Why We Should Leave Kate Middleton Alone: All Women Deserve a Choice
Of course, as all tabloid news goes, this is just speculation. Nothing has been announced; nothing is certain. Apparently, they came to this conclusion because they got a shot of the back of a dress she was wearing and it was obvious that the seam had been let out a few inches. This is the foolproof, fact-checked evidence on which they are basing their claim. This isn’t the first time a magazine had announced that Kate was pregnant. In November, In Touch made a similar claim. Obviously, that one turned out to be false.
The race to be the first to catch the baby bump is not new in tabloid media — or any media, for that matter. As a society, we are obsessed with celebrities’ life events: weddings, divorces, babies, affairs. You name it, and the media assumes we want to hear all about it. The hurry to announce Kate Middleton’s pregnancy annoys me more than most, however, for a number of reasons.
First, it doesn’t seem fair that the media is crawling all over itself to get a picture of a nonexistent baby bump. The only person who knows if Kate is, in fact pregnant is her, and that means that the only person announcing it to the public — should she choose to — should be her. If she is expecting, she shouldn’t be denied the joy of announcing her news because someone else beat her to it. I understand that being a celebrity means you give up certain expectations of privacy. However, having your life constantly invaded and scrutinized seems excessive to me, no matter who you are. After all, look at what happened to Princess Diana.
Second — and these are in no particular order — is the fact that the media assumes that Kate will have a baby at all. For all we know, her and Will have been desperately trying to get pregnant since their wedding to no avail, and every new pregnancy rumor tears them up inside. Furthermore, for all we know, they don’t want kids at all, and they really wish they could be left alone about it. We all know that women without children are judged ruthlessly. Just the caption on the photo in Star Magazine smacks of judgment; according to the magazine, it has been 16 months since Kate and Prince William were wed, and since then whispers have been flying about “whether or not it will take the couple what seemed like another century” to have a baby. 16 months of marriage seems like a century? I think not.
Which leads me to my third and final reason why these pregnancy rumors need to stop. I got married just a few short months before Kate and Will, and a little over a year after my husband and I tied the knot, people started asking me when we were going to have kids. People also started flat-out asking me if I was pregnant for no apparent reason at all. My friends have had to deal with similar rumors; some of them will call me crying because people just won’t leave them alone about childbearing. It seems that, once we hit a certain age or once we’ve been married for a certain amount of time, we are expected to start producing offspring. Gossipers use the smallest signals to assume a newly married woman is pregnant, too. It could be that the woman in question has gained a few pounds — as it seems to be the case with Kate Middleton — or it could be that she looks particularly tired or that she decided to pass on a certain food or beverage. Whatever the case, the pregnancy rumors fly at the smallest shift in behavior.
This is all on a much smaller scale for us than it is for various celebrities, but the desire to be the first to notice that someone is pregnant remains the same, and the emotional toil it can take on women is the same, too. All women, including Kate Middleton, deserve to be left alone when it comes to our bodies, and we deserve to be treated as human beings, not baby-making machines.
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