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10 Tips for Finding Peace on Valentine’s Day

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10 Tips for Finding Peace on Valentine’s Day

From Ode Magazine

V-Day isn’t always a delight for everyone. Not everyone has drunk the koolaid of our couple society. More to the point, a lot of us are d-o-n-e with coupledom. What to do?

Tip #1: Acknowledge how you feel about Valentine’s Day even if it’s only in your bathroom mirror. Don’t dwell on it, but tell yourself the truth about it. There are as many responses to this holiday as there are souls. Your feelings are yours, and they’re legitimate.

Tip #2: If you must, throw a pity party for yourself. I mean it. Wallow in how sad, how lonely, how much you fear this will never change for an hour or so. Then put on some wonderful music and dance yourself from pity to peace. (Watch out for these Valentine’s Day No-Nos.)

Tip #3: Mitigate your expectations. Do you have a partner who doesn’t do holidays? Or does them poorly, or with resentment? Okay. What would make you feel precious and appreciated? Either ask for that, or give it to yourself.

Tip #4: Are you single yet longing to be coupled? Here’s a secret for manifesting a soulmate: make space for him or her. Clear out a drawer in the bedroom for your new love. Go buy a new toothbrush and put it in the drawer. On V-Day, make a ritual of buying and writing in a card to your new beloved. Put that in the drawer, too. This process has worked every time I’ve suggested it to a client for 28 years.

Tip #5: Whether you’re in a relationship or not, whether you’re happy in that relationship or not, do something kind for yourself. It could be as simple as bringing flowers to your office or making a contribution to save the planet or the polar bears. Whatever it is, be sure you feel good about it, and let it be your valentine to the world.

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Megan, selected from The Intelligent Optimist

Ode, the magazine for Intelligent Optimists, is an international independent journal that publishes positive news, about the people and ideas that are changing our world for the better.


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3:27AM PST on Feb 12, 2013

Thanks for the article Megan

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4:11AM PST on Feb 10, 2013

Thank you for the article.

5:05AM PST on Feb 7, 2013

That's just a normal day

3:51AM PST on Feb 7, 2013

thanks for the tips

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