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Sandra Gore Cox

"Justice for Destiny"

Erin, TN, USA
female, age 46
married, 11 children
Joined Jun 8, 2011
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Justice for Destiny

I am writing this because I feel there are so many cases of Child Abuse that go unreported. Our grandaughter Destiny Rose Marie Cox was only 3 yrs old and was beaten to death by her mothers boyfriend David Gharett. Our son tried telling the judge that Destiny was being abused and nothing was done. There were two seperate investigations conducted by DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) but it was determined to be unfounded. I firmly believe that if the people closest to them in their every day lives would of spoken up, reported what they seen, then our precious grandaughter would be alive today. Her father and his side of the family were only allowed minimal contact with her by David Gharett the last half of her life. I dont lay her death at the feet of those who remained quiet, as it was not their hands that murdered her but people have to understand that by being silent you are in a small way guilty. Everyone needs to understand that no matter how small you think the incident is, by reporting it just to be on the safe side, may end up saving a childs life. I think everyone should also be aware that during the last month since losing Destiny, I have done a lot of research on this and have been completely taken back by the percentage of Child Abuse Murder cases that are caused by the mothers boyfriend while the mothers are at work. I think our young mothers need to be educated on signs to look for. They need to understand that just because you love your child does not mean that your husband/boyfriend does the same way. They are not bonded with your child as you are. I am not saying that non biological parents are the only ones committing these horrible acts, I am just saying that in our case I think that it could of been prevented. There were too many signs that this was going to happen. The control, the abuse against the mother, the control the boyfriend had of the child when it came to the biological father, the injuries she suffered in the last two yrs, I could go on and on. Education and awareness are the key! Please, to every young mother who is dating or remarried, watch for the signs. Dont just trust that because you love this person and you love your child that it is safe. Always question, be alert, watch for signs and always, always make your decisions on the side of caution. The old saying, better to be safe then sorry has never had more meaning than it does now. I honestly can not describe what this has done to my family. Destiny's dad, our son, is destroyed both mentally and emotionally. His pain is so great it is unbearable. He is a lost soul in so much pain and agony over the loss of his daughter. She was his entire world. Myself, my husband and my younger children have such a hard time dealing with this. So many members of our family are having a hard time just dealing with every day tasks because the nightmare of what she must of went through in her final moments just wont go away. Its like a movie that replays over and over in our mind. The autopsy results say she died of blunt force trauma to the head and abdomen with injuries to her back and arms also. There was a fist imprint on her tiny stomache. Please God tell me how a man that towers over this tiny precious angel who only wore a size 2 T could viciously attack her?? She had no way of defending herself. My only hope is he will suffer the rest of his life in prison. We are begging and pleading with the prosecutors to ask for the harshest sentence possible, preferrably life without the possiblity of parole. No one can understand what a sensless murder does to a family's heart, thoughts and mind. I know for myself I try to act like things are getting back to normal and I am Okay but what is normal? I am NOT okay. When your thoughts are always with her your heart aches for the pain and suffering she went through, your dreams are filled with the nightmare of her last moments and you feel consumed with rage over the senselessness of it all. I know I am not alone. I know with time it will get easier. I also know that by writing about this, if it makes someone report their suspicions and saves a life then I will be filled with some small measure of peace. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. Child abuse does not go away, but 90 percent of child abuse is preventable.

 
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About Me I am remarried to the man I have waited for my entire life. I have 4 children, he has 6 and we have one together. Our children range in age 28 - 2. We have 12 grandchildren between us. Our grandaughter Destiny Rose Marie Cox was murdered on April 29, 2011 by the hands of David Gharett. The loss of Destiny has set me in motion to sign every petition I can that helps victims of Child Abuse/Murder. I may not be able to bring her back but I am determined to do good to honor her name. She will not have died in vain. RIP sweet angel. Grandma loves you!
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