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The Pistol-Packin’, Cigarette Smokin’, Laptop-Killin’ Dad

The Pistol-Packin’, Cigarette Smokin’, Laptop-Killin’ Dad
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Watch this, read some of the the text excerpts on page 2 and then please let us know what you think.  I’ve posted my own thoughts – mostly because I really think this is a topic worthy of discussion – the message as much as the laptop-murdering medium.  Please comment – and maybe we need to try to separate the punishment itself from the weapon of choice as we consider this.

I wish I knew if this guy’s (his name is Tommy Jordan) version of the story is accurate. It’s hard to tell when although “offered a chance to respond” Hannah, at least in his version, hasn’t chosen to do so.   I wonder how many kids said the things in this post to a friend in the “olden days” when there was no Facebook to use for evidence. I am embarrassed by my ambivalence. I want to know more.

The way Jordan talked about “Linda” who cleans their house says a lot about him beyond the fact that he has a gun. Hard work is a currency of respect which his daughter does not understand.  Entitled kids often don’t get the message – try to raise a kid in LA!

So although anyone’s first reaction is to be horrified, I see the laptop shooting more as a piece of theater than a “shooting” by a gun nut. I am writing this at great personal risk to my reputation, but because I think there is a lot to talk about here – not only about guns, but about parents and kids (over-entitled and otherwise) and that weird company that’s about to go public… oh yeah, Facebook.  Read some of Jordan’s full statement, from his own Facebook page:

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10:43AM PDT on Jul 13, 2012

He only appears to me as a redneck controlling loser and a very good example of poor parenting. Shooting a laptop with a gun? And his wife agreed? Must be the bible belt. Somone take his gun away!! His daughter should move out as soon as she can.

10:43AM PDT on Jul 13, 2012

He only appears to me as a redneck controlling loser and a very good example of poor parenting. Shooting a laptop with a gun? And his wife agreed? Must be the bible belt. Somone take his gun away!! His daughter should move out as soon as she can.

12:33PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

correction...better understanding

12:32PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

The long and short of what took place between a father and his daughter seems to have evolved in perhaps a better understand of how hateful actions (daughter) effects a relationship and how healing can only take place when those involved work on that relationship. I watched the recent interview of father and daughter and I have always thought the father's actions were a little far out there, but nothing to criticize him over. I only wish far more parents would pay attention and have the desire to work on relationships rather than the "oh well; she/he is just a kid" scenario.

1:43AM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

Tommy Jordan is good!! He got his point across, and his daughter's attention.

Our son was defiant at that age and thought we owed him everything. Once he got a job and realized how long it took to pay for things, he respected money a lot more.

I am glad to read that Mr. Jordan & his daughter are working things out now.

2:52AM PDT on Mar 12, 2012

I can see his point, but to post it on the internet? Somebody wants attention. He should have just kicked her out. I would have.

2:47AM PDT on Mar 12, 2012

tsk, tsk....

8:24PM PST on Mar 4, 2012

It takes all sorts...

8:27AM PST on Feb 21, 2012

Control freak.

10:55AM PST on Feb 20, 2012

I guess this entire encounter is in the eyes of the beholder.

What I saw, and mind you, this is from a non-parent who generally sides with youth for simpatico' reasons,
was a man who was HURT. Did no one else see that in his eyes or hear it in the slight cracks in his voice?
I know, growing up, that I had the kind of parents who wanted us kids to see them as omnipotent.
That made it really hard to see them as human like I was as a teen. Therefore, it was difficult, if not impossible to have empathy for them. I couldn't understand that they had feelings like me.
Once, when I was 16 1/2, (that half matters for the amount of life experience at that age), my mother let down her guard and in the midst of a screaming fit betwixt us, she disgorged into my face, "YOU HURT ME!!!!!!!!!!".
It was a wake-up moment for me, that I actually had the capacity to hurt her. And I was the kind of person who always would take hurt upon myself to save others from it. So it hit me HARD.
Parents would be a whole lot better off occasionally letting their kids see that they can be vulnerable too. I know it would've changed my relationship with them forever. By that age, they'd already solidified the notion that I was simply a brat. At 54, they still think that.

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