Please allow me to Share your grief. A grief shared is halved and the more you share the less pain you have to bear. There has been much grief in my life and I am a good listener. Come share your burden with me and be relieved .
“Instead of telling people how they should grieve, I tell my story and, even though the reader is invisible to me, I ask them to tell me their story.” Andreozzi knows all to well that the processes of telling one’s own story is just part of a journey that never really ends. But the process of recalling one’s own story is powerful and cathartic. She believes the power of journaling will help others struggling with grief to uncover their own questions and find the answers. “What started out as a journey of grief and dealing with the raw facts and pain of death moved to a discovery of self. That’s what my pain gave me
Yes, Gerald this is true.. grief is an ongoing process March 03, 2005 3:27 AM
Yes, Gerald this is true. Grief is an ongoing process and NOBODY can tell you when you should be over & done with it or the right way to overcome it. It is our own individual experience living with grief, loss & sorrows and I do believe a lifelong one at that until we make that journey home and see them again, all depending on how you believe. I suddenly feel blessed to find you have arrived Gerald. Thank you for your fatherly wisdom & support. & warmth. peace upon your soul my dear good man---ginger
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March 03, 2005 7:09 AM
Hello G & G!!
How wonderful to been invited to a place to share the grief and pain that sometimes we try to hide so well or we try not to accept.
Grief,pain is also part of our growing do painful but indeed part of life.Reminds me of a story of the Buddha.
Once a Woman lost her son and she came crying to the Buddha "please i know you have the power bring my son back no one can understand the pain of loosing my child give life back to my son"
The Buddha was quiet very elevated beings know sometimes they can't interfere in some dealings of Karma so He told Her "Ok,I will bring your son back to life if you bring me rice from a Home were no one have ever suffered the grief of loosing a loved one"
So the woman went door to door in the city but everyone in one point or other in time had lost someone,she could not find a home were grief had not been so she understood the lesson from the Buddha and accepted this fact of loosing someone is a passage of humanity.
So we also have lost many in our lives but we rejoice in the momories and what we had and still have in spirit.
Tony, my beloved husband, passed on exactly ten months ago today! Because it was a sudden, tragic event, I was in shock for a long time, and I'm still being treated for "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder".
It all started with abdominal cramps, which worsened to the point that it was necessary to call an ambulance. While we were on it, Tony's pain moved up to his chest... He had the impression that his heart was "breaking up"! He was screaming and jerking, while I was holding his hand. The nurse gave him an IV to cleanse his system, then a heart pill, and some oxigen because he was also having some trouble breathing. No improvement. At one point, Tony simply died. The nurse and I looked at each other in disbelief. He tried CPR until we got to the hospital. The doctors still found some vital signs in Tony and attempted to revive him in any possible way. To no avail. I don't know exactly how I reacted when they gave me the news, but I do recall being taken to the emergency room because my blood pressure had dangerously gone up.
What happened after that was like a never ending nightmare. To the present day. Tony and I were very happy together. He was my soul mate. We had just finished having the apt. renovated and were looking forward to enjoying it for the rest of our lives... Now I have a gorgeous place but NO Tony... Life can be very cruel at times! Friends, more than family, have been supportive. But I'm lonely because I'm an only child, my parents are dead, and I have no childen of my own.
Thanks for listening to my story. Sometimes I think it's just my imagination... Perhaps Tony and I never met... But then I think of all the love, fun, and happiness we had... It was too good to last.
Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock March 03, 2005 6:57 PM
There are never words enough to express the anguish as we watch our loved ones pass & suffer. We suffer right along with them, no? i am positive we do. i felt so hopeless when my neice passed. For the first time in my life i felt as if i wasn't able to do a damned thing to make it all right. I sense that from you too in ways with your experience Giuliana. it was the first time in my life i experienced this feeling of madness, "there isn't a thing I can do to change this, and I remember dropping the cell phone because I was inthe barn feeding and caring for calves, this was my job than.
My reaction from there on in was terribly out of control and very emotional. I didn't witness her passing as you did your husbands so I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. I just remember screaming because I wanted to feel that life force within me that had been so unfairly removed from Rachel. Rachel was only sixteen years old, youthful and vibrant in the beginning of her life and someone is calling me on the phone to tell me the life is gone from her. All i could do than was continue feeding those calves who had so much life force inside them and i finished my job and went home. From than on it was an uphill battle but I am doing better than I had been. Now i think of my neice's mothers pain and her five brothers, sisters that remain here on earth with life forces beating and pulsating strongly and every day I pray for them all for blessings, love & protection.
You are in my prayers tonight & from here on in,Giuliana. I must leave now, even I get to the point where it becomes too much & I have to walk & look away for a bit. peace, love & light and may the stars shine their blessings upon yo tonight. ---ginger
I appreciate your comforting words. Thanks, my friend. Yes, Tony does visit me in dreams and also sends me signs. I don't know what plans there are for me, as right now, I feel I have NO life... but I met Tony when I was going through some rough times and he solved ALL of my problems. Then, once his task was completed, he left this world. I had two significant dreams: he was flying on an empty plane... sitting by the window... there was no view, just clouds. He looked VERY sad and pale. About a month later, I had another dream: he was calling me on the phone to tell me that he "had reached his destination and was going to start a course the next day!" Perhaps that's the continuation of his mission... I think he is a highly developed soul whose purpose is to help and spread love.
How do you feel about me, watching him die? Was it some kind of punishment for me? Or was it arranged in such a way that I could give him comfort just being there and holding his hand?
Thanks for your support and healing words. I understand your frustration and pain when you niece passed away so suddenly! However, it was a good thing your job kept you occupied... I retired on a disability 5 years ago, but now I am trying to keep busy with reading, housework, looking after my 2 cats, settling Tony's estate, and CARE2! I like this organization and I enjoy being part of it. I think there's no coincidence in hearing about it through my brother-in-law!
Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock
P.S. Years ago I worked on a voluntary basis in the Mental Health Dept. of the US Naval Hospital here in Naples. I was conducting Group Therapy (I have a B.A. in Psychology) and organizing field trips for my patients. It was a lot of fun and I dedicated all of my free time to it! Now that I AM being treated for PTSD, the Italian psychiatrist has suggested that I help him in his practice, once I feel better. Do yu think that, perhaps, that would be part of the "PLAN" God has for me? I'm not a doctor, though, and there's A LOT to learn in this field!
There are karmic relationships and most of our relationships are karmic believe it or not,children,parents,friends, even co=workers all this are past relationships that now we have to work on either make ammends or help them to develop.
Could be your Husband had to help you at your worst time because in another lifetime you did for him once He finished his lesson He was moved on to start a new set of Learning we always learning the soul is always in evolution so we never end we only get promoted to higher or other rooms of study and i feel on the future you two will be reunited again and enjoy the good times after all we are eternal.
One thing you must do is honor His memory by doing goodness and finding your place in the world He left you a lesson is up to you to pass it or to fail it I believe you are strong and intelligent enough to pass this test in order to be promoted to where he is now.
Is hard to understand How all works but if we believe we are eternal then we know will be together again to rejoice in God's love.
Oh, Tulsi, my friend, I appreciate your support and encouragement! I understand your philosophy and it certainly makes sense! Actually, in my particular situation, I'd be inclined to believe that it is exactly what happened... If I detach myself from it and look at it objectively, Tony's mission seems clear, while I still cannot understand what I'm supposed to do... I guess it may all be part of my spiritual evolution?
You said that God never punishes, yet, it's SO hard AND PAINFUL for me to go through this loss... Do you think that I'm repaying a karmic debt this way? Was it my soul's choice? I'm confused.
Thanks for clarifying things for me. Love and light to you always,
I feel you should stop trying to find ways either to make yourself responcible for what happened or blaming your own karma.
He had his own teaching you have yours karmic is both not only one!
Every human has to go trough loosing someone either on old age or young or in betwen but there is not a human who has not lost another human loved one.
so you see is part of life and is hard to accept but we must only then we can overcome and keep walking as painful as it is there is a tomorrow and all we can do is make the best of what we have now this way we honor those gone and also make way to find them once again in the after life.
I will share the story of my greatest loss soon and you will see no matter who we are all have felt the loss and the pain.
We have crossed path so many times that I now think someone is trying to give us a sign..lol..after reading what you have wrote I thought of something someone sent to me..and would like to share..it may just be words but they fit so well....
A REASON, A SEASON, A LIFETIME
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....
I can't believe my eyes! It fits the situation SO perfectly, and in such a wonderful way! I'll make a printout and read it whenever I feel down... You're right, there are NO coincidences and I'm thankful we have become such good friends! SOMEONE is watching over us and perhaps we're beginning to understand what our mission is...
Sorry, Jen! I called you Ginger by mistake. Your message was SO touching that - after reading it - I couldn't quite concentrate and got the names mixed up. But NOT the person! Thanks for being so thoughtful.