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July is National HIV Awareness Month: In Memory of Mike

July is National HIV Awareness Month: In Memory of Mike
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1.2 million Americans live with HIV in the US and, every year, 50,000 more are infected. HIV remains a leading cause of death in some communities according to the Centers for Disease and Control. Yet, for all this, one in five Americans who lives with HIV does not realize it.

The entire month of July has been named the firstNational HIV Awareness Month (NHAM). As Dawn Averitt Bridge, the founder of NHAM and also the founder and chair of the board of The Well Project, says about the need to “re-ignite” the national discourse about the HIV/AIDS epidemic:

Americans have come to view HIV as a terrible problem for the developing world but forget that it also continues to attack our families, friends and neighbors in every pocket of this country. National HIV Awareness Month represents our hope that the U.S. will become a nation where new HIV infections are rare and when they do occur, every person will have access to life-extending care, free from stigma and discrimination.

The NHAM site provides some eye-opening statistics about the global HIV/AIDS pandemic:

In the decades since it was first identified, HIV has exploded into a health crisis for a number of U.S. communities, and barriers to basic health care exacerbate the problem. African Americans represent approximately 14 percent of the total U.S. population but account for nearly half of all new HIV infections, and HIV is the third-leading cause of death for African Americans aged 35-44. HIV is the fourth-leading cause of death for Latina women of the same age group. Men who have sex with men are still the most vulnerable group, making up only 2 percent of the U.S. population but accounting for 61 percent of all new HIV infections.

I still remember how, in the 1980s, AIDS was spoken about in wary, hushed tones, if at all. The AIDS Memorial Quilt was a huge deal, widely publicized, and wearing a red ribbon was a political statement.

I remember how very thin Mike, my husband’s dear friend, an artist, became in the years after learning he was HIV-positive. I remember the bag of medications he brought when he visited us at the beach on the Jersey Shore. I’ll always remember Mike, recalling his own experiences raising his two children, frowning at Jim and me because we talked about our then toddler son Charlie, newly diagnosed with autism, in the third person in his presence. I remember Mike putting Charlie’s stuffed Barney toy on his head as a hat and giving Charlie piggy back rides.

I remember Mike calling Jim in desperation about the pain, like having his skin burn off, from the experimental medications he was taking.

Mike died in January of 2004. We are lucky to have two of his paintings and think about him every single day.

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10:54AM PDT on Jul 4, 2012

And why for MIKE, all aids deaths are a sad state of affairs and the absolute vast majority did not have to happen!

8:49PM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Dude...why is it that now we have to have a month for everything?! I don't understand why we need to worry and shine a bright light on something for a month out of the year when it should be rememebered all year.

12:04PM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Your friend Jim sounds like a great man. I'm sorry he died and that he went through so much pain.

9:56AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

To the many friends I lost, I remember you all. Education is the key to stopping the epidemic. Safe sex, testing and no needle sharing. Thanks Kristina for the article

7:51AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Detlef K.- Ahh yes. Marriage because HIV/AIDS is the plague sent by G-D to get rid of gays and drug users amirite?

You know what else would help stop the spread of HIV? Education, learning safer sex principles, STOPPING RAPE!!!, encouraging people to be tested on a regular basis and to be open about their sexual history with people, to not be ashamed of their bodies or their sexual activities.

Oh yeah, and to Love and Respect yourself and those you choose to have relations with.

7:16AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Detle K, choose one partner, stay with them for life and call it marriage. In a perfect world you would have the right to choose who you love and your constituional rights would be recognized if you were the same sex as your partner....Here is to remembering those who are no longer with us.

6:28AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Em memória de todas as pessoas que tiveram o contágio dessa doença HIV eu sinto muito

6:28AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Em memória de todas as pessoas que tiveram o contágio dessa doença HIV eu sinto muito

5:58AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

HIV could be wiped out, off the planet, in 1 generation.... if people simply chose one partner and stayed with them for life. It's call marriage.

5:22AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

I remember my brother every single day of my life. I know he is with me...

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