My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend...may you find peace in living life the way your beloved would want you to, confident in the knowledge (not hope) that you will be reunited one day. May God bless you!
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It was 2 years ago May 12 that my wife passed away. I do understand how you feel and my prayers are with you. Life just isn't the same but it goes on and I make the best that I can of it. My thoughts, my love, and my condolences are with you.
Your candle is lovely. I said a prayer last night and again today for you - and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you for inviting me to this group, hon. For you:
Thought I'd throw in something for everyone (below). I found it a long time ago and liked it, but never posted it anywhere until now.
I guess we don't have to worry about running out of rainbows, if this is true, do we? I must have made a lot of them myself; and I'm sure all you you here have, too. I pray for a peaceful heart and mind for everyone here. Like the song said, "Love Hurts."
my dear sweet Giuliana P . you know you are always in my thoughts my heart and prayers. you are my sweet friend. you never told me this I'm sorry. God Bless you both. and you know he's always around you. Love and Hugs Linda J
Hugs to you my friend. Prayers for your peace and the strength to go on and God's grace to be happy again somehow.
May 12th was my brother's birthday and June 24 marks the 1 year anniversary of his passing. He was only 42 and lost his battle with alcoholism. He actually died of phneumonia, but I'm facing the fact that if that had not killed him, his addiction would have. He was trying to beat it, but not winning. He was my best friend and life is definitely not the same! Except for internet friends, (which are GREAT - DO NOT GET ME WRONG - THEY ARE ALL I HAVE TO DEPEND ON ANYMORE AND I COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT THEM) there is no one (at home) to share things with that share the same interests. No one (at home) to talk to that understands. We went through a lot together growing up in a family full of violence and alcoholism. We were closer than words can ever relate.
So I can somehow relate to your emptiness at losing your husband. I pray time will help you heal, and me as well. And I look forward to the day when we are all reunited. Amen.
Am in a one-week training for individuals who work directly with victims of crime. We've had workshops on grief and trauma, and it is amazing how closely the research and experiences show that the support we show each other in this group corresponds with what is truly needed. Each grief journey is unique (I have spoken with many individuals here about their own losses and what they have done to survive them), but we can understand the pain, aloneness, and difficulty others are going through. (To be trite, it takes one to know one--)
Suzy, the one-year anniversary (both birthday and date of passing) is very difficult. They still hurt each year (in my case, 14 years this year) but you can find ways to cope. My Laurel's birth date is coming up June 22; I will do something to honor her and her spirit on that date.
Tim - I volunteer with a Rape Crisis Program (in additon to my job with a coalition against sexual assaut and violence. It not easy to do and when I first came on care2 I was hurting after leaving an abusive marriage in all ways and means - the groups on here were fantastic and I have managed to put my past behind me and forgive. Forgiving is the hardest thing to do. I commend you for being in the workshop - it will help you and as you say talking about it with your care2 friends is also a great help. I am so sorry for everyone's losses. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.