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My daughter and niece March 24, 2005 10:59 AM

I made this group for us parents of sexually abused children to sit and talk to each other and share our feelings and pain and suffer that we as parents and our children have to go throu when something like this happens. My daughter was sexually abused by my own brother and I caught it with my own eyes. He's now serving time for it. I don't know how many years he's gonna get out of this yet. Cause this just happened on January 10, 2005 and everything is still in the courts hands. Another hearing is suppose to be on April 5, 2005. And I have a niece also that has been sexually abused by her step dad and she has told her mom about it and the child has been taken to the doctor but noone wants to believe the child. So her mom sits back and ignores it all together and she is still with this no good for nothing child molester. And my family has tried having him locked up for it but it seems like the cops are on his side. They won't do anything to him. I glad that wasn't the sitution with my daughter. And since all this has happened with my daughter. All my family doesn't believe me they think I am lyin. When I caught it with my own eyes and my daughter was even taken to a place in Memphis, Tn where they check children for this type abuse and they checked her out and that's when they went and locked him up. So now my family and I don't get along at all now but I am not worried about it anymore cause if they want to sit back and say it's not true then so be it. I know what happened the night all of it occured and if it wasn't true he wouldn't be sitting in jail now.  [ send green star]
 
anonymous BEST WISHES April 16, 2005 2:24 PM

Be strong I believe in you your daughter is a gift of love Love to u and she  [report anonymous abuse]  [ accepted]
 
I was just passing, but...... September 16, 2005 8:19 AM

I have just found this group by mistaking it for one I was trawling for, but I just had to stop and read your archives.... :( Gosh!! I am both sorry and very angry to read about this so called man...man?.. HUH!! I suffered from 5 until I was 9 (passed around). That was 50 years ago, but the memory is still with me. I was wondering if you have any updates on this spineless waste of space. I am also wondering if your darling suffers in any way and gets the help she may need. Perhaps also you could activate the HTML option within your management console... that way all members can hike up their size of font and those of us with a sight problem can read without difficulty. My Regards & Best Wishes, and cyber hugs in abundance :)  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Teresa October 11, 2005 5:13 AM

I was just scanning around some of the groups that I have joined. I think this is the first post I have done on this group. I am an Adult Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse. I must tell you THANK YOU! Thank You for not covering it up because it was your brother. Don't worry about the Family issues. You are doing what it right. My family did not beleive me. Let me reword that...My family wanted to cover it up! My molester was an non blood related uncle and my father told me that "if it happeend, you did something to provoke it." I was probably 7-9 when it started? My family has turned completely against me, I have been written out of the will, my two brothers and their wives had an attorney send me a letter stating that " I have alianated myself from the family, it wasn't that my family was in Denial as I stated, they just simply did not beleive me" The first steps for a sexually abused child to heal, is family support and adults respsonding responsible! Thank you for taking respondible actions and helping your daughter heal from this traumatic experience. As for your niece, I am so sorry, she has family like mine. IT will be a LONG painful Journey of healing for her. Pray for her. I am not sure what state this is in, but some states, claim that only a suspecioun of abuse, can be reported to DSS for investigation. HAve you checked into reporting it your self. Most states have a protection policy for those who report suspesion. You might check into to it. Thank you again for Loving your daughter more then you love yourself. Not all mothers are able to love their daughter like that! Patty Adult Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
I understand July 16, 2007 8:56 PM

I have two daughters who were both abused and sexually assaulted by my brother. I just found out this week that my brother has abused my eldest daughter more than once. The first time my children were only 15 and 17. My brother's wife was involved in the abuse as well. Right now, I feel so angry, and want to confront him. I am not sure what to do or where to turn. My eldest daughter has PTS (Post Traumatic Stress) and drinks to control the feelings she has from the abuse. My youngest daughter pretends its all ok. My eldest daughter told my mother about the abuse months prior to my knowing and she responded that if you didn't act like a wife you would not have been treated like one. My daughter was only babysitting his children and cleaning house. This devastated my daughter. She was ashamed and felt it was all her fault. We all trusted my brother. Now I am concerned for his children and the child of his new wife.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
I'm there with you! July 17, 2007 9:26 AM

My daughter came to me 2 years ago to tell me that her non-blood related uncle was molesting her. This had been going on for 2 years. This creep picked the time when I was trying to take care of my grandfather, dying of cancer, to hold down and rape my daughter,while she was sleeping. When she told me, she begged me not to take her to the hospital with a bunch of strangers. I talked to the state police and they agreed to let me take her to our private physican for her check-up. When time came to go to court,you better believe I pressed charges. I was told that we would not win. They were going to make my 11 year old daughter get on the stand and testify. The state let this man go with probation. He has never admitted he was wrong, and the sad fact is that my sister(his wife) refuses to believe us and has chosen to stay with this sick man. I do not wish harm or bad things on her but I cannot imagine a time when I would chose anyone over my child. She did nothing wrong in this situation. I split my whole family into pieces when I pressed charges, but my only concern was to make sure that she got the help that she needed. I have dealty with this in many different stages. The one thing that has turned my life right-side-up is my daughter and her bravery. Thanks to alot of counseling and alot of prayer,we are making it. She told me one day that she would not let what he did to her define her. She says that she did what was right, that she protected others from him. She says that he will have to answer to saint peter when he trys to get into heaven, but that she can walk in with her head held high. Thank god for my little girl, for she has taught me to be a better person.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Thank You July 17, 2007 11:52 AM

Thank you for sharing your story with me. It gives me hope that my children will overcome this tragedy and that we are doing the right thing.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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