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61 Years Together — Don’t Richard and John Deserve Marriage Equality? (VIDEO)

61 Years Together — Don’t Richard and John Deserve Marriage Equality? (VIDEO)

Richard Adrian Dorr and John Mace, New Yorkers who have been together for 61 years, are prevented from getting married under New York’s current laws. The couple, 84 and 91 respectively, say that while they could marry in a handful of other states they don’t want to because New York is their home and it is where they want to have their relationship formally recognized.

Having met at Juilliard School of Music in 1948 Dorr and Mace are both voice teachers and work in Manhattan.

They are part of a Freedom to Marry campaign video in support of efforts to ensure New York legislators pass a marriage equality bill this year.

Evan Wolfson, president of Freedom to Marry, said on the video: “Richard and John are the quintessential New York couple. They met at Juilliard and have spent most of their lives together here.

“They are still obviously so deeply in love after 61 years and yet after all those years of commitment, being there for one another through the ups and downs of life, they are still being denied the one thing they want most – the freedom to marry in New York. It is time to change that. After 61 years together, haven’t they waited long enough?”

Watch the video below:

Legislators are expected to take up a marriage equality bill in the next few weeks.

For past coverage of marriage equality efforts in NY, please click here.

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4:44AM PDT on May 13, 2011

Of course, they should be allowed to marry if that's what they want!!!
And they should have a wonderful wedding celebration that includes all the anniversaries they haven't been able to celebrate until now!
May they live even longer and even more happily together than they have done already. I endorse the comment above - how many relationships of any kind last 61 years!! Heartwarming.

2:02AM PDT on May 13, 2011

Aw, they're so sweet!!!!! I am sad these two gentlemen can't marry each other. Why, they're money to pay for a marriage license is worth less than a straight couple who may be divorced or separated in 61 months?

7:03AM PDT on May 12, 2011

They're doing better than most sanctioned marriages do. D:

They're adorable, and I wish them this granted dream: to be married in the city they love. D:

God they're adorable. I can't get over it. I feel the sweet elderly couple love.

4:14PM PDT on May 9, 2011

They seem happy....but they aren't man and woman...they are man and man. So good luck to them, but marriage is between a man and a woman. We shouldn't be redefining something so ingrained in history and tradition just because a minority of whiny people feel left out based on their lifestyle choices. Gay marriage is an oxymoron and is not a civil rights issue like most gay militants want you to believe. :) Peace and love.

10:14AM PDT on May 7, 2011

But at their ages they cannot concieve children and that is thereason for marriage. Oh that's just another stupid excuse against same sex marriage. Excuse me.

7:07AM PDT on May 6, 2011

Yes, they deserve!

10:22PM PDT on May 5, 2011

61 years? How many "traditional" marriages last that long? They should be allowed to marry. Get rid of the dark age notions of marriage and move into the 21st century.

7:50PM PDT on May 5, 2011

Wonderful story. These two gentlemen should be allowed to marry. Isn't marriage a commitment between two people who care and love one another regardless of gender?

5:42PM PDT on May 5, 2011

A real sweet couple.

3:58PM PDT on May 5, 2011

If people are foolish enough to want to marry, then I say it matters not what their genders. These two gentle men (and writing the worlds separately is intentional!) want to marry. They should never have NOT been allowed to marry. I hope one day people will get it through their heads that homosexuality is normal. It may be different from the mainstream, but it is no less normal. People are born that way. Apart from that, a person's sexual persuasion is NOBODY's business. Bless these dear souls. What's up here? I thought New York was supposed to be a trendsetter!

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