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SAFE SLEEPING June 25, 2004 11:02 PM

I know there is a lot of controversy regarding co-sleeping. Lots of organizations are saying it is not safe....and the reality is that if it is not done correctly, it is VERY dangerous for infants. However, if done safely it has wonderful benefits to both mom and child. I guess this is like a PSA for safe sleeping. If you co-sleep remember: ~the back is still the best position for infants ~make sure there is no loose bedding, pillows, stuffed toys etc. that could suffocate your infant ~NEVER co-sleep if you are under the influence of drugs (even OTC's) or alcohol...the risk of overlay (laying ontop of your child) increases greatly ~NEVER co-sleep in a waterbed, couch or chair (the baby could get trapped in between crevices) ~a bedrail is a good idea so baby does not roll off This post isn't meant to scare people from co-sleeping (I co-sleep). It's just that there isn't a lot of info out there about how to co-sleep safely with infants. All the mainstream stuff is geared towards safe cribs. Most of the stuff is intuitive and common sense...but you never know. Anyone out there have other thoughts on co-sleeping safely?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Crib death June 26, 2004 7:08 AM

I don't know the statistics on the rate of SIDS with co-sleeper and non co-sleepers, but amongst my fellow co-sleepers we often quip that there is a reason SIDS is called crib death. NOT to place the blame on parents who place their kids in cribs, but to say that co-sleeping seems to be an extra bit of security, with those caveats you mentioned, Radonda. The newborns thrive on constant touch and learn their very breathing patterns from our own--though they are nine months old when they are born, they have only just become breathers at birth. For me, safety has always been part of my decision to co-sleep, but mainly it jusst made practical sense while breastfeeding. As a newborn, my son was a marathon nurser, day and night. I like my sleep, a lot. Having him nestled in the crook of my arm felt cozy and allowed both of us to wake up as little as possible. I feel quite sad for the many moms I talk to who are still losing major sleep with their older babies and have from early on because they have to get up a few or several times a night to care for their little ones. I will happily co-sleep for as long as my son wants. He never had a crib--he went from our big bed at about 8 months, when he was too squirmy for dad to sleep well to his own queen-sized futon, raised an inch from the ground. He shares his bed most of the night with me. I know this is all more about co-sleeping than the safety issues. I just can't think of the safety aspects without thinking about how wonderful the co-sleeping is in general. Except when they learn other bad habits--I grind my teeth at night and think my son has just figured out how I make that noise! -Kirsten  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 June 26, 2004 7:08 AM

When my daughter was an infant, she slept on my chest. It was the only way she could fall asleep, it seemed! She is 18 months old now, and sleeps by herself, except when she is sick. Then she still has to sleep on top of me!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
I did that too! July 05, 2004 6:01 PM

My daughter slept on my chest until she didn't fit anymore! LOL.. Nothing was easier when it came to mid-night breastfeeding and going back to sleep for both of us faster! But I remember feeling her breath, waking to feel her chest rising and falling with the rhythm of my own. Talk about bonding... My husband was wary of co-sleeping, so it was she and I in one bed and he in another for about a year. When he tried sleeping with us, he was so paranoid and nervous he'd keep himself awake worrying that he was going to roll over on her. With her kickin' feet no WAY that woulda happened. LOL... We played it smart though and kept her safe. When she was too big to be on my chest (she'd roll off) I found that she could use my upper arm as a pillow and there was virtually no chance of her being smothered... I was just oo away of her.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
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