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I'll start. I'm single and looking. I've meet one guy through a friend. He and I have never meet face 2 face but have talked on the phone together and sent emails and photos to each other for about 3 months now. He's very nice but I'm not sure if he's really my type. We are very different in politics and religion. I feel this is going to be the damper but we do talk about this to each other but are "dancing around" to avoid conflict. Now he wants to meet me. I've put this off for about a 2 months now.
So do I give him a chance or not? I'm not sure that meeting him is going to change my mind on just viewing him as a friend. We do seem very different to me yet he keeps saying that we get along great (and we do) so I'm kinda confused as to what to do. A night on the town with him or trust my inner judgments?
You have 2 options. My witch side sais: trust on your inner instincts.
But my girly side sais: go on a 'date' with him and see what happens. But make sure you tell at the beginning of the date, that you don't want it to go to far(If you know what I mean). And at the end, if you are feeling certain that you are not willing to have a relation with him, other then a friendly relation. Then please tell him. If you are left with doubts in the end of the evening, then I have no clue what you should do.
I told a friend(she was a girl, that had a boyfriend, but wasn't sure if she should quit te relationship or jump in the dark) In the form of a joke I said:'You need to perform the theorie of the candle!' Light a candle and then meditate infront of it, but make sure you visualize the candle!!! If in your meditation, the candle ends up going out then the relationship is doomed. If it's stays on...... I never tought she actually would do it, but she did. And the candle stayed on and she decided to stay with her boyfriend. They are now together for over 5 months.
I know it's tupid, but it's something. The best thing that could happen is that you and that guy stay friends or even go out for a while and maybe marry some day and the worse case scenario you never talk to each other.
It's better to go on the date, cause otherwise you maybe ask yourself i it could ever worked or not. I always do this if I want to know if I have feelings for a guy. I just kiss him! If he doesn't want to be kissed, you know he doesn't want to go out with you, but if the kiss didn't felt right. I just end it.
Hope I helped.
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Cindy April 30, 2005 7:56 PM
Thank you. I guess I'll give him a chance. He's sweet but honestly just don't think we're right for each other. I didn't know if I was wasting my time or not. But, as you said, my girly side says "hey, it's a free dinner, a little chat, and maybe a new good friend." My witchy side says "Don't. This is a waste of your time and what about your values? You know how different the both of you are." ---- I think my girly side will win this battle. - Who knows right? Even my bestfriend (MeMeCat) said "Go on...give him a chance!!" But I did want another opinion.
And I'm going to do your candle suggestion to!! I think its a cool idea. Thanks
My thoughts on this... just my opinion... Yes, meet the guy, but don't do so as a 'DATE' situation. Meet him during the day say at a restaraunt or the park, some place public, and well lit. There is less pretention in the light of day often, and you can often really see WHOM it is you are with.
Be honest, and let him know that for starters you would like to just meet as FRIENDS, sit, talk face to face... that way you feel the chemistry, or lack of... and follow your instincts from there...
We can always use another friend... so you already have that in him I believe, but a relationship that is not platonic... when the heart and the body are involved... that is when folks get hurt, when not being honest.
And let me share with you from being in a relationship where both of us are not of the same spiritual path... IF I had not been upfront with my fellow from the get go... I would have felt guilty down the line. HE had to accept me for who and what I am... all of me... YES, he could get to know the details later... but I was upfront... and so later when he finally did get pissed about my being 'me' I told him then... I told you about me, and my chosen path long time ago... and you accepted it then... accept it now or I guess we have to ... end a beautiful loving, fullfilling relationship.
It was difficult, still is from time to time when spirituality comes up... but he keeps me balanced, helps me always look at things from a different view then my own.... so I can work
My advice... it is better to be alone for the right reasons, then to be with another for the wrong.
She Who Knows!!!! This is great advice. I'm he says in about 2 weeks we can meet. He's a truck driver - so we'll have to dance around that. I was worried about the meeting. If this is the right thing to do or not. Thanks for the input!
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Trying to help an old friend get her kids back August 12, 2006 8:55 AM
Merry Meet I am looking for some input and anything that can help me to help this woman. I have known her for 11 years. She has not always been the most trustworthy person her mother father and brother are bent on making her life miserable since she was born. The one think I know about her is she loves her 3 kids that her mother has taken from her but her mother treats the two older boys badly and pitts them against each other. I wrote a spell and I was hoping that someone can help me to fine tune it. This is the first major spell I have ever written and I want to let you know that I have thought many times about writing a spell to help her. It has meant a lot to me to be able to help her since I met her. If I were a millionaire her problems would be solved by now but I am not. So here is my spell: I will leave her name out.
Brighid- I call upon you to help (this woman) to get her life and 3 children back. I have faith that with the right opportunity she and her 3 children will have a wonderful life together. There has been a lot of lies and deciet around (her) and her mother, father, and brother. I ask for your help to show her the path of light and honesty. She deserves to have her children and not be brought to her knees by her mother, father and brother and the state. She needs to be shown how a true mother is.
It's me again sorry. I found a something really cool in my herb book and am looking for some more info if possible. I have found an herb Hyachinth I can use in a sachet to help ease the pain of childbirth. I am curious can you use incense and oil as well in sachets? Are there other herbs as well as I have not had any luck finding them as of yet.
Mels- I do not know a lot about magickal use of herbs. Just a few things. I am not familiar with mothers wort. The only use I know of for tarragon is cooking fish. I guess I am really not much help. Just came to mind when I saw tarragon mentioned.
As or me, I do have something I would not mind a little advice on. I have recently moved. (Spokane, Washington to Appleton, Wisconsin) Among the other things changing in my life, I would like to start dating again. One of the things I am looking for is someone with spiritual beliefs compatable with my own. I am making frienda with the local pagan group and people at the unitarian church. (At first I was surprised by the amount of overlap.) However, I am not meeting any single women my age in either group. Any thoughts? (other than be patient.)
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hello everyone I need some help and its concerning my sister she might lode the baby that she's carrying so if anyone know a spell or ritual please let me know Thanks Mary
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hello everyone I was wondering if anyone had any good remedies for someone that is in extreme pain my friend is in a lot of physical pain from the surgery that she had and I want to help her out so i'm open to any suggestions thanks Mary
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I am constantly fatigued, which I am finding is making it so I don't work my craft very often. I am wondering if there is anyway I can cure this. I have a blood disorder which causes some tiredness but I don't want to blame is all on that. Can someone help me figure out how to get more energy? Thank you.
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Hi Mels, My blood work came back normal. I'm OK, I just need a nap sometimes, I dunno. I've started taking a really good multi-vitamin. I'm also dieting, got a few xtra lbs. to get rid of. I'm staying as active as I can. It seems like it only hits me when I sit still too long. Maybe, all those years of beating the crap out of my body are finally catching up.
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