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Florida Man Used Dating Sites to Find and Rape Woman

Florida Man Used Dating Sites to Find and Rape Woman

In a tragic story from Tampa, Florida, a middle-aged man named Marcelo Alves was convicted of four counts of sexual battery with a deadly weapon, among other charges.  Alves could face a potential life sentence for violently raping a 22-year-old woman he met on a website called SugarDaddyForMe.com.  Alves claimed that the sex was prearranged and consensual, but it’s hard to believe that sex outside a vacant mansion where one party was wearing a stocking over his head and carrying a large knife could plausibly be considered consensual.

During the trial, the victim recounted registering with the dating website, which advertises itself as a place where men who want to “to mentor pamper & spoil” can meet women wanting to be “pampered” by “that classy, caring and mature partner.”  She said that Alves represented himself as a man named “Mark Garcia,” and that they had chatted several times, discussing the possibility of sex and the exchange of money.  However, when they met, the victim suffered violent sexual assault.

“I kept saying, like, ‘Please don’t kill me,’” the victim testified.

It sounds like the victim was put through a fairly horrifying ordeal during the trial; she was asked if she was a prostitute, and she denied the accusation, saying that she was meeting with Garcia without the expectation of money.  Alves denied this, saying that he had promised to pay $1,000 and when it became evident during the sex that he wasn’t going to pay, the victim threatened to tell the police that he had raped her.

Jennifer Dritt, the executive director of the Florida Council Against Sexual Violence, seemed alarmed by the potential harm that could be caused by rendezvous created on such websites.

“While most online dating relationships don’t end up this way, you really don’t know who you’re talking to,” Dritt said. “I think, potentially, they’re very dangerous. And where money is exchanged, people can have different interpretations of what’s offered and promised.”

It’s fortunate that the media has been keeping the victim’s name private, because the trial illustrates the propensity to blame women for going to “sugar daddy” and “sugar baby” websites in the first place.

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3:30AM PST on Jan 26, 2012

i am very nice looking good girl. I was searching this site i saw your profile at www.care2.com i was delighted to contact you. my Email is (misszanabwilson@yahoo.com)

9:28PM PST on Feb 1, 2011

The girl was stupid. She wanted a "sugar daddy" to bestow money/gifts on her, even though she wasn't actually a prostitute. She found out too late that the man would hurt her to get sex.
A very sordid affair, all around. Be careful out there, girls, on dating sites.

7:04AM PST on Dec 26, 2010

I met my husband on OKCupid, and before that I dated several people I met online. But always always meet in public the first time and stay meeting that way until you feel comfortable with the person. There is a lot of kind of random "hooking up" being arranged online and when young people do that they just have no idea what they could be walking into.

10:36AM PST on Dec 19, 2010

I wonder how many priors he had...how many women have been raped by this man but never reported it (perhaps did not want to be called prostitutes and such by defense counsel). Finally he is going to prison. May he get a life sentence that is essentially a life sentence. He could be eligible for parole after one life time, which I think is 76 years (not 76 years old, but 76 years served) for men now. Sounds fair.

1:53PM PST on Dec 17, 2010

You know people need to use their heads-& as I tell friends even if you meet someone at curch or a party, they can go "baserk" just as fast as an "online" friend or date-EVERYONE JUST NEEDS TO USE THEIRS BRAINS & BE SMART & MEET IN A PUBLIC, VERY PUBLIC PLACE & DON'T GIVE OUT INFO(keep that mystery about you-as they say.)
To sum up in 3 words- JUST BE SMART! :)

8:24AM PST on Dec 14, 2010

Even when you checked every possibility .. you still wont know who you are meeting. Well honestly I never tried it, but people online can be very different from real life.

11:21PM PST on Dec 11, 2010

This is why the first meeting should be safe by meeting in public, and bring a friend or back up just in case. Even if it was a "nice guy", better he walk away and be single than the mean guy raping and then possibly killing you dead.

Please keep signing April's Law petition, and even though this is to stop sex predators against children, maybe this can help set a precedence for adults also.

April's Law petition - http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/worldwide-petition-for-aprils-law-in-the-us/

April's Law state version - http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/aprils-law-wisconsin/

3:11PM PST on Dec 8, 2010

Very scary that sites like these are on the internet. Anyone of age should have the brains to know these particular sites always invite trouble! I despair of the fact the children might be able to get on these kind of sites...thinking they know everything. Disturbing to me!

8:47PM PST on Dec 7, 2010

Oh good grief. After the Craig's list killer and other similar issues, why do people still trust online "friends"?

Social networking sites are favorite hunting grounds for sexual predators.

It could be best to actually meet real people via friends or family. Anyone can lie online about who they are. Scary out there.

6:11PM PST on Dec 7, 2010

Before certain women want to string me up I never said she was sloshed or in a bar. The point about getting sloshed in a bar and going home with some stranger you just met was ANALOGOUS. I'm sure you comprehend what the word means?
The victim is the victim regardless of a foolish choice and No does mean No. Is that clear enough for you or are you just one of these people who doesn't think things through very well? The man in this case is a predator and you and I can only guess what might have happened if he hadn't been stopped.
There are always two sides to a story and it is to one's embarrasment and ridicule to give an answer before one has considered all the facts.

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