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Transition from co-sleeping to toddler bed September 04, 2004 9:27 AM

Hi everyone I hope you are all well. I just had a question and figured youd be the best ones to ask. My daughter is 17 months old and we still use the family bed thing. She naps in her crib (mainly for safety reasons so she doesnt fall out) but she sleeps in bed with me during the night. I read that toddlers should move into a toddler bed between 18 and 24 months or when they're 36 inches. My daughter is already 33 inches so I figure within a few months she may be ready for a toddler bed. I was just curious how some of you helped your child transition from co-sleeping to being alone overnight in their own bed? Im worried my daughter wont go for this since she's so used to being with me and since its a bed not a crib she'd be able to climb right out and never stay there to sleep. Any suggestions or comments? Thanks!!!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 September 09, 2004 8:44 PM

My daughter is almost four and she still sleeps in our bed most of the time. There is no right age to start their own bed. I wouldn't make the transition that early but that is me. We are in that process now. Jenn  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 September 10, 2004 7:06 AM

I think the main reason the book you read suggested the 18-24 mo/ 36 inches is for safety as at that size/age little ones can climb out of their cribs but may not be coordinated enough to do it safely. As you are doing family bed, I bet your little girl is safe getting in and out of your bed on her own (I think my almost 3-year-old was getting up and down by that age (and our bed is about 4 feet off the ground!) However, if your ready for her to be in her own bed, I always think peer pressure works (ie expose her to another child who has her own bedroom/ bed--either in person or in books/on tv). My little one stayed the night at a friend's house (who slept in a toddler bed) and after coming home refused to go into her crib (she had been sleeping there for many months) So, she slept on the floor for a couple days and then into a toddler bed with no complaints. We also got her Dora bed linens (she loves Dora) including a pillow of Dora's face, sheets and a cuddly blankie and took her to the store to pick out her bed. We went to a childrens' furniture store instead of a big chain with the beds way up where the kids can barely see 'em). I also think a lot of graduating co-sleepers put a mattress on the floor next to toddler bed and go to sleep next to their little ones as a transition. Hope this helps. Jana (Rhia, almost 3; Reed 6 mos)  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 October 01, 2004 9:07 PM

i still havent gotten totally to that point yet... we are a little unconventional around here i think.haha ... my oldest was 7 before he moved into his own bed,then he did it only because we had another child and we all decided that he needed to have a full nights sleep seeing that he got up at 6am for school.then we had him(the new lil guy) in our bed till he was 5 and we had a 3rd lil one it was not that easy for him to move on.he insisted to stay with us,so we moved our bed to the floor and added a futon to the mix to add more sleeping space,that held on till the littlest one was rolling and crawling,then he (middle child)wanted to move in with his older brother.they each had their own room,but slept in bunk beds in one of the rooms.that continued untill we adopted a child who was a year older then they shared a room. we just moved from a 4 bedroom to a 5 bedroom house so they can all have their own space and my now 14 yr old sleeps alone in his room,the 7 and 8 yr old sleep on the couches in the living room (even though we fixed up their rooms to each of their own personalities and they have awesome beds) and my 2 yr old is still in with us even though he has a cool room with a car bed.i just figure well... they are only little for so long then they want all their own space and wanna be off with friends etc.i enjoy the comfort of them near me as long as i can,14 yrs of elbows in the ribs and heels in my face or back hasnt been so bad... haha but my friend did a thing where she at first layed a crib matress on her floor at age 2 then moved it onto a frame then into a differant room with her on the floor untill they fell asleep then by that time he was old enough to get the on his own in a big boy bed. i wish you luck on what ever you do.but yeah try to make it an exciting thing like this is your own space!!! you get to sleep how you want and yer so big , and how proud you are of them. also my kids all have herb pillows i made for them and special blankets that are for where they sleep,so that kinda helped in the moven spots. good luck!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 October 03, 2004 1:38 PM

We didn't bother trying to shift my son out of our bed until he was weaned and almost always slept straight through, so he slept with us til he got his toddler bed at about 18 months. The first few months, we'd tuck him in and he'd go to sleep in it (with one of us sitting in a chair next to him reading with a booklight) but he'd almost always climb in with us in the wee hours. But Will thought it was so neat to have his own bed, and he was and is so independent that he LOVED being able to get in and out on his own. We were scared he'd get up and wander around the house, but he never did. Or at least, we never CAUGHT him doing it!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hi, Maria- October 03, 2004 4:12 PM

How did you wean him while he was still in your bed?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 October 03, 2004 7:25 PM

Actually, when he was six months old I had to stop breastfeeding (emergency surgery) and had five days to get him used to bottles, which we'd never used. Once we got him to take a bottle of breast milk, which was a nightmare, we gradually slipped in a bottle of formula here and there. Eventually the stockpile of frozen breastmilk ran out and by then he was comfortable with bottles and formula, although he did continue to nuzzle me in the middle of the night for another six months. Broke my heart, but he seemed to be doing it more for comfort and cuddles than actual food, anyway. He didn't give up the bottle at bedtime until he was two, by which point it was just water, but very much a comfort item.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
nighttime weaning October 04, 2004 11:55 AM

I think I may have mentioned this before (mommy-brain strikes again) but with my oldest, I weaned him to a sippy cup of water at night, when he was I think somewhere around 12 months old. He still nursed to sleep and still nursed when he woke up, but was okay with water during the night (but man were we in trouble if we didn't have his special cup at night!) They don't make the cups we used anymore, but for what its worth, they were the kind that the top twisted and a rigid straw came out the side. They were the only thing I found that was really drip-proof. I don't remember having any problems with it--but he has always been a pretty low-key kid. You know, just one to go with the flow. I can't imagine trying this with my current nursling--he would scream loud enough to scare away a banshee.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 October 08, 2004 8:28 PM

Will her bed be in your room or in her own room? Has she ever slept in her crib at night? DD#2 is still in a crib/co-sleeping, she's 20 months old. She sleeps in her crib most of the time. If she wakes up upset, or if she's sick, then she will sleep with us. But, DD#1 had no trouble really transitioning to her toddler bed. I started out just putting her mattress on the floor (safety reasons). Surprisingly, she never wandered around the house! She slept in a crib most of the time before, too. I think she liked having her big girl bed better than the crib because she could just climb in bed with me-no having to call for me to get her!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
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