If everyone did what was right, courageous or necessary, we wouldn’t need laws. But since people are always people, we need laws to set standards, specify consequences and support people who want to stop the bad behavior. We need new laws because too many administrators are cowards. They're afraid they'll be sued by parents who want to protect their little terrorists. Therefore, we need to require administrators to act and also to protect them from suits when they do act. I think the most important factors in making anti-bullying efforts effective are proactive administrators, teachers and staff. They set the standards and create the culture. Administrators, who are willing to let victims suffer while they attempt to rehabilitate habitual bullies, actually create hot houses in which bullies thrive.
Kitty and SunKat, I posted a topic called "Laws For Bullying" and there is a map link to state wide laws to Bullying. The problem is to enforce these laws. It does no good for our children if the laws are not upheld. Also they need to be improved.
The law which I believe are local or by state, does not even like to touch any bullying, stalking, or harrassment cases unless a definate crime has been committed. As for cyber bullying if you call the police even when threatened online, they say there is no way for them to do anything about it and they tell you to call the internet provider. Once you call the internet provider they cannot help you either. They just say it's a big problem and they have no control over it. they they redirect you back to the police. like a big helpless circle of nothingness.
This is what these poor children who are the victims of these bullies go through.
Sun kat Your so right! The laws need to be changed, so that the victim can gets the compassion and help much sooner, instead of worying about infringing the rights and the feelings of the bullies.
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You may be onto something Kitty. I bet authorities and others are wondering well okay what happened to the bully that they did this instead of concentrating on what happened to the victim and how it could have been stopped.
I am not familiar at all with laws on this kind of behavior - are there federal laws or is it by state? Might even be by individual case. I am going to look into this because honestly folks the law is what we need to look at and whats wrong with it and how it should be changed.
I wonder if sometimes the trouble with some people is that they seem to have more compassion for the bully or bullies and are more concerned with what will happen to them rather than to the victim.
Being taunted, bullied put down, intimidated on a daily basis and insulted is one of the worst ways to live your life. No one on this earth should have to put up with that garbage not even for 1 day. For those who enjoy hurting people like that deserve no compassion at all.
There is nothing to try to understand about how or why they are torturing someone else. It's wrong, it should never be accepted for any reason at all and they need to be legally responsible for any emotional damages they have caused the victim due to the bullying.
Kitty and Monika, You both have siad so much here and it hits home with all of us. We know of someone being bullied, or have seen the out come on the newsof another child broken, never to heal . Tragic endings that could have been rectified by officials that take their job serious instead of sweeping it under the rug. I read the story of Christian Taylor and I cried so hard for another child taken to soon because of neglect on the officials in charge. Where...where is our empathy in this world anymore? We have to help our precious children.
If schools shootings and physical violence aren't enough for people to take bullying seriously, then what is? Thousands of kids who are bullied don't end up doing horrible things to others, many kids resort to fatally punishing themselves while others have to deal with broken self-esteem and a sense of loss of dignity, sometimes for years.
As ridiculous as this may sound to you, some people even go to the extent of excusing bad behavior. The "boys will be boys" or "It was just a prank..." or "not that big deal..." or "overblown out of proportion...", "be more compassion, he's just being a kid!..." thus minimizing the seriousness of bullying and its effect on those who have become victims. The victim is oftentimes ignored while people invest time and effort trying to reform the bully.
I read the story. How sad is that? He couldn't get any help from anywhere. He was feeling helpless and devistated and not to forget to mention crushed by what his harrassers were doing to him. Feeling all that, then when the police would not help, he felt ever worse than he did before he went for help.
This is where the problem lies. That boy should have been able to get help immediately and his harrassers should have gotten punished immediatly, to teach them that bullying is not going to be tolorated by the law no matter who you are.
The young boy that just hung himself, went to the authorities. Nothing was done. He felt alone, and helpless.Think about being a child and singled out by peers at your school day after day. He felt he had no choice. That is one of the reasons I made this group. To let parents know we are here. If they will not help a child in a school all of us will make a stink so someone listens. Get it on the news or call the schools.We have to try and reach people. Make them understand this is not acceptable behavior in society. The children that do this have to be held accountable for what they are doing.It is harrasment and that is a crime.
The parents of those children must present a complaint at the Police or at the School. In the most of the European countries the bullying is a crime punished by Law.
Some people think bullying is not a big problem, but it is. Bullying is unacceptable and horrible and we all need to take a stand and stop it. It's not time for crying or stand apart. It's time to do something!
BULLYING IS ABUSE!! AND CAUSES ALL OF THE ABOVE AND THAT IS ABUSE WITH THE NAME BULLY ATTACHED TO IT!! I AM ALL FOR LEARNING BETTER WAYS TO HANDLE THIS SITUATION AND TO EQUIP OUR KIDS TO HANDLE THIS! NO CHILD SHOULD EVER BE ABUSED!! I DETEST ABUSE OF ANY KIND!!
Here are just a few examples of the possible long-term consequences of ignoring bullying behavior. Victims are more likely to: -under-achieve because their self-esteem has been knocked and energy is being wasted on negative emotions such as resentment, guilt and fear. - suffer physical symptoms of stress such as headaches, sickness, muscle tension - turn their anger inwards and become depressed and cynical - avoid or cope badly in situations where they meet figures of authority - over-conform - become well-practised at hiding their true feelings and therefore less able to have satisfying intimate relationships - hide their talent for fear of creating envy in others - become reclusive and eventually lonely - develop a belief that there is little point in fighting any kind of injustice - become bullies themselves Bullies are likely to: - continue bullying throughout their life - eventually become lonely and socially ostracized - suffer low self-esteem and inner angst in spite of any external signs to the contrary - become depressed and cynical about the world and act in accordance with these beliefs - turn to criminality - become more angry and/or disillusioned and consequently a serious danger to themselves and to others