10 Signs Your Kitty Actually Loves You

Editor’s Note: This post is a Care2 Favorite, brought back by popular demand. It was originally published on July 25, 2013. Enjoy!

Ever wondered if your kitty really loves you?

From finicky to feisty, our feline friends aren’t always the easiest to read. Unlike dogs who make their affection for us loud and clear, cats have far less obvious ways of communicating how they feel.

If you want to discover just how much your cat cares about you, then check out these 10 signs of true love:

1. Head butting. If a person were to do it to you, then you’d have a pretty good idea of what they were trying to tell you, but with a cat it’s a whole different story. To be on the receiving end of what is actually known in the cat world as ‘head bunting‘ is a very special privilege indeed. During this exchange your cat deposits facial pheromones that represent their feelings of trust and safety they have with you.

2. Powerful purrs. Cats purr for all sorts of reasons, but there is one unique full bodied rumble that your kitty saves exclusively for their true love. Purring also lowers your kitty’s heart rate and helps them to relax and exhibit feelings of contentment.

3. Love bites. If your cat is a chronic nibbler, then chances are they’ve got a thing for you. It’s pretty easy to tell the difference between a love bite and a regular cat bite, one hurts and the other tickles! Nibbling isn’t a common sign of love, but when a cat employs it, they’re trying to say “you’re awesome.”

4. Tail twitching. You can tell a lot by looking at a cat’s tail. Just as their tails puff out when they get scared or agitated, their tail will twitch at the very tip when they are feeling bliss. If you notice this action when your cat approaches you, then you can be sure that they think you rock their world.

5. Tummy up. When your cat throws itself on the floor and starts rolling around, they are trying to get your attention. Cats only show their tummies voluntarily to those they can trust. Feeling safe means a lot to a cat, so when they sprawl out in front of you, this is a sign that they feel loved and protected.

6. Licking your hair or ears. It’s not often that humans are deemed worthy of these very special grooming sessions, but if your cat has chosen to bestow you with hair or ear licking, rest assured you have been welcomed into the inner circle. Grooming is one of the most obvious signs of the friendship and trust you have with your furry companion.

7. Kneading. Kittens knead against their mothers to stimulate milk production, which is why experts believe that kneading behavior in cats is nostalgic of kittenhood and acts as a way of reliving the happy moments they experienced as little ones. So next time your kitty starts moving its paws up and down on you, remember that they are not just trying to soften you up before taking a nap, but that they’re expressing their adoration for you.

8. Slow blinking. It is said that cats kiss with their eyes, so don’t expect to share this sign of affection with any old cat. Cats save eye contact for people they know and trust. If that eye contact is coupled with slow blinking then you’ve just received a kitty kiss. Return the love by mimicking the behavior.

9. Nap time. Kitties crave warm safe places to sleep, so if your fluffy feline decides to snuggle down beside you or better yet, on your lap, then you should feel especially honored. Cats are most vulnerable when they are sleeping, and there is no greater compliment than when they choose you as their snooze spot.

10. Gifting. There is no denying that a small dead something is not at the top of our wishlist, but a kitty that presents you with this bounty deserves to be praised. Despite our domestication, cats still have the inner hunter and sharing their prizes with you is a sign of true friendship.

If you’ve been fortunate enough to share your life with a cat, then you’ll understand that they are consciously connecting with us. Whether it’s via grooming, purring or snuggling up, cats are loving and affectionate individuals that form very special bonds with their favorite people.

Photo Credit: Shikhar Bhattarai/Stocksy

1312 comments

Lisa Hofmann
Lisa Hofmann11 days ago

Thank you for reposting this; as a lifelong cat owner I enjoy reading these columns, even if it turns out I know most of the information.

NitaSick L.
NitaSick L.25 days ago

My bottle fed baby does all of these things. She is now 18 years old.

KAREN SickAgain G.

Thanks for sharing

angela usher
angela usherabout a month ago

: ) But you know the old saying "Dogs have masters and cats have staff" : ) How true

Deborah Servey
Deborah Serveyabout a month ago

Just say yes to all the signs!

S Gardner
S Gardnerabout a month ago

Any animal that shows you his stomach Trusts You!

Coeta Sudderth
Coeta Sudderthabout a month ago

My cat, Bob, does all of these things with the exception of #4. LOL That's because he is an American Bobtail. (I know, I know, original name, huh?)

Georgia a.
Georgia a.about a month ago

I have a cat that I acquired about 13 years ago when she wandered up to my house very feral and pregnant. She looked so starved I immediately opened a can of tuna, as that was all I had on hand I thought she would eat. And eat it she did. I guess in cat language I was now her best friend. Jump forward thru the nips and scratches it took to get a feral cat spayed and given her shots. Fun indeed! Slowly, over time, I showed her the inside of my home was not a torture chamber but far more welcome than freezing nights outside. She is now a sweet house cat, follows me everywhere wanting her head rubbed. She still is not fond of being held and it makes me wonder what hell she endured before finding me. She's safe now, we'll fed and happy with her own comfy bed. I thank God for having her come down my private road that day.

Michele Rosenbaum
Michele Rosenbaumabout a month ago

thank you for sharing

Mary Van Vliet
Mary Van Vliet1 months ago

Sweet.