For everyone that replied to my plea for prayers, I thank you. Unfortunately it would seem that other plans are afoot for my beloved Mum.
The before yesterday [Sunday] she was rushed into the ITU after a week on a ward. They have no real idea of what is wrong but she is in a semi coma and being helped to breathe with a ventilator. They are now feeding her intravenously and pumping antibiotics into her to hopefully clear any unknown infections that may be responsible for putting her into this situation. Today [Tuesday], Mum will be wired up to a brain monitor to see if there si brain activity. The doctor attending told my Dad that not many leave this ITU well, well, alive. My Dad is close to breakdown and it's heartbreaking to see him like this, watching the complete and only love of his life, fade away.
Today Mum was having 'fits', like mini seizures. The nurse said it was only spontaneous and doesn't mean that there is still life in there. In under a week we have seen a massive decline. When she was admitted it was just for observation and now we are close to losing and it's just breaking me up. My two sisters are here, both live in different parts of the country. My brother is local somewhere, he doesn't have an address, we have tried to contact him to come in but he won't because he and my father fell out some years ago and my father blamed him for my mothers contraction of Parkinsons disease.
For all of you who have your beliefs, I respect them and you and for the messages you all sent back to me. The little faith I had is dissapating daily because this is my mother, I know on a wider scale, things happen for a reason, but reason doesn't come into it now, especially for my father who is totally lost and, a proud and dignified man, he won't break down where other people are, not even with my sisters, only with me, so, tho' it looks as tho' I'm being 'hard', I am having to stay strong for him. If we do lose my mother, it will destroy my father completely. I know in that situation I will lose two parents in a short while because his heart will broken beyond repair, he already has heart trouble.
Anyway, this was just an update for all interested in my position at present. I would ask again for you to pray for my Mum, I am only who I am because of her, she gave me life that I may help others in whatever capacity I could, she taught me faith also but after all I have seen, it's difficult to hold on to that in any shape or form. I cannot believe a God would allow all this suffering for one family such as mine let alone everything that is happening around the world. Don't condemn me for my stance on this, as I said, I DO respect what you believe in, no matter what it is, but I had severe doubts before now but, well......
Obviously this is a personal thing and maybe even selfish, but my emotions are very raw right now. Thanx... hugs to all Ron [aka tcmoon]
I wrote this poem for my Mum who was in hospital for a while seriously ill. Sadly she passed away on Monday 8th November.
My father, sister and I went to the chapel today to say our goodbyes, tho' I know she isn't there, just her body, but it was something that needed to be done to find some kind of closure.
She fought but could not fight anymore, the Parkinsons disease she suffered these past five years, stepped up a gear and although we knew she had been fighting pneumonia, it seems that too escalated and eventually took control.
My father was with her when she passed on tho' if she knew he was there or not is unknown, I like to think positively and believe she did and that was why she slipped away so peacefully. I also believe that her death is not the end and that she is already in some higher echelon of happiness and fulfillment. I have shed very few tears and have held up other family members but no doubt that strength will eventually break.
I have been playing a particular song this week that kinda sums up how I feel not only for my mother but like a message if you like, to others of just how important one's mother really is. I don't have a web site or a file I could post as a link but if you come across it, have a listen, it's a good song. It's called "Angels" and is sung by country boy Randy Travis. It's how I feel and it's a song I wish I'd written...
I,m sorry to hear about your mom.God bless you.he will give you the courage to deal with the pain in your heart.i was an only child and lost both parents 9 months apart.That was almost to much pain i thought.I remember my father told me this."God does not shut a door without opening a window".i miss them still after almost 15 yrs.I cry for them because I miss them.They are in heaven.So is you dear one. Hugs,Karen
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Blessings to you Ron.... as Bette says, your Mum is in a wonderful place, released from her suffering and I know she will look down on her family with love and much gratitude.
Shed the tears, that is important and do whatever you feel is necessary to eventually come to a place of loving acceptance.... Life is love and love is life... all is part of the journey.
Beautiful poem Ron, it's the passage of tolerant LOVE! June 24, 2006 6:18 AM
Thanks for accepting my application. Ron your poem touched(tucht) the strings of my heart and viberate my memories of knowing caring. It's a vacuum that can't be filled, only a acknowlegment that leaves you stunned. My MOM I loved her so, that it is every second as present as my breath. ......
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