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10 Things I’d Love to Tell My Younger Self

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10 Things I’d Love to Tell My Younger Self

By Patricia Volonakis Davis, DivineCaroline

I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time:

1. You are at least ten times prettier than you think you are. That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?

2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence. If you don’t have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous, pretend you’re not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.

3. Want to try something new like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow ten different books on the subject. Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number 2.

4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl. Remember the feeling of freedom. If you’ve already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savior that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You’ll stay young until the day you die.

5. In the same vein, cut or potted flowers are never a waste of money. Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.

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10:11AM PDT on May 24, 2013

funny and relieving ))) love #7 ))) thank you! :)

5:37AM PDT on May 4, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

3:42AM PST on Feb 23, 2013

nice one

10:55AM PST on Feb 19, 2013

Love it!

9:23PM PST on Feb 7, 2013

Thanks for this great article. I wish someone had told me about the stomach rule in number 7 earlier, I had to find that one out for myself - and believe me, it's so very true. Never ignore stomach pains. There's always a good reason, and it really is your body telling you something you don't want to hear, but really need to.

11:50AM PST on Nov 10, 2012

Excellent points!

7:04AM PST on Dec 6, 2011

Thank you, that was nice, I'll try to keep them in mind ;)

3:31PM PST on Dec 5, 2011

I liked this! :) There are so many things I think all of us would want to tell our younger selves -- I know I think of what I would do and/or say to myself if I could go back in time quite often (but I usually remember that if I changed how things went in my past, I might not be the person I am today, and I wouldn't want that).

3:03PM PST on Dec 5, 2011

I would have a large sign on the fridge which states: "Youth is wasted on the young, so wise up NOW'.......

3:03PM PST on Dec 5, 2011

I would have a large sign on the fridge which states: "Youth is wasted on the young, so wise up NOW'.......

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