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8. “I don’t believe bisexuality exists.”
This one is perhaps the most puzzling of all. Most people who say this would never say “I don’t believe homosexuality exists.” And if they do? Points for logical consistency! And for letting everyone know immediately that they are not to be taken seriously.
But really, I barely know how to respond. I mean, you don’t have to believe the Earth is round, either, but there’s an awful lot of scientific evidence that it is. You don’t have to believe that people who self-identify as Republicans were actually willing to vote for George W. Bush, but there’s about 8 years of history and a lot of anecdotal evidence to the contrary.
You can believe or not believe people when they tell you they’re bisexual. But don’t pretend that this statement is anything other than patronizing and don’t fool yourself into believing that just because you refuse to accept that bisexuals exist, that there aren’t plenty of us out there, being attracted to and having relationships with people of all genders and sexes. Not “believing” in us doesn’t change the day-to-day realities of our lives, and it doesn’t make us disappear.
It’s probably easier to accept that we’re here, and that we’re not going anywhere. We can’t turn you into one of us. We can’t make you date us. We can’t make you be friends with us or be around us. So why is it so hard to accept we might exist?
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