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10 Simple Gestures of Kindness with Healing Power

6. My long-distance family drove nine hours to spend a weekend infusing me with strength before I began treatment.

7. My long-distance kids took the time to visit with me, and spread out those visits so I could have plenty of one-on-one time with each of them. There’s no better tonic.

8. Then there are the people I hadn’t heard from in a long time, but who made the effort to call or send an email. I know it was awkward for some of them, and they were truly at a loss for words, but merely making the gesture is powerful enough.

9. Words cannot express how I felt when Care2′s founder, Randy Paynter, decided to “shine one glorious sunbeam of collective love” to “bring a little bit of karmic balance back to the world.” That particular sunbeam was aimed at me and, if I ever underestimated the power of words, I shall never do so again. Nearly a thousand people took the time to comment on the post, others sent a direct email, and still a few more sent cards. Words, when backed by true compassion, really do matter.

10. Friends, acquaintances, and people I’ve never even met have expressed concern through emails, comments on posts, and through Facebook and Twitter. It’s nice to check in and find a cheery note of support waiting like a gentle hug.

Sure, there are some people who surprised me by backing away, but to dwell on that would be a mistake. Those folks have their own problems and it’s not really about me.

Since the diagnosis of breast cancer, I’ve found it easier than ever to focus on the positive, thanks to the thousands of kindnesses, large and small, that have found their way to me.

How does one repay such generosity of spirit? By showing kindness to others, by shining a light on someone else who needs it, by saying a simple, “thank you.” These are not tasks to be checked off a “to do”† list, but a lifetime process.

Thank you.

Living with Triple-Negative Breast Cancer Series
#1 The Lump in my Breast: Meeting the Enemy
#2 Most Breast Lumps are Non-Cancerous: Would mine be?
#3 The Mammogram, the Ultrasound, and “the Look”
#4 The Biopsy and Breast Cancer Confirmation
#5 A New Twist: It’s Triple-Negative Breast Cancer
#6 Before the Mastectomy: Planning for the Future
#7 Mastectomy Day: What it’s like to lose a breast
#8 After the Mastectomy: Unveiling and Staging
#9 Ten Odd Things to Say to Someone with Breast Cancer
#10 Cancer Battle Plan Phase 2: Chemotherapy
#11 5 Things I Love About my Very Expensive Health Insurance

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Author’s Note: This is article is part of a series chronicling my first-hand patient perspective of life with Triple-Negative Breast Cancer. Without being overly self-indulgent, I hope to convey the raw emotion that comes with such a diagnosis… and the process of living with and beyond it. Entries will appear in Care2 Causes and in Care2 Healthy & Green Living. Follow on Twitter @AnnPietrangelo

For More Information:
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9:05PM PST on Dec 20, 2011

Thank you for sharing. This is a wonderful posting for those of us who never really "know" what to do for people who are very ill. I tie myself in knots trying to figure out the right time, and right thing! I feel more comfortable now about getting in touch.

11:46AM PDT on Jun 13, 2011

For any potential "mystery elves" out there, here is a site for chemo caps - it's called Head Huggers.
Head Huggers home page:
With knitting, crocheted and sewn patterns to be found here,

3:43AM PDT on Jun 3, 2011

My dear, I wish you all the best. I am deeply touched by your words and I will ask the Universe for you. Love, be safe, you are loved.

7:55AM PDT on Jun 2, 2011

Hi Ann, Your article brought tears to my eyes. I'm guilty of wanting to do things perfectly instead of just being
spontenious. You've made me realise that I should just DO IT and not worry about anything else. It's the caring that really matters. You really are inspiring.

2:15PM PDT on May 31, 2011

LoVe and Blessings to you!

4:59AM PDT on May 31, 2011

Helpful and inspiring, Thanks for giving those examples of kindness and what they meant to you. --All the best

10:16PM PDT on May 29, 2011

Thank you for the inspiring article. I know that I for one often hesitate to do a favor for someone because it might not be "just right" or I don't have time to "do it perfectly." But now I feel freer to just connect and do a simple kind thing. Thanks again.

9:02PM PDT on May 29, 2011

I have been procrastinating at knitting chemo caps ... but I shall try not to put it off much longer.
In my defence, I have been knitting blankets for the homeless, for the Blankets for Canada (an online national charity).

6:24PM PDT on May 29, 2011

I know that we already have cured any cancerous kinds but our govt keeps all away from us.

6:49AM PDT on May 29, 2011

Amazing, Healing power is jsut cool like that.

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