Well Hi...I am not really new on this group...i joined a few days aback...but its till now ive really taken a good look at it.

U know I am adopted too... I know nothing about my biological parents (and dont wish to know either) I was adopted when i was 18 months, my adopted mother always tell me the story and she sayd that she could never have kids of her own so she first adopted my brother (which is not my biological bro) and then me. she said when she first saw me she fell in love with me, she said I was the only child in the orphanage that wont talk, she said they had cut all my hair off cause it was hard to comb,and when i first saw her I started talking. In less than 5 months they let her adopt me because ill start crying and wont stop when she left me.

when growing up it was different for i found out i was adopted and that made me feel somehow inferior and not really part of the family. seems because of my shy personality then, i had no friends, and well mom was always overprotective.

Into my adolecence things got worst, i was a very depressed girl inside,and really wanted affection. not that my mom wont give me but just felt so.

Is not till 2 years ago in the hospital after trying to kill myself that i realized how much my adopted parents really loved me and cared for me.

Still sometimes i wonder, do i have any biological brothers, sisters? was my father handsome? who do I look like? whos personality did I inherit? But its ok, I am just cool with what the Lord has given me, and thank him for I had the opportunity to have parents, and good ones. and pray someday ill have many children be it biological or adopted.

Enobong

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 Enobong E. & April C. Glad you're here. You can start your story on your own thread if you wish.

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Many times I have thought about telling my story but then have held back and just read the postings on this site.  However, I shall try to tell you my story now after reading others I feel I can share. 

I was adopted at one month old, in 1945.  I managed to get my birthcertificate, in 1996 .  my birth place was given as the Princess Mary, Newcastle upon Tyne UK.and my date of birth ws 18 oct 1945.  Mothers name was given but not fathers. On my birth certificate my biological mother called me Elizabeth and   I wonder if it was a family name, after herself, or was it simply just a name to give because she had to register my birth.  My adoptive father had always told me I was special because not many children are chosen and I was. At first i never really understood what he meant.  It wasnt until I was beginning my first year of senior school, about 12 yrs old I think, that someone left the class files on teachers desk (i think we were about to get medicals or something) and, being kids we began to flick through them.  Well someone saw the wording 'adopted' on mine and told me.  I was shocked.  Another girl hugged me and said, don't worry I am too, isnt it great that we are special.  Of course I went home and asked what it meant.  Mom began to cry and dad took me aside and told me again that I was chosen not born.  He answered my questions.  My mother had to give me up to save her marriage , men were coming back from the war etc.  For many years I never did anything about finding my birth mother.  It upset my mother too much.  she desperately wanted a daughter after two boys.  The last one had been a difficult birth and she had been confined to bed for months after his birth. 

It was not until my mother died in 1995 that I thought about my birth mother and began enquiries.  So far without success.  I have my birth certificate and the address placed on it as where she came from. I have had no success in tracking her down.  Of course she may be deceased.  I vaguely remember my dad telling me she had a son.  However, I have no idea how to contact any biological family.  I have tried writing to the address on the certificate.  The hospital no longer exists, where I was born.

  Financially I find it difficult.   I have two daughters of my own now, medically I have no idea of any hereditary or genetical problems having no history for myself.  I worry.  I feel something should have been handed over with children who are adopted to ease this worry.  Of  course for us oldies it was out of the question, but now medicine has come on in leaps and bounds maybe it could be. 

I have no idea what to do now.  do I continue with a fruitless search?  has anyone out there any other ideas for searching? I mean ones that don't include lots ofmoney because I am on disability as is hubby.

Well that is my sob story and I will leave it at that.  I just wondered if there are any other older adoptees in the same position as I am?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]

 Kathleen S. Glad you're here. Do you mind starting your story on your own thread by cutting & pasting this one there & calling it your story?

Everyone has a story to tell & you can get responses & support from all who come here ~ just for you!

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Oh it has been nice seeing all these post, and specially inspiring you Kathleen to write yours.

Teresa, I believe what you say is true...

 April, just a question, do you keep in touch with your bro?

Kathleen...at least here in my country tracing family as per adopted kids is not easy for if you were given ina doption lets say by a drug addict mother, or a murderer mother, they will invent a whole file for you to make the adoption easier. If adopting couples know the child parent had a nasty abckround, they migh be hesitative abouta dopting the child. So I ahve been told my file is fake...and teh story behind it too. I dont think ill even know my real parents buta s I said before its ok.

And also, i think if you feel ot in your heart to keep looking...you should keep on...

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a year a go my bio cousin found me.some times trying to find your bio family is not the best thing,as i found out the hard way.

My cousin called his sister to tell her and he called my sister that did not know that she had a sister,she calld our mother to tell her and that was when all hell brock lose,our mother says she never had me and that i do not live so with that we will never meet,she will not let my brother and other liveing sister talk to me.She will not say about my bio father,so i will never get to know him thanks to her.

(Get this) she name me- Debra my birth day 6-20 1952

she name our sister -Debra her birth day 6-19-1953

I would have love to have been in that house when Debra 2 found out that there is a Debra 1,i like to see mom get out of that one.

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Enobong, Kathleen, and Pat, Sorry it has took me this long to reply. I have been away.

Enobong, I felt a lot like you did and it made things a whole lot worse for me and my family whom adopted me. The love was not there. And they did not try to let me know that I was a part of the family. Not saying that was your case,but, it was mine. I had a lot of heartaches with them and it never got any better. Just worse. so if you feel Loved by your adopted parents then believe me, you are one of a few. I am glad you feel that you have a Mother and Father. Even if they are not your biological ones. But, believe me I know what you meant about feeling left out.I heard it was normal for an adopted child to feel this way. (I wonder if it really is?)

Kathleen, Wow, I had some horrilble times when I found my bioligocal father and mother. what a nightmare a tremendous heartache I have from it. And always will. If you really want to find your biological sibblings then I must say be careful of what you ask for. You might wish you haden't. Like Pat and I. It has been so much of a hurtful impact on me that I am having so much trouble just coping from day to day. And I found them with just two stamps. I had found out my bioligiacl name and started writing to people with that name in the area where I was born and after only two letters sent, I found my boiligacal father. And I wish and pray so much that I never had.  same goes for my bioligal mother. So please beware. It just might not be this glorious reuion you hope it will be. Other than that I am glad to know you and know that I have so many of you who are here in this group. It has been a help. God Bless.

And Pat, don't know where to start. sounds like you already have felt the disappoinment of finding some of your sibblings. I really feel for you. My reuinion was  somewhat worse than that but, the pain you and I share are the same. I wish I could reach through here and hug you. Actually, I wish I could hug every everyone here. What a heart felt group this is.

Pat, We are here for you. At any time. Please try to be strong and don't let their ways cause you to be what they are.  You are a better person. You have Love in your heart. Stay strong.

Anyone who would like to talk with me personnally please email me at:  MoonChic@DogLover.com

Anytime!

Hugs, MoonChic

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Hi MoonChic

Yes it is still hard to go throu this,as I had plans,dreams on the day we all would meet from the day that I found out that I was adopted.I was around 8 or 9 when I found out that I was adopted

The man that adopted me was a loveing man that gave me a great life,his wife was a witch to me,as she did not like that she and father adopted me.One thing I can say my father and his mother and father always treat me like I was blood not like a child that was adopted.I was very much loved and care for.

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Hi April,

It can be real hard to find him,do you have info about him that can help in finding him.If you do I have a lot of places that you may find him or some one that may know him,

It tuck me 2 years with my info for my bio family to find me,it can be shorter than that some times.Please dont get your hopes up for a happy meeting him and him with you,my blood mother,one sister and brother do not wish to meet me and that hurts.All I know is 3 people out of my bio family,a sister and 2 cousins,the one calls me all the time.So just be very carefull Please. 

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WELCOME DEAR LOVED SOULS

Ive never met my mother ,father ,or seen any brothers or sisters,

but I have God as my father,

and I have been blessed with 6 children  3 teen girls and 3 boys

and it sure is a web out there trying to find links to your family,

but hear at care2 is a wonderfull group of careing people and we are so happy to have you all as part of our family, and to us you are very precious souls,

My prayers Go out to you all and i send love and light to every one in this special place,

Mike

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I can relate to you somewhat Mike, as my biological father died before I could realize who he was. My bio family could not "fill the void" of the years I lost w/o them. My adopted family couldn't "fill the void" that comes with knowing your "roots." My husband, my children & my grandchild is my world. There is where I found "who I was" because it gave me "someone who was just like me!"

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