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10 Signs You Should Detox Your Life

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10 Signs You Should Detox Your Life

By Tina Tessina, DivineCaroline

Many of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when youíre feeling sluggish, itís also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how to handle it.

1. Frequently late

The cure to lateness is twofold: learn to estimate time better, and get more organized, so you are not delayed by looking for last minute items. Perhaps the most important reason to cure yourself of lateness is that it is rude to others, and costs you their good opinion. If your partner is late, stop waiting! Set a reasonable grace period (eg:15 minutes) and then leave without the other person, leaving a note about how to meet you wherever youíre going. That way, you are not forced to operate on the other personís time schedule. Youíll be surprised at how quickly he or she will learn to be on time.

2. Often angry or irritated

Being easily angered or irritated is a great way to punish yourself. It raises your blood pressure, and tends to create unnecessary problems with others. Anger interferes with clear thinking, and being irritable makes it unpleasant and difficult for others to work or socialize with you. To reform this habit, you must develop more emotional maturity. Understand that your anger is not seen as power by others, but as childishness and petulance. It will lose you far more than you will gain. Learn to slow down, and reduce your overly high expectations. Allow others to be themselves, and donít expect them to march to your drum. Counting to 10 works wonders, as does taking three deep breaths when you are upset.

Taking up yoga, meditation, tai chi, or another calming pursuit will teach you patience. Strenuous physical activity is a great way to burn off excess anger. If none of these work, see a therapist or join an anger management group.

3. Unsure of ability to do something

Insecurity and feelings of incompetence are definitely stressful, but they may also be useful. Find out if you really are unprepared for the task ahead. Donít be afraid to ask questions, or ask for help. Itís OK to be a beginner, even if youíre an expert in other things. If you donít try to pretend youíre better than you are, you will get more help from others. Take it slowly, and allow yourself to learn as you go. Above all, be supportive to yourself, and donít subject yourself to harsh internal criticism.

4. Overextended

Frequently becoming overextended can be a sign of grandiosityóoverblown expectations of your abilitiesóor of trying to control everything. Reduce your expectations of your own accomplishments, and allow others to help you in their own way. In the long run, being a team player is usually more efficient than trying to do it all alone and becoming overwhelmed.

5. Not enough time for stress relief

This is an extension of being overextended, and may be a sign that you always come last in your own life. Learn to schedule time for yourself to relax and to play. If you write personal time on your schedule the same way you do appointments with others, youíll be more likely to actually do it. Join a class or group that meets regularly for a relaxing activity such as dancing, stretching or meditation, or schedule a regular massage, manicure or facial, so youíll have a guaranteed place to relax.

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10:22AM PST on Mar 9, 2013

great advice, thanks.

10:03AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

i am all of the above

9:58AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

thks for share

8:24AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Interesting and insightful. Glad that I can be mellow about things, some making comments can get very angry and abusive if debating another with a different viewpoint.

Stress is very damaging, there is good stress and very toxic stress.

Victims of crime can often feel pessimistic and at times healing the hurt can take a lot of time and personal growth while the perpetrator learns nothing in many cases.

As others have said, take time to smell the roses, tranquil times are very important!

10:16AM PDT on Jul 30, 2012

Detoxing your mind - good idea. I detox my body which, in turn, helps detox your mind.

4:45AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

thanks for sharing

10:06AM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

Good article,thanks for sharing

10:06AM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

Thank You! =)

7:48AM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

thanks. it helps :DD

7:24AM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

Good information

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