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4 years ago

How Did She Respond When You Tried To Help?

Are you, or were you, a parent or friend whose loved one was in an abusive relationship? If so, how did you deal with the situation? Did you contribute in helping your loved one end the relationship or did you feel everything you said and did was went unheard?

Explain your experience. Help others who are currently going through the same thing. All comments will be gathered and summarized as a "Help Guide".

Thank you for your help. 



1. Stay close. If you visited or called your friend or three times a week before the relationship became abusive, continue to do so no matter how hard they try to push you away. Seperation is what the abuser wants, don't let him have that control.

2. During visits or phone calls, stay away from the topic of abuse, enless the friend or loved one decides to discuss her situation.

3. If she reveals her current situation, LISTEN, and try not to judge. If she is judged during every conversation, she may not confide in you and began to lye about a situation that is progressing.

4. You must not bottle up your pain. It's hard to continue a realationship with a friend or daughter who is being abused, this is why many, unknowingly, are seen less and less. Keep a journal, write how you feel. Also document events you have witnessed or brusing noticed. Write down lies and excusses, the transformation in her as well as yourself. This journal will be important later.

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This post was modified from its original form on 05 Jul, 1:04
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