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World’s Biggest ‘Pray Away the Gay’ Group Closes With an Apology

World’s Biggest ‘Pray Away the Gay’ Group Closes With an Apology

Exodus International, the world’s largest ex-gay therapy group, has apologized to the gay community for the harm it has caused and announced it will now close.

The apology, written by Exodus International president Alan Chambers, came in a statement issued Wednesday, June 20, under the title “I Am Sorry.”

The statement is a personal treatise on Chambers’ evolution that in the past year saw him publicly state that though he had once claimed he was cured of his homosexuality he, as a married man with kids, still has feelings for other men and recognizing that, in the vast majority of cases, a gay “cure” or, in the parlance of Exodus, “reorientation,” is not possible.

A small excerpt to give a general impression of the apology appears below:

There were several years that I conveniently omitted my ongoing same-sex attractions. I was afraid to share them as readily and easily as I do today. They brought me tremendous shame and I hid them in the hopes they would go away. Looking back, it seems so odd that I thought I could do something to make them stop. Today, however, I accept these feelings as parts of my life that will likely always be there. The days of feeling shame over being human in that way are long over, and I feel free simply accepting myself as my wife and family does. As my friends do. As God does.

[...]

Please know that I am deeply sorry. I am sorry for the pain and hurt many of you have experienced. I am sorry that some of you spent years working through the shame and guilt you felt when your attractions didn’t change. I am sorry we promoted sexual orientation change efforts and reparative theories about sexual orientation that stigmatized parents. I am sorry that there were times I didn’t stand up to people publicly “on my side” who called you names like sodomite—or worse. I am sorry that I, knowing some of you so well, failed to share publicly that the gay and lesbian people I know were every bit as capable of being amazing parents as the straight people that I know. I am sorry that when I celebrated a person coming to Christ and surrendering their sexuality to Him that I callously celebrated the end of relationships that broke your heart. I am sorry that I have communicated that you and your families are less than me and mine.

Chasing this apology came another release just hours later announcing that, after a unanimous board of directors vote, Exodus International will now be closing its doors. The group isn’t entirely dissolving however.

The announcement also mentioned that a new ministry will be opening under the banner “Reduce Fear,” though at this stage the exact nature of the ministry remains unclear other than the given broad mission statement that it will “come alongside churches to become safe, welcoming, and mutually transforming communities.”

Exodus was founded in 1976 and functioned as an umbrella organization that spawned over 120 ministries in the United States and Canada and over 150 ministries across 17 other countries.

It advanced its mainly Protestant, somewhat literal reading of the Bible that homosexuality is sinful and that, if clients are dedicated enough, it is possible that through religious counseling they can “overcome” what they dub the choice to give in to “Same-Sex Attraction.”

While the group initially condemned homosexuality as sinful, it moved away from that in recent years to parsing itself as a group simply there to help those who wanted to change their sexuality because of their religious beliefs.

This might sound reasonable but there’s a snag: there’s no peer reviewed consensus-backed science to support you can change your sexuality. Moreover, the APA and other medical authorities have all stated that affirming sexuality is the proper way to deal with anxiety surrounding sexuality and that “change” efforts, in this regard, are not supported.

As such the ex-gay industry has been fighting a losing battle in recent years.

Industry leaders currently face lawsuits from those who have undergone the so-called therapy and have been harmed by their experiences, meanwhile legislators have moved to ban ex-gay therapy for under 18s. Specifically, Exodus’ reported part in the Ugandan conference that spawned the now infamous Kill the Gays bill has also served to expose an agenda that went far beyond just “helping” those struggling with their sexuality.

While Exodus may be making a change of direction, many of its affiliated churches will continue to, as the New York Times puts it, “attack gay men and lesbians.”

In fact, religious conservatives had already turned on Exodus for its supposed going soft on the issue and this week several commentators have said good riddance while calling for other ministries to rise up and continue the work of peddling the unfounded claim that you can choose to change your orientation.

So, while Exodus International’s remodel and redirection certainly can be seen as significant, the religious right’s profiting off this false therapy doesn’t appear to be ending any time soon.

 

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3:46PM PDT on Apr 23, 2014

oh Alma, your comment is just too ignorant and misguided to even respond to. You have achieved a new level of sad and pathetic.

3:41PM PDT on Apr 23, 2014

Alma - luckily for you ignorance can be cured... but unfortunately stupidity cannot.

2:32PM PDT on Apr 23, 2014

This is such a shame that people have to go thru this deasease being gay is unexpected come on guys keep it real you guys are a shame to society what's going to happen to all our new generation they are all going to become gay why cause there being brain washed to think it's ok.this has to stop please if anyone care about our kid future lets make laws to protect us like banding gay publicity and other stuff.

2:32PM PDT on Apr 23, 2014

This is such a shame that people have to go thru this deasease being gay is unexpected come on guys keep it real you guys are a shame to society what's going to happen to all our new generation they are all going to become gay why cause there being brain washed to think it's ok.this has to stop please if anyone care about our kid future lets make laws to protect us like banding gay publicity and other stuff.

10:24AM PST on Jan 21, 2014

Better late than never to shut down the largest "pray away the gay." I liked the comment "I'd settle for praying away the religious bigots" by Darren M. Rev Vincent T's comment is wonderful!

6:00PM PST on Dec 2, 2013

I'd settle for praying-away the religious bigots.

6:03PM PST on Dec 1, 2013

Lets all Pray away the Gay.

6:58AM PDT on Aug 3, 2013

thank goodness

7:29PM PDT on Jul 27, 2013

"I know two ex-homosexuals, therefore it cannot be genetic". Well, I suggest you educate yourself. Those ex-homosexuals may actually be bisexual. Or, they have forced themselves into denial because they dislike being homosexual. If you believe homosexuality is wrong, fine! I am cool with that, but don't then become sweepingly judgmental on the issue. Frankly, with all the excessive breeding by heterosexuals, populating the earth into near extinction, I think you should focus more on that. The earth is being over populated and our natural resources are being devastated as a result. Holy Scripture says to "replenish", meaning to replace in like kind and numbers. This heterosexual attitude promoted by the Roman Catholic Church that humans should procreate until their organs collapse is pure folly. For all we know, homosexuals may be here to actually create some balance. And speaking of the word "create", homosexuals are among the most creative and productive humans on the planet.

5:34PM PDT on Jul 27, 2013

Asheley, you are publicly displaying your own willful ignorance.

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