YOU are the lady I'm looking for if I come close to being YOUR perfect long-term kindred spirit, soul mate, play mate and lover. And if I am that for you, YOU most likely will be the same for me. Generally I'll give you the long version of a story - just the way I was designed. So, are you patient? Willing to hear me out? Maybe you should get a cup of coffee and make yourself comfy for a few minutes.
By putting several photos on here and telling you about myself I hope to give you a true idea of who I am. The photos are recent and show me the way I dress in various situations. In the black shirt: at work or out for the evening dancing. In a T-shirt and shorts for outdoor activities. Close to nothing on when out in the boat. If you find the shirtless photo inappropriate, you might not enjoy boating with me. But if a sexy bikini and a thong for both is your idea of appropriate boating attire we could have fun. If you really hate tan-lines and want us to put on our birthday suits you won't hear me objecting. These are all part of my life and it would be great to find a lady that enjoys dressing the same. Like looking good in jeans and a casual top when out and about? Do you like dressing to turn heads when out dancing? Enjoy looking through Victoria's and Fredericks' publications with your partner to find outfits both find titillating? You'll find in me a very appreciative and visually oriented partner if that is your style.
Well, did you get your coffee? This description of me is quite long - I like 'em long and hopefully you too. :-) Being a lady's ideal partner for the rest of her (and my) life is what I really long for and my goal - nothing less. Now I realize that that rarely happens quickly so I'm willing to take things slowly and at YOUR pace. I said I'm looking for "Long term" - I'm willing to start with dating. Or to use an analogy from sex, a quickie can be exciting but long foreplay usually is more fulfilling. As I see it, the more I tell you about myself, the better you will get a feel for whether we would be a good match. Want to build something solid and enduring that is repeatedly fulfilling, a lot of fun and exciting? Then we've both at least picked up the same book. Read on, and let's see if we make it to the same chapter. If so, then we'll want to email, talk on the phone and finally meet in person in order to discover each other after reaching the identical page.
If you feel that I am very close to being your ideal partner, please email me. A confident lady that knows what she wants and actively pursues it is VERY appealing to me.
Are you really still reading? Awesome! That's a good sign. What about our first date? An exciting step in this process but not really that important, right? What's significant for us and perhaps worth noting is when we initially met on this page. What time is it? What date? Note it, so that we can celebrate every month. Let's make it a romantic reminder of how happy we are to have found each other.
But even this is just a moment in time. A beginning. What is more important is the process of growth, discovery and development. All the things that bring us closer together. Bond us. There is a lot you'd love to experience in a relationship. Your wish list. But how much of that can ONE person fulfill? (And it's unlikely you are considering a polyamorous situation in order to experience it all. But it wouldn't surprise me either). So, out of all your likes, desires and hopes there rise a few true longings that you really believe you must have. What are THEY?
The chapter in this imagined book I'm currently reading and find most important is discussing all of the things that go on in our minds (and hearts, to express the emotional aspect)- the things that truly make YOU who you are. And ME, who I am. It is emphasizing how really important and fulfilling a deep connection of our hearts, souls, minds, intellects, emotions and spirits is. (Don't worry, there is a long chapter about the interaction of our bodies that is REALLY exciting but the author believes the interaction of the minds makes the interaction of our bodies many times more exciting. Yes, I already peeked ahead, I couldn't resist! :-) I bet you did too, didn't you? This could be fun!
Who we truly are is influenced by the personality we were given at conception and affected by all of the things we've experienced so far in our lives. But even those are not set in stone. We can rise up above them and change our personalities and how we let our past determine our future.
Now what about these past experiences people call "baggage"? Personally, I believe we all have it. And I think it's unrealistic to tell someone to get rid of their baggage before getting into a new relationship. As a result, I personally feel that's an unloving and selfish attitude. So here's what I would like to offer you: Bring your baggage with you. Hopefully it won't be a moving van full but if it is, we'll deal with that too. When the time is right (and I've experienced this on a first date) we'll get a suitcase and pull something out to deal with. Maybe it will turn out to be something to get rid of and we'll do that together. It might be something to keep. Whatever it is, we'll work on it together as best friends and soul mates with love and acceptance and no judgmental attitudes.
So my attitude regarding all that is involved in a "mental" connection: both of us long to share everything that goes on inside of us - our thoughts, emotions, desires, fears and fantasies - openly and honestly with each other. Being each other's best friend, kindred spirit and soul mate. We often have conversations that are deep and deal with the real issues. Deep down we desire a relationship of love, commitment, honesty and loyalty to each other. When problems surface I inquire calmly. I like peaceful discussions that seek solutions to our issues and not arguing and shouting.
Despite all the serious stuff here I am VERY playful and have a positive, upbeat outlook. I really need a lady that is playful as well and will enjoy and understand that part of my personality.
You’ll find me to be an active person - love getting out in nature whether gardening in my yard for fragrance, beauty, butterflies and birds or on the water in a kayak, 17' power boat, small sailboat, biking or hiking in the forest. Also I enjoy venturing further from home to experience Florida’s natural habitats and other towns. A beautiful sunset or lightning show are great and I’ll call you on the phone to tell you if we aren't together. A camera will often be with us and we’ll take time to carefully compose some beautiful photos of what we’ve enjoyed. Oops! Later we discover that somehow one of us ended up being caught in a photo au naturel. And since we’re both somewhat wild and adventurous, our outings in nature tend to become climactic experiences.
Other activities I enjoy are free-style dancing. Watching a movie at home is fun - I like romantic and well-made films. I haven't found much on TV that interests me. I would prefer researching green, environmentally friendly building online - something I started about 1999 and would eventually enjoy building. Recently I started a group called Green Lifestyle in SW Florida at Meetup.com.
The third and final part of my life that I'd like to describe is the physically pleasurable. Repeatedly I've heard what expectations you ladies are being confronted with on first dates and the resulting frustration. You will find me to be a giver not a taker. I have decided to move at YOUR pace. It is important to me that you feel comfortable and enjoy yourself. We will do only what you desire. It is not my goal to end up in bed on our first date.
I love cozy restaurants or bars and moon-lit walks on the beach. It's a great way to get to know each other. If that's what you desire, that's what we'll do. But being an individualist, I'd really like for us to be creative and do something different than what everybody is doing. That would depend on mutual interests we discover.
Long emails and phone calls can tell us a lot about each other but I've experienced a connection in writing or on the phone but then not in person. So sometimes I wonder if it wouldn't just be better to meet fairly quickly after a first or second contact online or on the phone. What does it cost us if we don't connect? An evening and a few dollars for drinks. What could we gain? Insight from another unique person.
Maybe one of us just read the other's profile and is excited. Both are online and IM a bit. Spontaneously you or I suggest, "Want to meet at _______ in half an hour? Come as you are."
Well, back to the sensual aspect of me. My user name expresses one part of a relationship that I enjoy. It's one way of giving pleasure and foreplay. It doesn't mean I only think about sex. I enjoy lovemaking that is soft, gentle and romantic with candles and soothing music. A sensual massage, using not just wonderfully fragrant oils but also soft brushes and silky fabrics. It can be passionately wild or out in the wild. Sometimes it’s short and to the point. But usually it’s extended, using techniques we’ve found that put the other over the peak repeatedly. A playful and adventurous lifestyle could add some periodic spice. I'd like you to be comfortable with your femininity and sexuality. You like wearing sexy clothes that make you look hot and enjoy turning heads.
The following testimonial is from my previous girlfriend of five years and was unsolicited. The desire to be with her daughter and granddaughter finally became so strong that she is now with them. We are now going separate ways on opposite sides of the US.
Testimonials/comments from Gina:
Neil is a wonderful, caring, loving and very sincere man as well as the most attentive and best lover I have ever had. He has a great sense of humor, is hard working and will make some lucky woman very happy. He can fix and build anything he sets his mind to and he is very committed to the future of our environment and works hard to design and promote green building.