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No End to it All July 08, 2004 1:36 AM

I would like to hear some of your comments and stories as mine has no ending. The one thing I think I can say is this: I truly believe that some women who have taken that unthinkable act of killing their abuser did not just seek this as their only or first way out. Sometimes, there is simply no help out there, no where to turn, and no one to give them answers or alternatives.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Possibly July 08, 2004 8:03 AM

I don't know what the support is like in developed countries because I haven't had a need to seek out support for domestic violence, but when I was living in South Africa- there was so little support that it was an insult. South Africa is very male-dominated and there is widespread aggression towards women. Most people are very poor- so I can understand how some women feel so trapped that they snap and hurt their abusive partner. I don't agree with violence, but I can empathise that the woman has cracked under the pressure. I have never heard of a South African woman killing her partner, but it used to be on the news regularly that men would snap after losing a job and then would shoot their entire family over it. We have high crime statistics in South Africa, and the police are involved in crime to- sometimes very serious offences. Who can a woman turn to and trust under these conditions?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Abuse July 08, 2004 1:06 PM

There is simply no good excuse for abuse in any shape or form to anyone,woman,man or child.This is wrong no matter where you are,I realize some country,s do not consider women to have rights but arn't you people to and worthy of protection under the Law.I beleive so and I beleive anyone who does commit abuse on another should be punished.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Battered Woman Syndrome July 12, 2004 2:05 PM

I guess all of us here have heard of this at some point by now. I have done alot of reading on this subject and I do believe that some women kill their abusers out of sheer fustration and desparation to be free of abuse. When I was living in my violent relationship there was one time there where I honestly believed that the only way for me to be free of pain was to get rid of the abuser. Yes I had thought about killing him, but looking back now I know I was totally not in control of my thoughts. I never attempted to hurt him but I fully understand how some women do. Help can be hard to find and when you do finally find it you can also be made to feel like you are the criminal..not him. I have found with my situation that by a few people I am not believed about the extent of the violence that went on in my life. This is also very hard to deal with. I do not condone violence of any thought, but try not to judge these women who have killed out of desparation.  [ send green star]
To Dawn B July 12, 2004 2:22 PM

Hi Dawn, Just wanted to say to you that although it feels like there is never an end....believe me, one day, somewhere there is. If you would like to chat with me in private I can send you my email address. I just hate to think that you are out there feeling so hopeless. It breaks my heart. Anyway Dawn, I'm here, just shout out. Carley  [ send green star]
To Gary July 12, 2004 2:26 PM

Hi there Gary just want you to know that many women who have killed or abused their abusive partners are serving life in prisons all around the world. No-one gets away with violence. I also know that women have been given the death sentence for killing their abusers. I guess statistics are showing now though, that there is a difference in the 'reasons' that women will kill versus that of the men in the relationships. If you'd like to know more on this just let me know. Carley  [ send green star]
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