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10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common

10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common

We all want to be happy in some way or another. We strive each day to find the path of happiness whatever we think it is. But some of us come up way short. Some of us make mistakes day in and day out that take us away from the shining beacon of happiness at the end of the tunnel.

Are you striving to find peace? Are you striving to locate that inner glow that you know must exist? Are you coming up short or finding happiness that’s always fleeting? Life is a journey and on it we find what works and what doesn’t work. However, the most unhappy people tend to have a few things in common. If you’re looking to find peace, balance, and joy in your life, here’s what NOT to do. These people have it all wrong:

1. They Hate Their Jobs

You spend eight hours, sometimes much more at work. If you hate your job you can’t help but hate your life because you’re spending 40 out of the 168 hours in a week doing something you can’t stand. What’s worse, we often take our anger from work home with us, bringing that disgruntled attitude into our homes. I’m not saying go out and quit your job tomorrow. Instead, take an aerial view of your life. Why don’t you love your job? What’s missing? Is it the career itself? Is it your boss or your company? What’s your passion? What are you good at? Take time to answer these questions and then make a plan to move towards change, however long it takes.

2. They’re Constantly Worried About Money

Studies have proven that being rich won’t make us any happier. A Princeton University study showed that people needed an annual income of $75,000 per year per household and no more to be happy. Above that amount, more cash has no effect on “emotional well-being.” What this really means is that you need to be able to comfortably pay bills and save without worrying about finances. On the other hand, financial uncertainty does make us unhappy so this is another chance for evaluation. Are you overspending? What can you downsize? How can you minimize your life so that you can afford it? This is in no way an easy question, but it’s part of the journey.

Related: 5 Ways to Change Your Relationship to Money

3. They Don’t Have Any Active Hobbies

Happiness is linked to activity level. You have to move to feel good. What about yoga, hiking, swimming, surfing, biking, or running? Happiness is also linked to doing what you love so find active hobbies that make you happy and get to it.

Related: Get Physical!

4. They Have Wandering Minds.

According to Science News, “[a] wandering mind often stumbles downhill emotionally. People spend nearly half their waking lives thinking about stuff other than what they’re actually doing, and these imaginary rambles frequently feel bad, according to a new study.” The more you can focus on what you’re doing when you’re doing it, the happier you are. Meditation allows you to learn to focus on the present moment so you can actually live the life you’ve been given.

Related: 8 Ways Meditation Can Change Your Life

5. They Commute a Long Distance

A long commute can take a toll on your life and after a while it can really bring you down. How much of your life are you losing in commute? It’s hard on a relationship as well. A recent Swedish study found that divorce rates were higher the longer the commute.

6. They Think “Stuff” Will Make Them Happy

Unhappy people are constantly trying to fill the void by consuming, whether it be alcohol, food, or shopping. But the problem is happiness can’t be consumed, it’s cultivated from within. Meeting desires only brings fleeting happiness.

Related: 5 Mental Habits for Cutting Consumption

7. They’re Lonely

Cultivating relationships is important for both your health and your happiness. And that doesn’t just mean how good you are at social networking. Unfortunately nowadays more than a few of us view our laptop as our very best friend. Single or not, married or not, it’s important to always strive both to make friends and to keep them while also keeping close ties to family.

Related: Loneliness Harms Health: Why You Need Friends

8. They Don’t Like Their Town

So often we feel stuck in our lives. We live in a town that we no longer love and aren’t sure how to feel better about the situation. This is another opportunity to take a step back and ask why you feel the way you do. Is it the town or is it you? Get the newspaper and look into new events, volunteer some place new, or, well, move. Who says you have to live in the same place your whole life? I certainly haven’t. I’ve already tried out Charlottesville, Athens, Washington DC, Florence, Charleston, and Columbia and I’m just getting started.

9. They Don’t Have Pets

Pets serve as support and provide unconditional love that we grow to depend on but at the same time, they don’t disrupt other human relationships, according to a new study. If you’re considering pet ownership, adopt a pet in need and follow this guide to responsible pet ownership.

Related: 6 Health Benefits of Having Pets

10. They Don’t Like Themselves

We make ourselves happy by the way we view life and by learning to enjoy the moment. We make ourselves happy by the way we view ourselves. By opening our hearts we find peace but that peace has to first start off with you. If you dislike yourself, you can never be happy so give yourself a break. Learn to love yourself, you deserve it!

Related:
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6:30PM PDT on Sep 29, 2014

great reminders

2:35AM PDT on Sep 29, 2014

A few people on this site seem to be very limited in empathy and compassion--PEARL D., for one. Being cruel cannot bring you happiness.

Most people never know what some others contend with in their lives. Some have much more difficult lives of hardship. Some have endured childhoods of horrific abuse, which can affect there entire lives, disastrously. Others really try and never succeed. Some people that are happy are very unkind. Some kind people are very unhappy.

Happiness is not always much of a choice for many people. What is easy for some is very difficult for others. Some miserable people can be difficult to be around, but they are really suffering, not because they want to, but for various reasons they can't change, themselves or circumstances. I am not talking about mean, evil souls or bastards, just unhappy ones. Avoid them, if you wish, but no need to be cruel. Consider yourself lucky, if being happy is easy for you. For others, it is not attainable, no matter how hard they try. They often have endured too much suffering, not their fault.

That is why we have suicides. My cousin, who recently jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge was an extremely unhappy person. Yet, he still was bright, kind, talented, generous--a good person. Don't judge so harshly, when you haven't walked in another person's shoes. A good part of life is the luck of the draw.

2:10AM PDT on Aug 19, 2014

ty

3:26AM PDT on Aug 11, 2014

Noted

7:13PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Much of the list makes sense to me, there are certainly a variety of things that can make an individual unhappy. Not liking one's job must be very difficult indeed for those who have to endure that.

I did not really mind a long commute as it was through a rural area and there were a lot of sights to see, along with Nature (except for the Blue Heron that missed my windshield by one inch...) or if driving home in a blizzard that took two hours to get home.

6:36PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

This list makes sense.

6:28PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

good article

1:41PM PDT on Aug 7, 2014

Guilty of 4 of these...

12:39PM PDT on Aug 3, 2014

So true

8:01AM PDT on Aug 1, 2014

Thank you very much for the extremely important simple things of happiness! Especially for the 4th point:)

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