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This is a hard one...  I have to think about it...  It's going to take me some time!

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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Hard question May 20, 2005 3:25 PM

I think it is impossible to say whether they learned anything from me, either positively or negatively.  I only hope that they felt the love I had for them....  [ send green star]
Giuliana & Tim.... May 21, 2005 2:17 PM

Giuliana & Tim., this is a tough question to answer. My thoughts have laid heavily this afternoon on the  way I look to the sky for a sign and around me all the time. I am not sure what my loved ones learned from me. I hadn't seen my lovely niece, for two years prior to her passing and well that is an entirely different story. But I hope and pray as Tim said, that they knew how loved they were than and are still now. peace & blessings---ginger  [ send green star]

I think the above definition fits my Tony perfectly!  He was very gentle and sensitive...  BUT - he was one of the top executives for the company he worked for, and he was also a USNR Captain!  Therefore, both positions required him "to switch" roles and behavior whenever he was "on duty"!  He had to give orders, be forceful, and demand respect.  He was "the boss" and had to act like one!  Nevetheless, he always kept his cool and manners.

When we met, he was retired already, but sometimes his "boss attitude" would still prevail..  For inst., in the morning, he'd make a list of things for me to do for him, and his excuse was that his Italian wasn't good enough to handle them himself!  That's how I became "the Captain's Aid"!  I didn't mind it...  but I teased him a lot!  Why not "taking it easy" after so many years of work?  I  explained to him that people are much more relaxed here...  They enjoy life but they do get things done even if they aren't on a tight schedule!  With time, Tony realized I was telling him the truth.  He felt accepted, his Italian got better...  He finally relaxed.  He learned how to be himself "at all times"!  Did I teach him that?  Well, I think I simply pointed out  to him that this was a different reality... and he adjusted to it. 

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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My Mother Was SOO...Amazing! May 21, 2005 5:04 PM

My mother could solve many problems and could figure out a way to do things when everyone else just said "no way". She counseled the needy and visited the sick. But when she got ill, she wasn't able to share her own feelings. We talked every day for weeks--and finally, she began to open up just a little bit at a time. I'd like to think that when she passed she was at peace with herself, and I hope I helped.

---Karen C. 

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 May 21, 2005 6:24 PM

Karen assured you were there for her and helped ease her mind and soul and I do believe that you helped her come to this. She was blessed I gather you are too because of it. You have a strong soul & heart.Your mom has given you much in return

Giuliana, what a lovely teaching of patience and to enjoy life! I sometimes wonder if God doesn't make all this happen such as you and him Giuliana and how you helped him come to realize that he should stop and smell the roses so that he could enjoy life, because as we all know it is too short. I do believe you taught him well. peace & blessings---ginger

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 May 22, 2005 1:19 AM

Dear Karen,

I have no doubt in my mind that you were most helpful to your mother!  You should be proud of it and cherish the memory!


Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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 May 22, 2005 1:25 AM

My dear Ginger,

Your comments made me feel good about myself!  Thanks.  I believe that there's NO coincidence in life...  Tony and I met to help each other and enjoy the time we had together...  But it was TOO short, and now I'm lost without him!

I also believe that you and I joined for a purpose...  Perhaps we created this group for the same reason...  for the mutual good.


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A Group With A Purpose May 23, 2005 2:19 AM

I have been looking for a group all over where I could come and be honest. Until now, when I post my feelings, no one would answer, or skirt around my feelings.  

This group is not like that. Thank you Giuliana and Ginger for your support and encouragement.

"There is no distance greater than one minute ago."--unknown



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Karen & Giuliana & Our Group... May 23, 2005 4:37 AM

I have been looking for a group all over where I could come and be honest. Until now, when I post my feelings, no one would answer, or skirt around my feelings. --Karen's words

Karen, thank you for saying that. We appreciate your presence and support and sharing here. For some it doesn't come easy.

I hope nobody takes this the wrong way, but death seems to have that affect on the survivors, it brings out the honesty of life and from them. At least it has been that way for me.

Giuliana, you are always welcome. Know that you all are loved from someone above. peace & blessings---ginger

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 May 24, 2005 7:49 AM

this is an interesting question.  at first, I thought that it was me who learned from Jenny...focusing mainly on what she taught me through her death.  But then I realized that our whole lives together we experienced a give and take of learning.  She was the strong one, the one who took no sh*t off anyone.  I am more gentle and passive.  She was my barometer for when I was being stepped on and didnt even realize it....I could gentle her down when she was on a rant, and help her to see the more peaceful solution.

we taught each other as siblings to love unconditionally, how to fight like cats and dogs, then make up and still love each other desperatly.  how to laugh and be silly and share secrets.  She comes to see me in my dreams, carrying a bowl overflowing, when I look in the bowl, it contains the glory and the laughter and the sadness and the joy of us...the bounty of our life together here.  I must have taught her as much as she taught me...for the bowl that she keeps for us cannot contain it all.


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Novella thank you so much for sharing this... May 24, 2005 7:13 PM

Novella thank you so much for sharing this...All of it. I am envious of your beautiful dream. I think it is an awesome dream to have been blessed with. ---ginger  [ send green star]
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