What made you decide to Attachment Parent? May 04, 2006 7:20 PM
My evolution into AP started with feminist author Naomi Wolfe's "Misconceptions," which chronicles the appalling lack of common sense in modern obstetrics. My next epiphany came when I picked up my first issue of Mothering magazine in a Seattle library. When we were finally able to conceive, the attachment parenting philosophies seemed more in line with our own values.
So what influenced your decision to become an attachment parent?
I just wanted to make sure that my children knew how much I love them and am there for them. I also wanted them to realize for themselves, the importance of closeness and nurturing in a family, even if it IS divided.
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I didn't know the term AP until around my DD's pregnancy/birth.... before that I just called it natural parenting. To me, using instincts and listening to my child's needs and such just seemed natural. Later I'd find there was this AP term that worked well enough.
BTW, I didn't use natural parenting to insinuate that others' ways were unnatural... but it did seem odd and yeah, unnatural to use artificial formula, plastic diapers, ignore their baby's cries for needs and to live in a way that's far removed from nature.... I had in mind the kind of parent I wanted to be and just did that... so glad to know that I wasn't the only one out there! LOL
I think "natural parenting" is a great way to describe it. Anyone who has even tried to let their child "cry-it-out" knows just how insanely unnatural it feels to not rush to them immediately! When my DS starts crying in his car seat, and there's nothing I can really do because he has to stay in it for us to be able to drive, I usually end up in tears, too. Can't fathom making him do that at home.
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