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 November 27, 2006 3:21 PM

Saying no to some of our responsibilities and yes to ourselves helps us infuse our lives with a spirit of well-being. Our tendency to take on too much is often a sign that we are ignoring the needs of our bodies, minds, and spirits. When we do this, we begin to feel weighed down by things that are external to us. Taking care of ourselves, however, means that we pay attention to what all elements of our being really need, which frees us up to explore more meaningful ways to live. By putting yourself first today, you will have more energy and desire to get your tasks done.
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 October 15, 2006 1:32 AM

Learning to see everything in our lives as if it were a work of art can arouse feelings of pleasure and awe at the beauty that surrounds us. Given our hurried lives it is easy to overlook the gems that are hidden around us. Being able to see our world in a different light, however, allows us to perceive everything with a sense of wonder. By appreciating what you see today, you will find new appreciation for the people who have created the buildings or works of art you encounter and also for the universe that has imbued your life with such diversity and splendor.
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 October 02, 2006 3:14 PM

10 Goal Setting Strategies for Stress Relief
Sometimes we feel stressed because we’re not achieving things that are important to us, or our focus is headed in the wrong direction. Daily stress can result from a lifestyle that isn’t in line with our values, and an overall feeling of underlying tension when part of us feels we’re not leading the life we’d hoped for. These goal setting journaling techniques can help you to get more in touch with your goals, and actually help you achieve them, and acquire the lifestyle you dream of.

Read About Journaling and Goal Setting for Stress Relief

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 September 05, 2006 8:33 AM

Nothing to get

An irony of modern life is we have access to more material prosperity then ever before.... However, most people are less fulfilled than they were, say, fifty years ago.

With materiality comes a promise of fulfillment. Advertising does an excellent job of flaunting the promise of fulfillment through attaining the right house, the latest model car, the right clothes, the right job, etc. However, there seems to be a growing distance between the promise and the actual experience of fulfillment.

There is a phrase known as the "hedonistic treadmill" which describes how human beings rapidly and inevitably adapt to material acquisitions by taking them for granted. The more possessions and accomplishments we have, the more we need to boost our level of happiness.

One way of stepping off the treadmill is to be grateful for what we currently have.... not what we think we could have or should have in some distant future. This gratitude can extend to the acknowledgment of our inner skills and attributes, appreciating the positive people in our lives, or perhaps just focusing on what is working in our lives rather than what is not working.

Here are some exercise options you might want to consider to assist in recognizing the wonders of what you currently have. First, write down three things that went well (and why), every day for a week. Second, identify your signature strengths and use one of them in a new and different way every day for a week. Third, write a long letter to someone you're grateful to but have never properly thanked.

For this week, explore ways of being grateful for what you have currently created within and around you. With a shift of perspective, you can realize there is nothing you need to "get" to experience happiness and fulfillment.




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 August 06, 2006 2:38 PM

To wake each morning with eyes open to possibilities that we have not known previously; to recognize that which is new and unprecedented when it appears before us; to construct a unique response for each separate circumstance that presents itself – this is to be fully human.

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 July 29, 2006 5:18 AM

Losing It
You Are Not Crazy

Most of us feel a little crazy from time to time. Periods of high stress can make us feel like we're losing it, as can being surrounded by people whose values are very different from our own. Losing a significant relationship and moving into a new life situation are other events that can cause us to feel off kilter. Circumstances like these recur in our lives, and they naturally affect our mental stability. The symptoms of our state of mind can range from having no recollection of putting our car keys where we eventually find them, to wondering if we're seeing things clearly when everyone around us seems to be in denial of what's going on right in front of their eyes. For most of us, the key to survival at times like these is to step back, take a deep breath, and regain our composure. Then we can decide what course of action to take.

Sometimes a time-out does the trick. We take a day off from whatever is making us feel crazy and, like magic, we feel in our right mind again. Talking to an objective friend can also help. We begin to see what it is about the situation that destabilizes us, and we can make changes from there. At other times, if the situation is particularly sticky, we may need to seek professional help. Meeting with someone who understands the way the human mind reacts to stress, loss, and difficulty can make us feel less alone and more supported. A therapist or a spiritual counselor can give us techniques that help bring us back to a sane state of mind so that we can affect useful changes. They can also mirror our basic goodness, helping us to see that we are actually okay.

The main purpose of the wake-up call that feeling crazy provides is to let us know that something in our lives is out of balance. Confirm for yourself that you are capable of creating a sane and peaceful reality for yourself. Try to remember that most people have felt, at one time or another, that they are losing it. You deserve a life that helps you thrive. Try and take some steps today to help you achieve more balance and a little less crazy.

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 July 10, 2006 3:12 PM

Making an effort to be responsive to at least one new idea helps us relinquish our need to feel control over a situation. Needing to be in charge often means that our fear of letting go overshadows everything else. Our feelings of power give us a false sense of security. We might think that things will remain constant, but change is the very essence of life. When we remember that the only thing we have control of is our minds, however, we become more open to the world around us. Change no longer scares us and we are able to feel our resistance to new ideas softening. By loosening your need for control today, you will set the necessary groundwork to transform your life.
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 July 09, 2006 5:39 AM

Supporting others in a conscientious manner allows them to trust in us more completely. There are times when we can be carried away when giving support to other people. We might constantly lavish praise or pipe into the conversation with our own stories. But by waiting for someone to come to us or by giving our approval with awareness, we are truly responding to their needs. We furnish others with a place where they know they can trust us with their problems and they will be fully heard. We are then able to provide others with the advice they really need. By creating a feeling of trust with others through your responses today, you will be able to truly inspire them.
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 July 08, 2006 1:51 AM

Speaking your truth is a powerful way to act authentically in a relationship. When we try to avoid conflict and ignore our true feelings it becomes easier to drive others away from us. Conflict is uncomfortable, but sometimes through it we come to understand someone else more deeply even if the truth causes tension. After all, true intimacy in relationships comes first from being honest with yourself, and then by expressing your feelings openly to another person. Being honest does not always mean that there will be tension; sometimes the other person is grateful for the truth and wants to hear it. By speaking honestly today, you will gain more intimacy in your relationships with others.
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 June 29, 2006 3:09 AM

Live life's treasure Find joy in the doing, and not merely in what the doing will bring you. Give your attention and awareness to the moment you're in, rather than being consumed with where the moment will lead.

Take good care of what is now, and you end up in the best position to meet what will come. Give value to today and the positive difference you make will travel with you through all your tomorrows.

Enjoy being where you are without getting so attached to it that it holds you back. When you are focused on the reality and possibilities of now, worry and regret have no power or meaning.

Be satisfied with how far you've come, yet ever anxious to keep going. Live fully in the present while you work to create value that will live long into the future.

You have brought all that you are to this moment. Live this moment in such a way as to express and fulfill the best that is within you.

Joy and fulfillment do not have to wait for the future, and they do not have to become lost in the past. This is your moment to live life's treasure.

-- Ralph Marston

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From Carla R June 21, 2006 7:04 PM

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.

'' To look into the eyes of a Coyote is to see your own soul .....
just make sure something you want to see is there ..... ''

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 June 20, 2006 4:56 AM

While it is important to save and plan for a rainy day, it is also important to live and be in the present moment. There are times when we feel it is necessary to arrange for the future in order to protect ourselves or our possessions; planning can be vital in order to be ready for the unexpected. However, situations that we are unprepared for will always occur. In releasing into the moment, we are in fact preparing for such situations. When we are in the present, we realize that change always happens. Knowing this is really the only way we can plan for the future. By being in the present moment today, you will find the balance between what needs attention and what doesn’t and will notice a greater sense of security in your affairs  [ send green star]
 
 June 19, 2006 6:48 AM

Taking responsibility to think about our part in relationships helps us develop healthier connections with others. There are times when we feel irritated by our interactions with another person but ignore our true feelings. Real friendships come from being honest with ourselves about the nature of our relationship. By making the effort to understand how we function with others and how others make us feel, we are direct about our thoughts. This honesty in turn helps us be more sincere, and we realize that there are some relationships worth holding on to and others that we must let go. Even though it may seem painful, our straightforwardness allows us to determine what is best for us. You will notice that you will be more truthful about your feelings about others by reflecting upon your relationships today.
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' June 12, 2006 5:11 AM

When we label our emotions we find that their intricacy unravels to reveal only one feeling or thought. Our minds tend to race faster than we can imagine. It can seem like we are thinking hundreds of conflicting notions at a time. In fact, our racing minds are just reflecting the speed with which our brain processes our emotions. Slowing down and naming our thoughts allows us to see our emotions as they occur one by one. Being in the moment in this way can also alleviate some of the irritation we feel when our thoughts gallop through our heads. As you watch your feelings today, you will notice that the many layers of your thoughts will become less complicated.
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 June 05, 2006 4:33 PM

Expressing ourselves through creative activities connects us with the essence of our spiritual selves and brings a powerful sense of enrichment and freedom to our lives. As children, we found it easy to express ourselves through art and didn’t worry about being talented or good enough. We simply reveled in the joy of creating. As adults, we can recapture this sense of freedom and joy by making time to engage in creative activities. Doing so helps us connect to the deepest part of our spiritual selves and lends a powerful new quality of enrichment to our lives. Answering your desire to break free from your normal activities today could be the key to welcoming a new phase of personal freedom into your life.
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 June 02, 2006 4:23 AM

When you let all that is important to you guide you in your life’s journey, you’ll ensure that the choices you make will always be rewarding as well as spiritually enriching. It’s easy to give our day-to-day decisions little regard because they seem so inconsequential within the context of the whole of our lives. Making your beliefs an integral part of your existence can help you see the complex ways short- and long-term choices will influence your experience. You’ll be more apt to carefully weigh your options to determine whether they are in accordance with your values and will help you in your pursuit of your dreams. The whole of your life will take on a new significance. The beliefs that guide you today will help you find soulful choices.
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 May 27, 2006 5:04 AM

The times that we are feeling hypersensitive can be wonderful opportunities to tune in to the world around us. When we are extrasensitive, we tend to experience everything from a heightened sense of awareness. Life tends to be magnified, and the details and nuances that we may normally not notice are easier to spot. We become better listeners, better receivers, and better perceivers. Our hypersensitivity can be a wonderful gift because we get to experience life with all of our senses wide -open. Rather than moving through life half asleep, we get to experience the world from a wide-awake state. Let yourself absorb the stimuli around you today, and you will find that you can savor life’s juicy bits.
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 May 21, 2006 11:41 PM

We can encourage greater compassion and understanding in others by consciously acting in ways that will inspire and motivate them to do the same. Our actions can often speak more loudly than our words, especially in situations that may incite arguments or resistance to change. Rather than trying to convince others to change their behaviors, we can simply choose to let our actions serve as a powerful example of what is possible. Our willingness to accept and embrace others for who they are, regardless of the differences between us, places a greater emphasis on our similarities and encourages others to do the same. Expressing your compassion and tolerance for others today can usher in positive changes that make the world a better place.
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 May 20, 2006 3:42 PM

attitude adjustments

You're doing the best you can with what you have at the moment.

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 May 17, 2006 12:06 PM

Giving conscious attention to the ways we express ourselves can open a new world of possibilities that lend new meaning to our experiences. We don’t often realize the impact our attitude has on our life experiences, until we see it in action. Choosing to express our confidence and passion through artistic means, or even our attitude, puts forth positive energy that will begin to attract corresponding experiences. We then discover more opportunities to grow, learn, and experience life on a more meaningful level. We then feel more in control of our life circumstances, and we experience a deeper sense of passion and purpose in each moment. By giving careful thought to your personal methods of expression today, you can take action to bring a new level of meaning to life.
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 May 05, 2006 1:53 PM

Calming your mind by focusing on a single point of concentration is an important way to relieve tension and fully absorb the significance of your life. Using mantras to sort out the thoughts of everyday existence will help you gain deeper insights into the life process. When thoughts race through your mind, life can seem more complicated than it is. As you take time to calm your mind, you improve your ability to weather life’s storms. You create a space within you for experiencing simplicity and understanding. This allows you to uncover the true meaning of your concerns. By focusing on a single idea today, you will realize that the art of becoming centered is a powerful tool for clarity.
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 April 29, 2006 3:49 PM

Rewarding ourselves for our hard work can help us feel proud and satisfied about our progress while giving us the perseverance to continue. Instead of becoming frustrated at our loved ones for their lack of understanding regarding our struggles and efforts, we can choose to honor our accomplishments. By making an effort to reward and praise ourselves for a good job, we benefit from a sense of pride and experience satisfaction for our accomplishments. We then become energized and motivated about our progress and develop the determination to see our goals through to their completion—whether others appreciate our efforts or not. Honoring your accomplishments today will give you the feeling of satisfaction and acceptance you desire.
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 April 18, 2006 1:55 PM

Always with you The best experience you ever had is still part of you. The most beautiful day you have ever enjoyed still lives within your heart.

All the love you've ever known is yours in this very moment. Though it arose from specific conditions, its value now goes far beyond them and continues long after those conditions have faded.

What's even better is that you can take that value and expand on it, at any time, in any place. The love, the beauty, the experiences that you treasure can serve as the basis for even more richness.

People, places, events and things pass in and out of your life. What you're left with is whatever you choose to keep.

And what you choose to keep, what you truly value and appreciate and treasure, sets the stage for what will be. The more you choose to see the good and positive aspects of each experience, the more fulfilling life will grow.

You never have to struggle to regain what you think is lost. The best is always with you, and can grow into much, much more.

-- Ralph Marston

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 April 16, 2006 2:26 PM

Words Of Wisdom
Affirmations

The words we speak and think hold great sway over the kind of life that we create for ourselves. Many people live their lives plagued by negative thoughts and never even realize this. They tell themselves and others that they are doomed to fail, not good enough, or not worthy of love, yet they are amazed when their reality starts reflecting these words. Just as the subconscious mind accepts as truth the critical statements we tell ourselves, however, it is also equipped to instantly accept the veracity of our affirmations.

Affirmations are statements chosen and spoken consciously. Once they enter our realm of consciousness, they also enter our subconscious mind where they have the power to change our lives. The affirmations you create should be specific, not too long, worded positively, formed in complete sentences, and spoken in the present tense as if what you are affirming is already true. It is a good idea to repeat your affirmations daily. You may want to tell yourself that you deserve to be happy or that you are in control of your destiny. Or, you may want to focus on a particular goal, such as attracting new friends. Rather than telling yourself you want to be well-liked, say, "I am well-liked." Your subconscious mind will pick up on these positive messages, and you will begin to live your life as if what you are affirming already has happened. Soon, your reality will begin to reflect your affirmations. If you find that you are thwarting yourself with negative thinking, try repeating ! your affirmations several times a day. Write your affirmations down and say them aloud or in your mind. Allow your conviction to grow stronger each time you say your affirmations, and your negativity will be overridden by your motivation and positive thoughts.

Affirmations are a powerful tool for creating our desired reality. We consciously and subconsciously invite opportunity into our lives when we say affirmations. Trust in the power of your affirmations, and you will very quickly create what you have already stated to be true.

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 April 13, 2006 12:55 PM

Setting priorities Many times today life will ask you what's important to you. And each time you will answer, not with words but with actions.

In each moment of this day, life will ask about your priorities. And with the choices you make, the big one and the small ones, your answer will be clear.

The real, driving purpose behind your life is expressed not by flowery words or lofty intentions. Rather, that purpose is most accurately expressed by what you actually do with your life.

You can think and dream and speculate about what might and what might not hold real meaning for you. Yet the truth of who you are will be unmistakably shown by the choices of what you do.

Look around at the life you've created for yourself, and you'll clearly see your true priorities. If you wish to adjust those priorities, you can reliably do so by adjusting the actions that support them.

By the way you choose to give your time, attention and effort, you are setting your priorities, and those priorities will greatly influence the way your life proceeds. So choose to set them as high as you can imagine.

-- Ralph Marston

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 April 09, 2006 5:26 AM

Desire beyond yourself Whatever you desire to have for yourself, find a way to give it to others. That is how you will surely attain what you are truly seeking.

Look carefully at your desires, and the desires behind the desires, and they will tell you much about who you are. Just as importantly, they will show you the unique and valuable gifts you can give to life.

When you approach your desires from a purely selfish point of view, you will always be frustrated and disappointed. Instead, take a step back and see those desires in a more powerful and generous light.

Consider your desires in terms of how they can inspire you to give value to your world. Then, instead of frustration, those desires will be leading you toward success and fulfillment.

Your deepest desires are intensely personal. And yet the best way to express and fulfill them is by bringing their value to as many other people as possible.

Desire can push you powerfully forward. When it does, look beyond yourself and let it take you someplace truly great.

-- Ralph Marston

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 March 30, 2006 11:27 AM

Spending time in blissful silence can soothe our senses, quiet our minds, and recharge our batteries. In our fast-paced world we are often bombarded with sensory input from all directions. Televisions, computers, appliances, telephones, traffic, and people all demand our attention on a daily basis. While we may have grown used to these demands, occasionally we may feel overwhelmed and we can benefit from embracing the restorative power of silence. Within moments, we feel our senses relax, minds clear, and stress vanish. We feel peaceful and balanced again. Take time to relax today, and you can regain your strength so that you feel more positive and energized.
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 March 26, 2006 11:20 AM

We can achieve our goals more easily by creating a detailed action plan and then following this plan in an organized way. While keeping our ultimate goal in mind can be a great motivator in pursuing our dreams, we can increase our effectiveness if we focus on taking one step at a time. If we can make each step its own goal, we will feel motivated and confident about taking another step and then another. Add unwavering commitment, determination, and confidence in our abilities to the mix, and we will have the power to achieve any goal. You can harness the power of your determination today by channeling it into a solid plan for achieving your goals.
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 March 23, 2006 10:17 AM

By exploring our emotional responses, we can more easily meet our emotional needs and create a stable, confident mind-set. Emotional responses like worry, fear, or frustration can often be indicators that there is an issue of concern—especially if our response is out of context in a particular situation. Learning to explore these feelings can give us the clarity to see what that issue may be so that we can resolve it. You can release your frustration and anxiety today by turning within and making an effort to understand your responses so that you can give yourself what you need.
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 March 02, 2006 4:16 AM

Peaceful purpose Fill your thoughts with peaceful purpose. Focus on the good that you're able to do right here and now.

Fill your mind with awareness of the positive possibilities and thoughts of how you can bring them about. Fill your heart with joy and gratitude for the many opportunities that you now have.

In this moment, the world is the way it is, so decide to concentrate on how good it can be. Choose to invest your focus in making the very best of now.

What has happened has happened and it is now behind you. Take the best of it all as you move positively forward.

Allow peace to fill your heart in this moment. Then send that peace outward into life as your gift to this day.

Let yourself live this day with calm and peaceful purpose. There is so much that can be done.

-- Ralph Marston

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Call Off the Struggle February 26, 2006 2:43 PM

Call Off the StruggleMost people are in a constant state of struggle with themselves. Tremendously burdened by the past and in constant anticipation of the future, most human beings are rarely able to be fully present for more than very brief moments. The tremendous openness and intimacy that is required to be fully present is beyond most people's ability to sustain for more than a few moments before they habitually contract back into the familiar condition of separateness and struggle that so characterizes the human condition.

This constant state of struggle manifests as a compulsive and addictive relationship to the movement of thought, emotion, and time. There is great reluctance to stop struggling because in the absence of struggle you suddenly begin to lose your boundaries and definitions of who you are. For many people this causes fear to arise as they experience the loss of their familiar sense of self. Struggling is how the ego-personality maintains its existence. When you cease to struggle, identification with the personality begins to break down and you become aware of your emptiness and lack of boundaries.

The most difficult thing for spiritual seekers to do is to stop struggling, striving, seeking and searching. Why? Because in the absence of struggle you don't know who you are: you lose your boundaries; you lose your separateness; you lose your specialness; you lose the dream you have lived all your life.

Eventually you lose everything that your mind has created and awaken to who you truly are: the fullness of freedom, unbound by any identifications, identities, or boundaries. It is this locationless freedom of being that spiritual people are seeking, and at the same time are running away from because its faceless nature gives no fixed reference point for the personality to hold onto or to seek security in.

As long as you remain identified with the personality, you will always be seeking security to the exclusion of the Truth, and will remain in a constant state of struggle. It is only when your love and desire for Truth outweighs the personality's compulsive need for security, that you can begin to stop struggling and be swept up into the arms of an ever unfolding revelation of the Truth and Freedom of Being.

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 February 05, 2006 2:06 AM

Mountain of experience


You stand today at the top of a mountain. It is the mountain
of your own experience.



Through the years, you have forged ahead on its craggy
pathways. Each day you've added valuable experience to your
life and have climbed to an even higher perspective than the
day before.



Along the way, you have found moments of peace and beauty in
the green valleys and still forests. At other times, you
have been challenged by the fierce storms and rocky ground
as you made your way forward.



This is the moment that all the other moments have been
leading up to. Now you stand at the summit on your mountain
of experience, and the view is more expansive than it has
ever been.



Never has your experience been as extensive or as valuable
as it is right now. So what will you do with it all?



Now that you've climbed to the highest peak ever, choose to
live a full and positive life, worthy of all you've already
been through. Now that you've climbed so high, this is your
moment to go even higher.




-- Ralph Marston

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LIFE LESSONS January 31, 2006 2:40 AM

Brilliant string of moments Each thought you think builds your character. Every action you take creates your life.

The small moments and the big occasions all go into the person you are. The public expressions and the private secrets all weave together to form the fabric of your life.

Every moment counts, because every moment serves as a starting point for the moment that comes next. All those details, the ones you can't recall and the ones you can't forget, have brought you to where you are now.

Every moment counts, and that can be a terribly burdensome curse or an amazing blessing. It all depends on what you do with those moments from here on out.

Even when no one is watching, what you do still matters very much. Even when it seems that there is no way forward, moment by moment you can surely make your way.

Choose to give your very best to this moment, right here, right now, and keep on making that positive choice. For there is no limit to where your life's brilliant string of moments can lead.

-- Ralph Marston

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