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Women Want Men Who Appear To Not Want Them

Women Want Men Who Appear To Not Want Them

Once more, science seems to be telling women that they really like what they can’t have, or at the very least what appears to not want us.  A new study is showing that women still appear the most interested in men who give the appearance of not being interested at all.

Via LiveScience:

Guys, science has a tip for you this Valentine’s Day: Don’t let on how much you like your potential date.

A study using fictitious profiles from the social networking site found that the women who were most interested in a group of men knew the least about whether or not the men liked them.

Under the pretense of studying the potential of Facebook’s usefulness as an online dating site, researchers told 47 female undergraduates that male students had viewed their profiles, along with the profiles of 15 to 20 other women. The women were then shown four men’s profiles (which were, unbeknownst to the women, actually fake). One group of women was told these men had liked them the most, a second group was told these men had rated them average, and the final group was left guessing – they were told the men could either have liked them most or were the ones who rated them average.

It turned out that members of this final group — the ones with the least information — were the most attracted to their potential dates. These women also reported thinking about the men more than the others.

As the Frisky put it:

We like the guys who play hard to get and, nine times out of 10, lead to no good. Tell us something we don’t know. Like how to make us stop. I would like to take these findings and set fire to them. I’m embarrassed for us. Can we just stop being idiotic masochists when it comes to love already?

As for me, this just tells me not to answer surveys on Facebook.


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9:04AM PDT on Sep 13, 2011

"As for me, this just tells me not to answer surveys on Facebook."

Spot on! Try to find a hosting site and have grad students who are proficient in English write the surveys!

8:54AM PDT on Sep 13, 2011

continued ...... Gather more females in equal quantities for each section or what ever "other means" and then I will will give them an educated response. Until then this is BS, and i am glad i am not one of these girls that chase after the unobtainable. The irony is, that many have told me i qualify for this, by simply liking Asian men LOL!!

I dont chase anything or go after anything. If he is interested and want to prove he stance of independent mentality he will come to me. Its not about egos its about strength and individuality.

6:42AM PDT on May 11, 2011

You always want what you can't have.

5:30PM PST on Feb 20, 2011

noted and thanx

1:18AM PST on Feb 17, 2011

This is crazy. Yes, some people want what we can't have. It's the taboo or the unattainable, but it's similar to that teen crush on a celebrity... It's out of reach and we want anyway. Eventually we grow up and hook up with someone who is in sync with us.

3:36PM PST on Feb 15, 2011

Talk about having you wires crossed. It's no wonder dating is such a nightmare.

10:39AM PST on Feb 15, 2011

We (women) are programed from birth to want to be liked (by every one but ourselves).So when someone doesn't we have to make them.

9:21AM PST on Feb 15, 2011

Women are curious when a guy doesn't seem that interested and we want to know what's wrong with us; it's about our self-esteem. Maybe he's a "bad" boy, which interests some of us,!

7:36AM PST on Feb 15, 2011

I agree with David. We are curious why people wouldn't be attracted to us and so we want to "convert" them so that they DO find us's an ego thing.

7:22PM PST on Feb 14, 2011

If a man comes on too strong at first, yes, that can be a turn-off, but after you know each other pretty well and if you (the woman) starts having feelings for the man, if he still doesn't show any kind of interest, I personally would assume he wasn't interested and would try to move on. (Then again, I'm not someone who sleeps around a lot. Maybe it's different if you're promiscuous, or a "princess", or whatever.)

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