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What is attachment parenting? July 13, 2004 7:04 PM

I thought it'd be nice for folks new to the group to have some insight into the world of attachment parenting. I'd only heard the term a couple years ago when I was pregnant with DD but it fit in well with our philosophy so as it was, we simply adopted the label. I've also heard it called natural parenting... But, some folks wonder.. aren't you spoiling that child with the carrying? Can't you just give it formula? Why not just smack that child when they misbehave? Well, I'd like to think that those who AP have made a different set of choices. This is my absolute fav AP site: It's the one I turn to when I'm not sure if a medication I need to take will not work with breastfeeding and when I was having trouble with DD in the beginning with getting a good latch, I'd go to the guides there and was encouraged and amazed at the results. It was great little pep rallies in between LLL meetings! LOL So what's AP include? For many it's about peaceful families and home environment. It can include carrying or "wearing" an infant, breastfeeding on demand... emphasising security, love and finding that these things early on help a child become more independent and aware. That's my definition anyway... there's no set definition that I know of. Some (though not all of course) also include not circumcising their children, choice in vaxxing (and informed consent or selective vaxxing), cloth diapering, making baby food from scratch, home birthing and/or midwifery, co-sleeping and responding to a child's cries with understanding and compassion. This parenting style may not be suited for everyone but for those it does suit, it can be an enjoyable parenting experience, at least that's my experience. I couldn't imagine doing things any other way.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Nice summary July 13, 2004 8:39 PM

I like your list of what AP basically includes. I vary on the strength of some of my choices (vaxxing has been tough for me), but love working within this philosophy. When our ds was a few weeks old, I remember hearing my husband telling someone we were doing "attachment parenting" and was just SO thrilled. Until then, I wasn't sure if I was going to be going some of this alone--he WAS my Bradley coach, but he's the quiet type so I just often don't know if he's with me or just nodding and agreeing. -Kirsten  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
I know what you mean! July 14, 2004 6:07 AM

DH knew I was pretty "crunchy" in lifestyle and though wary of an out of hospital birth, trusted me to make good decisions. I don't think he's regretted a thing other than not knowing as much about choices new parents faced when he had his kids with his ex. He did a lot of "go along with the flow" with them and didn't realize with some things there WAS a choice. I think he thought I was nuts at time, carrying DD all around and he didn't want to be part of that kind of thing but agreed with other aspects like the co-sleeping and nursing on demand... and while he thought a year would have been a nice stopping point no longer asks, how long will DD nurse now that she's nearly 22 months old. LOL.... I think he thought I was spoiling her and she'd be clingy but she's the most independent, headstrong toddler I've met in a while... she'll play shy in a new situation for about 5 minutes, then then she starts taking over the place, charming folks off their guard and shedding that shy decoy in a heartbeat. LOL  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
I've also heard the term July 20, 2004 10:38 PM

"aware parenting"...guess that comes from being aware of your child's needs and tuning into your child instead of tuning them out. Loved your description of AP. I think a lot of us were doing it, without even realizing there was a "movement", so to speak. It just seems natural to me.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
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