China’s “Leftover” Women

 

Written by Leta Hong Fincher, Ms. Magazine

Last week, 26-year-old newlywed college graduate Li Fang (a pseudonym) explained to me over dinner why she had been in such a rush to marry:

If I hadn’t gotten married now, I would still have to date for at least one or two years. Then I would already have passed the best child-bearing age and I would be a leftover woman.

In China, the sexist term “leftover woman,” sheng nu, is widely used to describe an urban, professional female over the age of 27 who is still single. This derogatory term has been aggressively disseminated by the Chinese government, warning women that they will become spinsters if they do not marry by the time they turn 30. The irony of the media campaign is that China’s sex-ratio imbalance has resulted in a surplus of tens of millions of men who will not be able to find a bride.

In 2007, China’s Ministry of Education added the term “leftover woman” to its official lexicon, according to state media reports. In 2010, the All-China Women’s Federation and other government groups carried out a nationwide survey of more than 30,000 people in 31 provinces. Their findings on “leftover women” have been publicized repeatedly by China’s official media.

I have roughly translated some excerpts from the official write-up of the survey (unfortunately leaving out the rich resonance of the Chinese puns.)

The article uses the heading “See What Category of ‘Leftover’ You Belong to.” The first category is leftover women aged 25 to 27 years, who are called “leftover fighters,” sheng dou shi, a play on the title of a popular martial arts film. It says these women “still have the courage to fight for a partner.”

The next category is 28- to 30-year-old women, or “the ones who must triumph,” bi sheng ke, a play on the Chinese name for Pizza Hut. It says these women have limited opportunities for romance because their careers leave them “no time for the hunt.”

The final category, 35 and older, is called the “master class of leftover women.” The term qi tian da sheng plays on the name of an ancient Chinese legend, the Monkey King. It says this category of woman “has a luxury apartment, private car and a company, so why did she become a leftover woman?”

Results from the survey continue to be recycled frequently in the Chinese media, including this report on the official Xinhua News website, November 11: “China’s Leftover Women Unite This Singles Day.” The article says, “More than 90 percent of men surveyed said women should marry before 27 to avoid becoming unwanted.” The message to women: If you want to stand a snowball’s chance in hell of ever getting married in this country, don’t demand too much from your man.

What I find uniquely disturbing is that a respected American newspaper has regurgitated the results of the “leftover women” survey without questioning the sexist nature of the term, the origins of the study or the motivations of the government in disseminating it. The New York Times published an article in April based on the results of the Chinese survey, describing China’s real-estate boom and the pressure on men in China to buy a home in order to find a bride. It says “more than 70 percent of single women in a recent survey said they would tie the knot only with a prospective husband who owned a home” and provides a helpful link to the Chinese survey, but makes no mention about the survey’s extensive descriptions of “leftover women.” Rather, the Times details how Chinese women will stop at nothing to coerce a man to give her a home before she agrees to marry:

With such women on the prowl, even men who do have their own homes have come up with techniques to weed out the covetous and the inordinately materialistic.

It adds that because of China’s sex-ratio imbalance, as many as 24 million men could be perpetual bachelors by 2020: “The marriage competition is fierce and statistically, women hold the cards.”

China’s preference for boys, combined with its one-child policy, has resulted in the abortion of tens of millions of female fetuses. But does the resulting sex-ratio imbalance mean that women really have the upper hand in the marriage market? Although some women no doubt have married for money, I have so far found very little evidence that women overall have turned their scarcity into economic gain. On the contrary, my research suggests that Chinese women have largely missed out on what is arguably the biggest accumulation of real estate wealth in history, valued at more than $17 trillion in 2010, according to HSBC Bank. Many women have been shut out of the explosion of housing wealth because homes appreciating exponentially in value tend to be registered solely in the man’s name. Chinese parents tend to buy homes for sons but not daughters. And women often transfer all of their financial assets to their husband or boyfriend to finance the purchase of a home registered in the man’s name alone.

I believe that a key reason why so many educated women in their mid-20s act against their own economic interests when they marry is that they genuinely believe the government-propagated myth about “leftover women.” These women make excessive personal and financial compromises out of fear that they will never find a husband otherwise.

Why would the government do this? Maybe because China’s leaders are worried about the potential threat to social stability from tens of millions of unmarried men with nowhere to vent their frustration, so they want to marry off as many “leftover men,” sheng nan, as they possibly can. Eugenics may play a role too. The very people the government would like to see having babies are highly educated, urban women, who are increasingly rejecting marriage in neighboring Japan, Taiwan, Singapore, South Korea and Hong Kong.

The Chinese government’s effort to promote marriage has so far been remarkably successful. Li Fang counts herself lucky because she did not become a “leftover woman.” But she has no legal claim to the home she shares with her new husband; the home is registered in his name alone. Because of a recent change to China’s Marriage Law, marital property now belongs solely to the official buyer whose name is on the deed. She does not share a bank account with her husband and does not know how much money is in her husband’s account. She just lost her job as a human resources manager because the company did not want her to take two weeks off for her honeymoon. Rather than ask her husband for more money now that she is unemployed, she says she will continue to draw down her own savings to pay for groceries, clothing and transportation. Does this sound like a “woman on the prowl”?

It’s only a matter of time before Chinese women like her wise up and recognize the “leftover woman” moniker for what it really is: a sexist media campaign by a government facing a severe demographic crisis.

This post was originally published by Ms. Magazine.

 

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194 comments

Olivia Lim
Olivia Lim3 years ago

If I could say one thing to these "leftover women" I'd tell them that no man can give them worth, and not to worry about getting a guy, because self-confidence is more important.

June Lacy
June Lacy3 years ago

thank God I am not Chinese in China......my heart breaks for these women, and every woman dealing with such barbaric conditions and have to call it life.

B. M.
Bette M.3 years ago

China had better worry more about its' smog &
vanishing forests than man of one sex over another.
The only thing that will help China is to leave the forest
trees alone & start passing out the PILL for every girl over
the age of whatever laws that apply to getting pregnant
there.

Down the road are going to be alot of left over kids
from all the communist push to have nothing but
boys. Now the jerks are on a campaign to produce
more women the last I read.
There one billion mouths to feed in China who are
young, old, unmarried & left behind due to cultural
mores. The past rules & social customs on marriage
and child production will come crahing down on the
Chines leaders heads eventually.

Wherever you go there once was a forest.
Plant & protect Danny's trees for life.
Trees are the lungs of the earth.

Iona Kentwell
Iona Kentwell3 years ago

This is disgusting. I am sure there are many smart women in China who will make their choices based on their own needs and wants not based on the fear mongering that is being put forward. Just like our young girls believing they must look a certain way to be acceptable, China will have some young women who believe they must get married by 27 or get "left behind", but logic says with so many more male than female citizens surely it is the men who will be left unwillingly unmarried.

Diana Hudspeth
Diana Hudspeth3 years ago

Women in China could refuse to put everything in the husbands name...or.choose to marry another ethnic group. To me this is a time bomb building...soon someone will wake up...lead- and others will follow.

sarah jaffe
sarah jaffe3 years ago

Ooh, where can I get mine? I want the one with the luxury condo! Sigh...

Why is it the most successful women have poorer chances to pass on their genes, and instead have to end up adopting from a clueless pair who probably got that fetus crunk and stoned for the first trimester? It must be tricky to fit in some breeding on the side when you're going for your doctorate, and then how do you raise the damn thing to be as cool as you are when you're busy raking it in? If only there were a solution to all of this madness, like letting women do whatever the hell they want because our population is too high anyways... I really wouldn't mind being the aunt who is rich as hell and gets to spoil the children and leave most of my fortune to an animal rescue group.

Rina V.
Rina V.3 years ago

If there are fewer women and more men, shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't men be ready to marry 30+ or 35+ ... she can still have children, can't she? (not counting the men/women who do not want to have children at all) Why isn't this sex-ratio skew not shifting in the women's favour?

Antonia S.
Antonia S.3 years ago

Nothing new, men have been playing on women since the beginning of time, it is only when women realize who they are and how strong they really are, and that they could not be here without us, that things will change. Too many women are tricked by government, media, social upbringing etc... I am so glad I grew up around guys and ones that were smart, and taught well by their mothers! It showed me I could do any damn thing they could do except pee standing up, and I could do a whole lot more than they could too! It is so sad to see women bow to men when they should be respected as equals!

sharyn a.
sharyn w.3 years ago

There are enough Chinese women to change this.They have to do it for themselves.The males have shown even with the limited amount of women available they haven't and/or won't change anything.This shows the women have to do it for themselves.Women all over the world are begining to know they have to take that responsibilty on themselves.They must know that other women world wide will support and cheer them on.Even other males will support and cheer them on.

Sheri Schongold
Sheri Schongold3 years ago

I would rather be a "Left Over Woman" than let anyone dictate to me what my married life should be, the number and sex of my child and anything else the government has to say.