I am in the process of going through a divorce. I have [two] wonderful children [9&10] from the marriage, the rest wasn't all that good because if it were I wouldn't be getting the divorce. My children come before 'anyone' who I come in contact with. They do currently live with their father not me because he can support them right now, I can't. We however have decided to stay friends with each other for the sake of our children...if we can't get alone, they think they shouldn't have to with each other!