One of the shirts reads, “I’m so sorry, but . . .” And then lists the following reasons for doing something wrong, “You provoked me; I was drunk; I was having a bad day; I hate you; I didn’t meant it; I couldn’t help it.”
After seeing the shirt, many found the message highly offensive and linked directly to domestic violence. One woman, Marie Horner, was so angered that she created a Facebook group called STopman in protest.
“Promoting the excuses that men use to get away with abusing women is clearly wrong, whether it’s on a T-shirt or not,” says Horner.
Many agreed and took to Facebook to air their complaints. Topman has since removed the t-shirts from stores and apologized for the design, but the conversation continues on Facebook with those who both agree that the shirt is offensive and those that do not.
Unfortunately, but not too unsurprisingly, the conversation from those who disagree has become pretty offensive itself, especially since many think the group should be disbanded since the shirts have been discontinued.
In response to the negative comments one Facebook group member shot back with, “The recent comments do provide evidence for a couple of things: 1. Some men really fear feminism and the idea of women gaining equality. 2. Those men are very unintelligent.” That goes for anyone who fears the idea of women gaining equality in my book.
Horner has also since commented saying, ”The point of this group is to raise awareness and start discussions about the thousands of people who are victims of violence from people they know and trust. Focusing on the t-shirt aspect is missing the point. The discussion should continue because ultimately the t-shirt has gone but the violence continues.”
The slogan on the second offensive t-shirt reads: “Nice new girlfriend – what breed is she?”
So we’ve got poking fun at domestic violence and comparing women to dogs. Well, I’m clearly offended and to be honest sick of jokes that are not funny and do nothing but disrespect and belittle women.
What do you think? Are the t-shirts offensive?
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