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Honoring loved ones April 13, 2008 7:32 PM

I think one of the ways to honor those who have gone before is to dedicate service to them.  I am honored to be going to the Jimmy and Rosalyn Carter work project for Habitat for Humanity in New Orleans, May 11-16.  I will carry Laurel (my daughter), my wife's Dad, her beloved uncle (who had said he would have been with me on prior H4H trips if he were younger), my Dad, and all those who helped to bring me to where I am...

It'll be my third trip to New Orleans to volunteer with H4H, and I carry them all with me to celebrate my service to others.

How better to turn grief to joy??? 

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 April 20, 2008 11:44 AM

Tim, that is a wonderful way to honor your dear departed ones. In helping those who are here now, it is also a life-affirming action. Which, in my way of thinking, is even more meaningful - completing the circle.
All the best, Liz

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Thank you April 21, 2008 6:52 PM

Your words mean a lot...

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Another is to finish some of their plans..... April 22, 2008 8:36 AM

tim, i couldn't agree with you more about service.  i'm not yet clear about how i will dedicate service to my billy, but i know that he had plans, ones we shared, and i will carry out those plans as well as i am able.

billy always wanted to see ireland.  his son and i are planning a trip there next year to scatter some of his ashes.

going back to school is one of my long range goals, and i know he would tell me to take some of the insurance money and go back to school.  i haven't committed to a time yet, but will do it when the initial stages of grief that make it impractical now  begin to pass.

he loved the house we just bought and had many plans for its improvement.  i am going to try to carry out as many of those as possible.

he has found many ways to let me know he is watching.  i hope he will be happy with my long range plans.

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Janet April 23, 2008 8:18 PM

I agree with you wholeheartedly!  When I was 14 years old, my beloved uncle Jack died - I lived "for him" for many years and did the things I thought he would have wanted me to do.  I still carry him with me every day.  Even though our gifts were very different, I honor him with living what he taught me.  Your heart will lead you correctly - listen to it and not to others... 

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and another step for billy's bucket list..... January 22, 2009 9:47 AM

i started private pilot's ground school last week.  not being excessively fond of heights, i'll be thrilled if i take a plane off the ground once, with an instructor in tow, but the idea is the intent.  i know he would have loved it.  the ground school itself is fascinating.

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