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Flashbacks July 16, 2004 7:47 PM

I'm discovering that flashbacks can be almost as painful as still being there. Let me explain. My ex kidnapped me in our car. It was a car that was quite rare in colour, especially in the place that we lived. I have since moved to another part of the country, only to see LOTS of cars that look like his. I brings me to feeling paniky and my heart races everytime I see these cars. My counsellor has told me that all of these feelings are normal so at least I'm not going crazy! Just wondering if any of you here have experienced these feelings and if so, how have you felt?  [ send green star]
Carley- July 17, 2004 6:18 PM

I know what you mean. I still get them, though luckily rarer as the years go by. In a way, I almost feel like the flashbacks are worse, because as I try to control my emotions, I think What's wrong with me? It happened so long ago, get over it! And then I cry and have even worse anxiety attacks from that insecurity. Wish I had advice, but I just let time pass and then go about my normal routine of life.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Christine July 17, 2004 9:22 PM

Hi. Yeah I totally agree. No-one actually prepares you for these flashbacks. All too often women leave the abuse only to discover that the healing is a hard road and that this is the time when you have to be the bravest you've ever been. I'm taking the flashbacks as a part of me healing. I don't think I will really be able to relax until the trial is over. I still have that looming you see, so some days for me a very bad days. I was told that no matter how long ago it was, if you need to cry..CRY, if you need to run away in the middle of the street from something that has upset you, then by all means RUN! None of us survivors are crazy, we have lived through awful ordeals that some people could not imagine...we are allowed to finally succumb to our own emotions. Heres to us being brave through our flashbacks together. %#&!*%  [ send green star]
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