think of.
 
What am I looking for?  A man who doesn't think folk singing is a weird habit would be a good start.  Someone  positive and intelligent, who shares my love of life and fascination with everything the world has to offer. Someone who, like me, loves to laugh. Oh, and in view of a recent experience, someone who's personal hygiene goes beyond an overdose of aftershave (Yuck!)
Failing all that, some new friends would be nice!
Sally
9 years ago
Hi Im Jim B. And I live in Haverhill,Mass...Im 5'4 1/2 inches tall.At the present time Im probably 25-30 pounds over weight( its been on for a yr).I intend on working on it...hahaha but when??LOL!...Anyways I'm looking for someone who is hopefully shorter than me...5'2" or shorter is a plus as is long hair (of course its not necessary. you can be taller(up to 5'8") if you dont have a hangup about it) I prefer she be not more over weight than I am. I want to meet sumone where the chemistry is right..I dont beleive it can work if it is not.sumone I find attractive (you dont have to be a 8,9 or a 10,.. I couldnt get one anyways!!LOL!)...The woman Im looking for should be very laid back......Hopefully this woman is not judgemental or sarcastic as both of these are a big turn off to me.She should have a sense of humor and understand that not everyones Idea of funny is the same and she should respect our differences. I am a professional kids performer therefore I would need someone who loves kids and doesnt have a hangup about sillyness as thats both part of my proffession and me......I love country music both on the radio and at concerts. I am a generous, loving, caring,honest man and I expect the same thing in a woman.when I eventually fall in love I really do fall in love.. I dont want to get hurt again.Ive had both good and bad realationships...I am not a smoker or drinker and will not except smokers (I have asthma).If she drinks on occasion I have no problem with that as she should have no problem with my not drinking.If Im involved with a woman I do not accept the type that would flirt in front of me. I have had gfs in the past that did this when In public. that is not acceptable in my book. I dont have much (money wise) to offer a woman and someone who's into whats in it for me financially would not be interested and neither would I . I do have alot to offer in other terms....I am fun to be with and love the same things other romantics do...walks on the beach at night, rides in the country,get aways for a night or so ect.......also love antique shops and museums(I was a antique dealer yrs ago and was also in the jewelry biz in the past.not diamonds or gold) I love movies and would love to enjoy one with a special lady. I do cry in sad and happy movies and she should not have a hang up about that(I had a gf of 4 yrs who would walk out of the movie because a man crying offended her.in her book men dont cry.that relationship is long over! Thank God!..hahaha...) I'd prefer to meet a christian if possible........
oops!
9 years ago
I forgot to mention Im 45 on halloween 2005. want to meet a woman from 35-55..........
9 years ago
well at least not younger than 30!!...hahaha.....
9 years ago

By the way...not all men are octopuses as sumone in here shared. Hey,... I can be as touchy feely as the next guy but certainly not without being asked first to do so.........beleive it or not there are men in this world that will wait till your ready for such things.......well as long as it aint a year or 3 later....hahahaha

Anonymous
7 years ago

My name's Kaylii I currently live in WI but am still debating on moving to Fishtail, MT. I'm seeking a male over 18 and is a Christian. Looks don't matter to me, I'm very affectionate, and artistic...any questions about me contact me at gzusfareek@yahoo.com or check out my profile.... 

7 years ago

Hi, I am Mel from Texas. I am 58, grown children and would love to find a nice man near to be a friend, partner, companion, and more.  I love animals, baseball, swimming, reading, cooking, open to most types of activities. I have been there, done that and now looking for that special man to be part of my life. Would love for him to have children of his own, so he would know, that no matter what their age, they will always be in your life. I am very close to my grown children and love to spend time with them and my friends.  I am a toucher, hugger and kisser, he would need to be the same type person.

Anonymous
dating again
6 years ago

i found a hugger and a kisser. in fact i gave her my sore throat. she's a coworker. we had been flirting back and forth and finally i got up the courage to ask her out. what a revelation.

Anonymous
love?
6 years ago

i'm 16...female...just looking for someone who won't regard me as a game...

Anonymous
love?
6 years ago

i'm 16...female...just looking for someone who won't regard me as a game...

Anonymous
16 years old?
6 years ago

it's time to hit the school books. i would hope you understand the prority of completing your high school education. so many kids drop out in search of so called romance and girls like you become pregnant. there is plenty of time for boy friends long after you have completed the immediate tasks of your life. and you will have more to offer.



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Anonymous
fatherly advice
6 years ago

in case people think i'm too harsh, i just met with a nice 30 year old at the crisis center where i work who dropped out on high school and still has not been able to finish her degree. her happiness revolves around her boy friend. and oh yes she has at least 1 child. sound like a fun life?

Well Kenyatta, I did
6 years ago

  I thought you were too harsh!

First of all, this is a dating thread and also 16 year old are welcome to post here.

Second, all I've seen is a post from a 16 y/o looking for someone (a boyfriend I assume) that will take her seriously. A responsible young girl that is not into games regarding relationships.

 Beautiful and heart warming....



What did she say or do to deserve such an hostile behavior?

I understand that you are talking from experience taken from your line of work. However, your scenario is completely out of context. It has nothing to do with this young lady. I think she deserves more respect!

It happens!
When you are exposed to problems on daily bases (professionally for example) there is a risk of losing proportions. There is a tendency to build hypothesis based on extremity and not on the actual reality. Usually doom-scenarios. where threat, fear and moral-blame are used as tools of influence.

With other words, you start seeing problems where there are non. You think to have recognized a potential victim and try to rehabilitate it by is blaming and predicting disasters.

And where did you get the idea that a love-relationship is bad for teens?
Love-relationships are part of the immediate tasks in teens life, they are even necessary for the development of a healthy sexual-identity.
As all people, also teens have needs and feelings that need to be nourished. All in the proper proportions of course.

Your example didn't convince! It is not a proof, it is an excuse.

 

Cindy
6 years ago

  I know how to love and swoo a girl ..... poetry all forms of love and affection show a woman that you really care for her and only her .... no games ..... but the girl that takes my hand will have to have pacience     No  Cindy your not the only one .....  that is so true,  I am at a point  well  ; I  take care of my parents. Its always been a quality of life thing / Both parents are stroke survivors ,moms a diabetic and takng care of them takes up alot of time.  Its not really fair to female relations ..... but those who dare cross the road thinking everything would be alright got lost in emotions wanting more, I wanting more. Its unfair to them and well dating  sucks - Im not into one night love affairs  ..... and would rather make it fair to the next guy. Somebody tell me Im giving in too easy

smile
6 years ago

Id like to meet someone though

Anonymous
hah
6 years ago

i' am not hostile at all. whatever age we are at, we become much more interesting when we are living full lives developing ourselves as human beings to the fullest.

Anonymous
true love
6 years ago

my girl friend is now my laundry buddy, too. now, that's true love. i have a lot of clothes!

5 years ago

HI!

I am a 52 years old filipina teacher. I live alone because my three kids are all married. I like to meet a man with age ranges from 52 to 65. He must be a God- fearing and open minded one. I hope and pay that i meet the man i am looking to be my life companion, friend, and my soul mate....... Eunice
I hope ...
5 years ago

you meet the man of your dreams, too ... good luck!

5 years ago

good luck to you, Eunice. and everyone else still looking

hiiiiiiiiiiiiii
3 years ago

hi i am satheesh new to this group i go through all your threads its looking great. About me i am satheesh looking for a good and lovable girls who can share your personal life views etc with me ,because i always wanted to be open with all of my close friends if you are one amongst them...add me as your friend if you are interested.....

have a great days ahead to all...