Canadian musician Grimes is tired of compromising her morals to make a living and she is tired of being quiet about it. In a recent post on her tumblr page, the 25-year-old musician speaks out about the rampant sexism she confronts in the music industry every day. Here are some of the highlights:
Objectification & Sexualization
“i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction…I’m tired of creeps on message boards discussing whether or not they’d ‘f*ck me’”
“I’m tired of men who aren’t professional or even accomplished musicians continually offering to ‘help me out’ (without being asked), as if i did this by accident and i’m gonna flounder without them. or as if the fact that I’m a woman makes me incapable of using technology. I have never seen this kind of thing happen to any of my male peers.”
Thin is King
“im tired of being congratulated for being thin because i can more easily fit into sample sizes from the runway”
This is What a Feminist Looks Like
“I’m sad that my desire to be treated as an equal and as a human being is interpreted as hatred of men, rather than a request to be included and respected”
I found the post particularly refreshing and brave. Reading it left me with a huge sense of respect for Grimes, but her words also made me really sad and then really mad. This young woman is just trying to live her life and make a living doing what she loves and she has to deal with all this crap, but instead of putting her head down and ignoring these harsh realities, she confronts them head on by writing about them and telling the world.
Would other female musicians agree or do the same?
If you asked Chrissie Hynde from the Pretenders she would disagree:
“Don’t moan about being a chick, refer to feminism or complain about sexist discrimination. We’ve all been thrown down stairs and f*cked about, but no one wants to hear a whining female. Write a loosely disguised song about it instead and clean up ($).”
I respectfully (and wholeheartedly) disagree.
In the same article where Hynde advises female musicians to keep quiet about sexism, Beth Tacular from the Bowerbirds says:
“Women have more power now, and more of us have grown up with mothers and other female role models who were creative and who didn’t allow themselves to be dominated by the men in their lives… I just watched what the women did who I admired, and tried to learn from them.”
Grimes is now one of those role models and I applaud her.
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